A question to men. I'm assuming men face this more than women
When you put efforts in talking to someone you admire, and the reciprocation is not equal (life is not bed of roses)
How do you handle the hit on your self esteem?
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Accept what it is and move on. Stop talking and get yourself working. You can't control others, just control yourself.
You don't need to wonder what ifs and why, you will just waste your time pondering something whereas the other person doesn't even give a cent.
Soz keep it simple.
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Those who are genuinely interested in you will make efforts and reciprocate. Those who aren't will expect you to always put in effort, but it can get exhausting.
Upto you to decide who is worth your time.
I have read - The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck so I am good either ways
Chal hata sawan ki ghata 😉
Breathe in breath out and let it go...
We man up
On a serious note, you have to be prepared to take a no. Only 10% of the chances you take will convert. Men aren't used to getting approached, so we know that unless we ask, we won't get anything... Be it a job, a promotion, a hike or a date. The most confident men aren't those who just have the highest testosterone, it is the one who keep trying after they have been rejected but still keep working on their game.
We don’t. We are used to getting rejected. It hurts but it happens way more often so we know it’s fine.
I guess be clear about your priorities. And if nothing works out, visit Haridwar or start with the Jyotirlingas. Atleast thats my way to be on ground with reality
With time, one develops the EQ to see if they are gonna reciprocate or not. Hence, now I stop at the point which won't hurt me back.
But before I stop I communicate with the other person and if the other person says "I am busy or not available emotionally or bla bla". Then I move ahead. Otherwise I put down more effort.
Since, your question signs that you MAY Have got hit at your self esteem - then answer is:
A man has to keep on working at himself, taking complete responsibility for whatever happened even if he wasn't part of it. If the war is happening in Ukraine and that is impacting my promotion, still I need to take 1000% responsibility of it. (HENCE I SWITCHED LAST QUARTER, AFTER HEARING THIS FROM MY 6 LEVEL UP MANAGER IN 1:1).
Hence, men have to go up and beyond to take responsibility to uphold their self esteem also, while being ready to put efforts the next time a "potential right person" strikes.