Confused, lost and directionless ...
Hi Grapeviners, So here's my story. I'm 27 years old. I've accumulated many regrets till now and it is piercing through my chest. My thoughts would be like spaghetti so bear with me. Never tried to be social. Made probably 3-4 friends in my life with whom I'm not in touch with anymore as they raced ahead in life. I remained holed up in my room at my parents home most of the time. The only thing I have to show for is a SWE job which also doesn't really interest me and it feels like a chore to do it. I don't feel excited to wake up in the morning and I wish the time after 12 am becomes still and the morning doesn't come. There are countless thoughts running around in my head 24/7 and the only time they aren't is when I'm asleep. I don't know what I want in life and I don't know what to do. I'm not a very smart guy. I don't get things easily. I don't even remember when was the last time I genuinely laughed with a free mind. Life seems over and it feels like I'm just breathing. For anyone who's thinking why I'm writing all this bullshit here when I know nobody cares is I just wanted to through these thoughts out in the universe and see what comes of it. Good or Bad I doesn't matter. Peace out.
It happens to everyone, just go to gym , pick a passion
This worked for me🤟
It's very common and ok to feel like that.
Tanhayi se pyar kar lo,fir kisi ki jarurat hi nahi padegi. And this is not to demotivate you to get social. Enjoy your space,that's it.
Go on a solo trip. Do long distance running. If you feel.like, go out to an empty place , and shout and cry like anything. Let it out bro...
Pick a hobby, get bored of that, pick another. Don't know what to do, go for a long long walk.
Therapy can help you with these thoughts and find a direction in life.
Also try to pick up a hobby or volunteering engagement; great way to meet people and make friends. Hobby could be fishing, hiking, running, turf football/cricket, etc. You can volunteer at an animal shelter, take classes for underprivileged kids (on weekends) or help environmental organisations.
Yes. All it takes is a passionate therapist to help you get out of this rut.
@DimpledProblem please invest in a good therapist and see the magic happen. (Obviously you'll have to put in the efforts but they break things down so well that it becomes a cakewalk)
Peace out
I feel you bro. Going through the same shit. Unrecognised at work. Once used to like my job but now feels like a formality with no end result. Feel like everyone else is way ahead and better than me.
Get married
And make it more worse 😉
Nah all these problems in this age are because your heart is craving for love. That love from other gender is gonna solve everything. Its all LOVE
Relax. Similar kind of situation although better. I think being social is required. Talking to people around or friends or family always helps. Away from social media will be a boon away from Linkedin as well.
100%. Social media kills your morale instantly.
How to be social w/o friends ?