Confession of a Lost Soul in Bengaluru 💔🌆
Back in college (2020), I went through my first breakup.. She ended things because of her family, and though I respected her decision, it left me shattered. Even today, I still love her and miss her presence in my life. Every time I see couples, hear love songs, or watch romantic movies, those memories haunt me.
To start fresh, I moved from Chennai to Bengaluru(May 2025), hoping to escape the places and memories that hurt me. But here, loneliness has become my constant companion. Everywhere I go – on the roads, in the bus, at the office – I see people in pairs (maybe they're just friends, but who knows). I can’t help but feel like I need someone too, even if it's just a friend from the opposite gender to share my thoughts and fight this emptiness.
But there’s a catch: I’m an introvert. Striking up a conversation with new people terrifies me. So, I tried dating apps like Bumble, Hinge, and Tinder, hoping for a connection. Paid for premium features multiple times, thinking it would help. But I ended up uninstalling them in just three days. Why? Because I’m scared of falling in love again and getting hurt all over. My mind feels so unstable right now.
I even tried starting a meme page to connect with people in Bengaluru. Deleted that too in three days (yes, that’s how "stable" I am). I've thrown myself into distractions—playing badminton daily, extending work hours, learning new IT skills—but nothing seems to work. Those triggers are always lurking around the corner, ready to pull me back into my spiral of loneliness.
For the last four years, I’ve been telling myself: Time heals everything. And even now, I’m still hoping it does.
If you’ve ever felt like this, or have advice to share, I’d love to hear it.
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Book zostel, go out. Travel solo, meet new people, have long chats, do not expect anyone to like you at all.
You'll know if someone wants to hangout with you, how? They'll ask.
Just do this.
If you’re willing to spend money on dating apps, maybe consider spending on therapy instead.
I understand you are going through a tough time. But talking to strangers on a social media app won’t solve things - especially if things haven’t improved after even 4 years of patience from your side.
You deserve to live a fulfilling life and even to share that with someone. But if you are aware that there are things that trigger you, and for the time being you cannot seem to find stability within yourself, please seek professional help.
It’ll not be easy. But it’s better than isolation and continuing to struggle by yourself without making any progress.
All the best!
Thanks for your advice! I’ve thought about therapy but haven’t tried it yet. Maybe it’s time to start. Appreciate your kind words and support!
Make this the standard reply
It's not that deep. Stop romanticizing about being a heart broken soul.
Think of this like when you start to do something you thought was not worth your time but for some reason you do it anyway and slowly but surely you start to like it more and more.
Go talk to girls, get uncomfortable (don't make the girls uncomfy -_°). Do it enough times and you'll be set in no time.