SwirlyKoala

Should I call it off??

I am dating this girl for an arranged marriage setup, we have met multiple times(6-7 times) and almost all the time, i paid for it. She did not even attempt to pay or even ask for it.

In another instance, she took me to a mud doll shop yesterday and I had no idea she was taking me there. She chose some mud doll which cost 2k and asked me to pay for it.

It's really putting me off, is it normal or should I call it off???

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SwirlyKoala

Stealth3mo

So, here is the update.

#1 Yesterday we met to have a conversation about what happened. She said, I am not going to split the bill. Instead,

2# My reasoning was, I have only known her for a couple of months, so how should I know if the other person can support me, if the person doesn't care about small things then how would I know if that person will help me in my larger events in life. that's a basic thing right. I believe that, how you do anything is how you do everything.

She doesn't have an answer for that.

SqueakyQuokka

Microsoft3mo

Does she have a job? Or is she dependent on parents?

SwirlyKoala

Stealth3mo

She works as a developer in a IT company

ZoomyMochi

Stealth3mo

Wait a minute "call it off" comments.

As it is an arranged marriage you need to clear about few things .

First, set a meeting with her and be clear about your financial goals to her. Even u r romeo Juliet, proper money management and been clear on it, is atmost important.

If you are looking for a women, who can pay her bills. Be clear of the what with your family too. Don't shy away, it's your damn money!

She should be well aware of where you stand in terms of money.

Some girls are very materialistic beacuse either there spoiled right from childhood or in childhood they were given anything asked by parents. So if this is just a behavioral thing, don't loose her beacuse of this. It can be learnt with proper discussion.

There are few tedtalks which discuss on the important questions to be discussed among couples before marriage.

BouncyTaco

Stealth3mo

I agree. Have a frank chat with her and with parents.

BouncyTaco

Stealth3mo

In any case, making someone buy you things after a few meetings might be indicative of entitled behaviour

PerkyWalrus

5C Network3mo

Just trying saying "running out of cash" for once or twice and you'll see the real face.

SwirlyKoala

Stealth3mo

It happened once, my payment didn't work and she paid for it.

QuirkyBanana

Wipro3mo

Matter of fact is if vibes are matching and u feel that she is the one you want to laugh with, cuddle with hold hands with and share all the ups and down of life then Bro go ahead don't do this tp..... Its ur and only feeling and calling all can jus give viewpoints from their perspective but ur d one with her tell how she makes u feel, has she behaved good, and ofcourse if she asked you to buy wutever and u bought her then its u also took d initiative cmon we dont buy things easily for any tom dick harry some 1 should matter in our life FEELING BRO then comes d money part

JumpyLlama

EY3mo

Move on, she had already taken you for granted.

QuirkyBanana

Wipro3mo

That's normal a girl checks on guys if they can afford her "The Alfha Guy" The Real men n ofcourse to an extent this is Indian history as well no matter the change of time but if u getting the money thing in between I don't see this a long time run... and honestly please b upfront and aware what you want in life not promise and then take ur foot back bcoz definitely a bike has to go on two tyres ek sa nahi chalaga.... 😐
You know why SRK is King Khan not bcoz of Hit movies it's bcoz of expression of love and care... Every women loves that 😉

SwirlyKoala

Stealth3mo

@StupendousNightmare So do men, Men too want someone who can see them as human first and provider later. We are human too, we too have life pressures even more than women. Can't i expect a person be little compassionate how "Its fine, he did many times. Let me do it once" and we men love it. You do it once and we will make sure we will do it for ever.

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