BubblyBanana
BubblyBanana

At what age you guys are thinking for marriage, I'm 27, relative says I passed the age😂

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SleepyNoodle
SleepyNoodle
Student18mo

You're a guy or a girl ?

BubblyBanana
BubblyBanana

F

WobblyBanana
WobblyBanana

Then yes relatives are right. 30 is abs upper limit

DancingMuffin
DancingMuffin

If you wanna go for arrange marriage, get married now, or atleast start looking. It's disgusting but the arranged marriage scene works like a market, and the value tends to drop the closer you're to 30. Options decrease as age goes up.

If you wanna go for love marriage, find someone you love and chill.

SparklyNoodle
SparklyNoodle

Most practical comment in the thread.

WobblyBanana
WobblyBanana

Thankyou. People got no clue of the reality world

DerpyPenguin
DerpyPenguin

Marriage is like Layoff, the earlier you have it, the less scared you become of it.

JazzyLlama
JazzyLlama
Google18mo

Lol. Amazing example.

SqueakyNugget
SqueakyNugget

Omg I love this comment

ZoomyBagel
ZoomyBagel
Google18mo

Woman's fertility is highest between 23-25, not too bad between 25-28. Beyond 30, a woman is doomed on child bearing. Beyond 35, be ready for a mentally challenged kid and other complications in your health. Men age much slower compared to women on child bearing. No matter how much feminists would like to whitewash facts, these are biological truths. Modern women want men with 3 years age difference at Max. Whichever way you look at it, you are heading towards the ineligible age bracket for marriage very fast. You marry only if you want to have kids. Otherwise there is no point of marriage. The "companionship" nonsense that modernity quotes as an alternate purpose of marriage is overrated.

BouncyPretzel
BouncyPretzel

Agree on age bearing. I don’t think so anyone was trying to be feminists here. You gave a blanket statement. Not everyone wants kid. Don’t know if you know but one can also adopt. I know happy couples in their 40s who decided to not have kids. Better to not have baby of someone you don’t love than marrying just for the sake of baby. I hope everything is good with you cos the last sentence makes me worried. Take care :)

BubblyBanana
BubblyBanana

Can't it normalised in society to not have kids if we don't, as in case we can't find suitable till child bearing age, why to pass on trauma to next generation..and India is already on top in terms of population. Also adopting is I think acceptable only if you are making enough money to shut up relatives mouth :)

SleepyHamster
SleepyHamster

Guys there is a biological reason behind this
Only read if you want to have babies

  • female fertility drops after 30s and drops significantly after 35
  • Men see a drop in testosterone, sperm count and sperm mobility by mid 30s
  • the infant is at higher risk of congenital disorders of born to a mother older than 35 These are based on studies spanning 10+ counties and 10,000+ women / men In the new society which has greatly improved women rights the best age to have babies is 28-31 years post that your chances of spending on exorbitant fertility treatments, handling pregnancy risks increases manifold
SquishyTaco
SquishyTaco
UiPath18mo

To add, once you've baby at 35, by the time they're 20 you would reach 55, would be stressful nearing retirement age. Few yrs headstart is always better...

ZoomyMuffin
ZoomyMuffin

Can you source the studies ? Cant seem to find any. A-lot of women give birth to healthy children at even 40.

QuirkyNoodle
QuirkyNoodle

i am 27 .. you are 27 ..let’s shut mouth of your relatives 😄😎.. PS : my ctc is greater than your and mine age 😄

SwirlyMuffin
SwirlyMuffin
Student18mo

🤡

JumpyWalrus
JumpyWalrus

😂😂😂😂😂

GoofyDonut
GoofyDonut

Relatives keep saying that the moment you turn 21 lol.

Marry when you're ready, don't listen to what other say

JumpyPotato
JumpyPotato

29 and unmarried. I just straightaway say 'date karoonga abhi, shaadi 4 saal baad' no matter how conservative the person is

PrancingNugget
PrancingNugget

Bhai kota m kidhar se hai ? And abhi kha hai ?

WobblyBanana
WobblyBanana

M?

FluffyNugget
FluffyNugget
Swiggy18mo

Right now tbh, dating pool falls off a cliff after 30. The good ones have been taken and the ones left are toxic or won’t give you the feelz/chemistry.

WobblyBanana
WobblyBanana

Exactly

SqueakyNugget
SqueakyNugget

Correct

DancingCoconut
DancingCoconut

How do you deal with the continuous jokes about marriage? I'm not that old yet but relatives keep making the same ab teri baari hai shaadi ki hehe type of jokes which pisses me off

SqueakyNugget
SqueakyNugget

Just tell “OK”

SqueakyNugget
SqueakyNugget

And don’t forget to add a fake “smile” after”ok”

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