Confession: I look down upon people sometimes, I hate myself for that
For whatever reason. I have a superiority complex because I’ve done okay relative to my humble roots.
But while I am nice in person, mentally I often feel superior and smarter. And I don’t like that I think that way.
Trying to do away with it, but idk how to succeed :/
- What's the quality that you possess that makes you feel smarter or superior to other people?
- What triggers these thoughts on you? As in, what would some say or do that triggers these thoughts
I have always felt I’m more aware. Versus people who were in my locality, school, etc, I ended up doing better in life than most. And while in the larger scheme of things, it’s not like I’m killing it, I felt like that gave a chip on my shoulder
What triggers these thoughts: just in conversations, social gatherings, talking to people
It’s random
Aware about what? Current affairs / geopolitics / India vs Sri Lanka match score?
Hangout with people who are smarter and doing better than you. You will learn your lesson.
Hmm Very true. I have been in rooms like that. But most rooms that I am in, it is the way it is.
Means you are not mature. You are not thing holistically. Being judgemental and thinking you are superior is a toxic mentality. Try and read books around this, which will Make you humble and non-judgemental.
I used to think same when I was in college and cracked a pretty good paying internship but now down to 1 years spending time with senior Engineers in company, I think I don't know a shit compare to what I was thinking about in college
It's a good sign that you are aware of your complex. Don't hate yourself as not everybody realises this on their own. When you feel like that, try to acknowledge it instead of ignoring it. Slowly over a period of time your thoughts change and see everyone as equal. If you are comfortable, try journaling your thoughts and find the pattern of it. That might also help.
Hey, thanks a ton for saying that Journaling is a great idea, I’ve been wanting to get to it for some time but never did it
I guess being more watchful of my thoughts should be a good thing to do.
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Good advice^ it's futile to fight negative thoughts, they only increase in weight and occurrence. Need to analyse the thought and let it pass. Use anything you can and discard the rest.
For ex - if you realise some person doesn't understand much about geopolitics, change the subject to something else they do know about/are interested in and so are you.
