Getting insensitive
Recently, I've grown a spine and have developed a justification "if people don't give a shit about my feelings or if I am hurt, and would rather disregard my views, then why should I care about theirs?"
So having that as a moral justification, I've been hurting people with words. Broken a few relations, but I feel good, for I know I didn't cower in front of them by taking the high road and compromising my self respect every time.
It has its drawbacks, but now people think twice before messing with me.
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You can stand your ground without being a pain in the ass. What you describe is plain selfish. ‘I’ve been hurting people worth words… i feel good’ sadist much?
Drawing boundaries and being a beech aren’t mutually inclusive.
Express your concerns with firm, concise approach no need to go above and beyond to hurt people.
Yes, its selfish, but I am a firm believer in Justice, especially retribution. I believe criticism should be constructive, and any act of someone being a dick to you should be responded with you being an even bigger dick to them.
Kewl
Where do you draw a line though? If you repel everyone you'll be left with no one. Which is worse.
But I do it as a retaliatory measure. If the person hurts me, i hurt them back x10.
I am on the same road. I find it totally fine. I had struggled enough in life for not opening my mouth and taking all shitty behaviour from others. But now i dont justify or i dont feel like justifying. I just walk away.
Drawbacks: My circle is shrinking but i am ok. I do have peace of mind
Don't become the very person you hate most
That's a very bad path, you'd end up very alone... Beyond repair. And you'd realise, you're able to do all that cause the other person is accomodating it.