Unmarried men, what is that you seek in your to-be spouse?

A rudimentary understanding of system design and database scaling. Preferably from fintech background. AWS certification and Rust experience is a plus.

Is it unreasonable to expect a good looking girl with no physical past?

Meme game should be strong.

I think about this from time to time, but never penned it down. so here we go:

Non-negotiables:

she should be empathetic towards other human beings, and animals. do not necessarily have to love and pet animals, but ykwim. i absolutely abhor folks who behave rudely with the lesser privileged people.

have a life outside our relationship/marriage. i'd absolutely love it if my SO has good and supportive friends to hangout, without me and her hanging out together.

there would be no "your" and "mine" in the relationship. everything is ours, and both of us would decide how and what to spend in what way.

she should tell me to my face if i'm doing something wrong, or doing something she doesn't approve of. i'll always try to better myself, so i need to be told specifically. i would not like it if she starts resenting what i'm doing, without me knowing about it. there would never be any competition in between us, regarding anything. in whatever thing one person lacks in, the other would complement. there would be no i vs her in any problem. it's she and i, vs the problem. always.

yes, since two families are going to get involved together, there will be people on both sides who will have ulterior motives. they may even comment on the other person, which s/he may not like. both of us should be cool enough not to engage in it, and just move in. e.g. maybe my so's extended family has a person who commented on something of mine which i did not like, i must not engage in front of everyone, and thrash that person verbally. however, if my SO wants to do so, she's free to do it, if she is also present in the situation. likewise, if someone from my family said something horrible to her, in front of families, it's a little better if she doesn't engage herself. i would absolutely defend her whatever the case right then and there, but i should be the one who rebuttals. i've a reasoning behind this.

Leadership like Sonia Gandhi, Diplomatic like sushma swaraj, Enthusiastic like Saina Nehwal, Sensible like Sudha Murti Last but not least

Beautiful like Deepika..

Bas itna sa khwab hai

Not a pessimist but here are the DON’Ts:

Don’t leave wet towels on the bed, don’t dry wet clothes on dining table under the fan at night, don’t get triggered when I clean and re-arrange the house, don’t leave toilet seat down, don’t keep forwarding when we are watching something together, don’t take my tub of popcorn in your hands in the movies when you first told NO for popcorn when I asked kuch khana hai?

Kam se kam Melinda gates jitne paise ho

Someone who is well educated and a city-based working professional. She should have a career ambition and should be willing to build her own identity.

I'm totally fine with she drinking. But smoking is kinda no-no.

Someone who reads books and appreciates art. I find these women super-sexy! It's not a non-negotiable though. I'm fine if the girl has other hobbies too.

Someone who loves travel and backpacking. Bonus points if she is a tough traveler and not a very touristy person.

I'm fine if she has a past. But need someone who values relationships and is serious about commitment.

I have zero expectations on cooking or cleaning. My maid will take care of all that. If she wants to try her hands at cooking I really don't mind.

I'm very flexible in most day to day activities. And I'm fine if she's a nerdy or weirdo as well. Communication and commitment is key. Love can slowly happen.

Someone who can manage her finances and has a decent knowledge about personal finance and financial independence for women.

Hope I am not asking for too much :)

She should be able to order food at restaurants... Talk to the maid... Talk to the staffs scanning bills in the malls.... Literally talk to everyone on my behalf...as I am an introvert.

Simpel requirements. Should be beautiful. Not a feminist. Should reduce my worries instead of increasing them. Communicate.