Topper to Looser ( A failed guy)
Hey Grapes , Hope you all are doing good. Just here to confess my feeling of being lost. 24M here not been able to be a good son to the parents , No focus Just scrolling all day.
As people of my age are killing it in their life when I meet them around I feel very disheartened , Guilt all over and a tag of failure.
I wasn't medicore guy i was doing well in my Academics till 10th . After that I failed drastically Went below 60 percent in 12th and Graduation.
Now life sucks would have done better , Wasted time on something that ain't gonna help in my future. Now It's very hard . If I was below average guy I would have never felt this but unfortunately I wasn't .
Now it's been years I feel why i didn't do well. Why did I waste my time on my stalking girls. Hanging out , not giving the importance to Academics.
" Jee raha hu zindagi Maa baap kai leya maqsad toh kuch bacha hi nai "
Anybody have passed through this phase and doing well in their life.
Please drop your comments let it be an inspiration.
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Hey there,
First of all, big hugs to you. It takes a lot of courage to admit these feelings, and you’re not alone in this struggle. Many people go through phases where they feel lost, stuck, or overwhelmed by guilt—especially when comparing themselves to others. But remember, your journey is yours alone, and it’s never too late to rewrite your story.
You’re already showing self-awareness by recognizing what went wrong, and that’s the first step toward change. The fact that you care about being a better son, about doing more with your life, proves you’re not a failure—you’re someone who wants to grow. And that’s huge.
A Few Things to Remember:
- Comparison is a thief of joy – People may seem like they’re "killing it," but everyone fights silent battles. Social media and surface-level interactions don’t show the full picture.
- Your past doesn’t define your future – Yes, you may have lost focus before, but right now is a new starting point. Small steps forward still count.
- Guilt is useful only if it pushes you forward – Don’t let it paralyze you. Instead, use it as fuel to take action—even tiny ones.
What You Can Do Today:
- Start small – Cut down scrolling by just 30 minutes and replace it with one productive thing (reading, learning a skill, or even helping at home).
- Talk to your parents – You’d be surprised how much healing comes from just sitting with them, listening, or even apologizing. They love you more than you think.
- Forgive your past self – You were figuring things out, like everyone else. Now, focus on who you want to become.
Many people have been where you are and turned things around—not because they had some magical motivation, but because they kept trying despite the setbacks. You can be one of them.
You’re only 24. You have time. And most importantly, you have the desire to change—that’s already half the battle won.
Rooting for you. 💙
Being 24m still ok to restart. I started being serious in life at 28.. so chill no need to dishearten…. U still have lot of time to cover the ground
Don’t forget dhoni still playing at 43😉
If Amazon is a failure and then I don't know what the shit is success criteria, don't rant here for fake sympathy or interaction,it's not worth it.
Yeah, this is just unnecessary engagement at this point.
Companies don't define success, you only grieve for what you haven't received yet, be a company, a person, an experience. Once you get it, only then you can know it wasn't so special that you thought. Also we need to come up from the mentality of defining success from external achievements rather focus on internal fulfillment, joy, peace (obviously a decent financial success is a pre-requisite to enjoy them)
Did i just login using OPs ID and post this ?? Why tf it relates to me perfectly...
Don't give up yet bro..i am just exactly in the same boat as yours. Though I didn't go to college at all, due to financial struggles of my family.
People who were similar to me during my school days are now rocking too..and i am just..dont know what to say..i couldn't take this anymore..
Lets push harder one more time bro..we will see our peak times once again.
Best way is to uninstall the app ,keep only reddit and grapevine this two apps suffice less scrolling and good content instead of cringe instagram dopmine shitt ,
Take up some sport swimming,or gymming or badminton
Date productively not blindly
You ain't really in Amazon right !!
Yes .
I started doomscrolling in reddit now after uninstalling insta 😭
@FlakyNick8 said all right, listen to that bro,
I will add just one line,
Be careful What you say to yourself - never ever say to yourself that you are a failed guy.
What you say to yourself is very important - so saying good things to yourself about you.
By the way I am 30, and got out of the same thing in last 1 year
You are not even middle aged. You have not even attempted mid year exams. Why are you thinking you are a failure by just looking at the slip test results. Trust me, even if you have done well and think of yourself as successful, that is not true either. There is a lot to see ahead. Life proves you wrong / right in time, in the ways you can't imagine.
So true