My life is mess. 32M

Hi, I work at HclTech with in-hand around 60K I have personal loan and parents took homeloan for house construction. We are still repaying it.

My concern is my marriage is fixed and girl is not working and she is not sure if she works after marriage. I have my own life goals and dreams, staying in Bangalore and hustling day and night. I am not yet ready for marriage but my parents are not listening (society pressure).

This marriage expenses end to end coming on us. Girl family is asking for luxurious events and we are unable to do. We already taking loans on our farmland for this marriage. I am begging my family to give me 1-2 years I will save money and we can plan it later. Nobody listening. I talked to the girl and requested her to cancel this wedding but she is not doing it. I told her I have someone else in my mind but still she is not believing. She says I should talk to her parents. that I can't do (I said I will talk to my parents you convince yours) Now marriage date is nearby she is not receiving my calls nor responding to my messages but talking nicely to my family members. She even lied we are talking daily and getting along well.

I am BTech in Mechanical, she is Msc in physics. I tried hard in my initial days of career to become software engineer but I couldn't so I am dreaming to have partner in software field. I wish to come out of this financial trouble and live a peaceful life. I am not materialistic but she is I live simple life she is classy I am introvert she is extrovert I don't have friends she has lots I like to stay in home she loves to explore

She says "I know how to handle you" Whenever we talked in phone I was always acting as red flag so she get scared and cancel the wedding but she is not taking anything serious.

Is this my fate? Am I born to suffer? Will she understand and stays with me after marriage?

I asked her to cancel till last moment if We gets married I am not going to leave you till my last breath.