I’m not voting because it’s not as straightforward for me as any of these options.
I had always been a chubby kid growing up and since I never got attention from anyone (of the gender I’m interested in), I had trouble with self-worth. My biggest insecurity till I was 30 was that I’d never find love and never get to raise kids with a loving partner.
But at the same time, AM matches were only looking at weight and horoscopes, which I vehemently oppose. So I decided after one disastrous/disappointing AM match that I would never go down that path at around 25/26 years of age.
However, in my late 20s, I was still struggling with my career, mental health, financial health, etc. that I put on even more weight and I felt disgusted by myself sometimes. So most of my dates were short-term and never really turned into relationships.
Then from around 31 to 35 (now), I have been working on my financial and mental health, but it has still been difficult for me to get active and fit. But during these years, I think I have finally come to accept that it is likely I will never be a biological parent, though I still have not thrown away hopes of someday finding a partner.
