Double standards?

Ask me anything except my company name, or things that can reveal my identity. I may respectfully choose not to respond to your question based on my own judgement. Here’s a brief intro about me: I’ve worked as both software engineering manager & software technical architect over the last 18+ years on various tech stacks managing backend, frontend and a little bit of cloud. I have seen ups and downs in the software industry. Currently I’m working as a senior architect in one of the product based companies in India.

Hey Folks, On the onset , I would like to welcome all the new members who joined Grapevine over last few days. Grapevine is a nice platform and I really hope all of you will enjoy great conversations and viewpoint on this community . Now to the point why gatekeeping might become essential : I heard some days back , a good man on YouTube posted a video telling his fans about this awesome community. That is why you might have seen outburst of ‘ this is a nice platform ‘ posts on Grapevine. They also thank him in the body of the post xD. Honestly , I am fed up of this non sense posts And my timeline is already cluttered due to this. Now his followers will start highjacking the community. Right now , this being a professional platform , the posts were interactive and decent to read. Now don’t be surprised if you see posts irrelevant to the community. I remember same thing happening with r/developersIndia community some years back and right now , that sub is kinda dead and have repetitive kind of questions which can easily be found if you have taken the effort to search for the posts. Secondly, I won’t be surprised in case their is a difference of opinion with the Guru , people or his followers will start you bashing left , right and centre. I know this post sounds rude and entitled since everyone should have fair opportunity in life , but definition of fair varies as well. I’m very interested in knowing the POV of everyone involved here - may be I am over thinking. But would appreciate your thoughts on this .

Only in India will someone speaking scientific fact and sense against age-old myths can get banned by court orders on X

It's a very Indian mindset to treat or look down upon people who make a lot of money. We find some or the other reason to bring them down. We call them names. Though most of our life problems can be solved by money. Just like there is an American dream I think the Indian dream is to stay middle class and bitch about people who do the hard work. I understand that there are certain classes of people who are truly disadvantaged in terms of caste or patriarchy but for others it's just being lazy and reluctant to change. Bitching about people who are successful just gives them a sense of achievement without actually putting in the effort.

There's this coworker who comes off as extremely aggressive during discussions and individual interactions. This is causing a shift in entire team's environment in the wrong direction. Personally this is causing me to avoid getting into discussions with them. I'm looking for ways to deal with this person and keep the work environment peaceful. Here are some of the observations about their behaviour: 1. Highly opinionated and treat others who have a different opinion as hostile. 2. When someone else is trying to explain something which needs to be explained serially A -> B -> C, and they are interested in C, they get restless and start badgerring with questions about C while the other person is still on A. 3. In discussions, which require a deep understanding of the product, which they do not have yet, instead of admitting that they have doubts and asking questions, they try to act as if they understood it when clearly they didn't because their senior was present. For instance, they paid attention in the beginning and then got busy on their phone during the meeting and when asked if they understood, they just told the agenda of the meeting instead of what was discussed. 4. This is what tipped me off the edge. During a meeting which didn't involve their senior, they got easily frustrated when others were giving an opinion different from theirs and pointing out the issues with their opinion. After a couple of minutes, it turned into a heated argument and they started raising their voice and started making illogical sarcastic remarks. And after a bit of that they changed their tone into rude frustrated disinterest and rudely remarked "do whatever you want to do". So far we have tried to use humor to deescalate the situation. But this is clearly not gonna work in the long run, and their behaviour is getting worse day by day. I am trying to avoid a confrontation with them because it is not my place and I don't want it to get ugly.

I see a lot of folks opening their calendar and offering resume review and career guidance and other things via Topmate. Some are charging like 6000 per hour. And posting that as if they are making some contribution to the community. They are keeping posts as that is their way of giving back to the community as if it's some sort of charity. How the hell is giving back to the community when you are charging 6000 per hour ?? I dont have a problem with people who keep it openly as its a way to earn some money. You are giving your time so asking money for it is not at all wrong in my book But please dont label it as charity for god sake 🙏🙏

Guys - do you think women aren’t as smart/hardworking/motivated OR that the women working around you have been hired for the wrong reasons? Girls - have you experienced sexism at workplace? How do you tell that someone’s behaviour toward you is BECAUSE you’re female?

Keeping my biases aside, I've seen 2 sides of the entire people's behaviour and culture: 1. Locals (folks from the city/state) are known to refer to the ones from other states as "outsiders" or "immigrants". We have seen some extreme cases where the people not from Karnataka are expected to understand Kannada. 2. People from outside, working in Bengaluru seem to complain about things beyond the point 1 instances and keep saying "It's just the weather that's good, everything else sucks". Note: 1. Having more people (especially working individuals) in the city has a direct impact on city/state revenues. These working individuals earn, and spend 2. Flexing "Kannada" by locals (especially service providers) is stupidity. They do realise that if the population drops they'll have lesser business (think, autos and cab drivers asking passengers to know Kannada) 3. People flocking in the city for their jobs, the traffic problems are obvious - if you opt for shared transport (metro, buses), we'll find a slightly relaxed traffic. You flex your two and three wheelers, what do you expect? 4. Outsiders or insiders, we have decided and chosen to stay here by trading off certain things to get benefits (mostly pay and growth opportunities), so it's our choice afterall Why do we still keep bashing and targeting each other 🫠 Love 💞 and Peace ✌🏻