Dissociate from work
How do you guys dissociate from office shit once you log out and not let your job be your personality. I am glad I joined grapevine so I can write about all the shit that goes on and try and have an actual life outside office.
In the name of hustle we have actually reduced the importance of living life to the fullest.
It comes with mental preparation. Ask yourself, why do you work or think about office after logging out? Is it because you want to impress your manager, be better than your peers, for more money, imposter syndrome, etc.
Have a set goal and work towards that. As long as you get your job done to your satisfaction (not slacking off) then be content with it. You’ll reap rewards for that.
For me, I need a certain amount of salary every month and certain % hike every year and work-life balance. As long as I get that I am content. I wouldn’t care even if my juniors are promoted then or if I’m making the least money in the team.
+1, thanks
This is true, and mostly happens because of the self applied impostor syndrome with what we consider as quantitative measures to who we are i.e. our title, company, salary drawn etc.
The first step is to let go of this mindset, because while we've been conditioned to think that this is what matters your life's purpose imo is simply living to pursue fulfillment. I find it useful to anchor to activities that force you to disconnect. These could be a good exercise routine, an interesting hobby like music or art etc
What anchoring does is that it pushes you to focus more on your activity at the moment and put your mental/physical prowess there to continue it!
Once you've successfully built some discipline and have just started showing up, you focus on building your milestones that help you stay immersed and your mind craves outcomes.
Prepare your mind board, ask yourself what makes you 'you' and what it will take to live your life of fulfillment. Make travel plans, quantifiable goals that you can chase beyond work metrics that help you navigate through weeks or months to achieve those.
This in my mind is what can help you dissociate well. An upside is, my hobbies and other projects have helped more immensely in my professional pursuits than simply my work because people love connecting with others as people they can look upto, who see you as one chasing your own set goals. The outlook and optics completely changes in your favour and you become a more authentic persona to be connected to than everyone else who is just about their job :)
Hope this helps you, drop a reply if you need any suggestions or ideas or want to know what worked for me
Wow thank you for this :))
Remember, your job can be axed the moment your company thinks about layoffs, you are replaceable the next day you vacate your seat!
Are you just mentally not able to checkout or physically too (i.e. u do stuff work related)