Transitioning from Peer to Leader: Need Advice!

I thought my work friends would be happy for my success, but now there's tension and resentment. I'm struggling to balance my new responsibilities with maintaining relationships. Has anyone successfully navigated this tricky transition? What worked for you?

I am currently facing a challenging situation at work and could really use some advice from those with more experience. I’ve recently joined a new project which one of the older team member is handling. However, I’m experiencing some serious issues with his behavior. He frequently blames me for things that haven’t been communicated properly and acts as if he is the boss, which isn’t the case. This has made me feel undervalued and unsure about my own abilities. Is this a common issue? How should I handle this situation? I’m concerned about how it’s affecting my confidence and performance at work. He even told me that I don’t clearly know what is expected from me and I don’t know how to do the tasks better. Any suggestions on how to address this would be greatly appreciated. Since he is much more experienced than me I don’t know what to do.

Hey Grapeviners, I need your wisdom! I'm currently in an engineering team at my company, but I feel like a fish out of water (no learning at all). I’m constantly scratching my head trying to understand tasks and communications. It’s like everyone’s speaking in code – literally and figuratively! My real passion? Data analytics. I dream of diving into data pools, not wrestling with the programming geeks. I've told my manager about my analytics ambitions, but I'm still stuck in my current role, learning things I know I won't use as an analyst. It doesn't even interest me to do a simple google search about the stuff they are using. I want to talk to my manager about: My struggles with the current role. My career aspirations and where i want to go Moving to a data-focused team. Still helping out with my current duties during the transition. Has anyone been in a similar boat? How did you navigate the waters? Any tips on how to have this conversation without rocking the boat too much? Thanks a ton for your help! Cheers ☺

I have one question for everyone. How do you resolve your issues if you have issues with your manager or lead? Or How do you build a trust if the trust is broken because of some delayed work, wrong work, wrong design, or something you did wrong in the past and he/she still judges you based on that but you're now doing better?

What was it like when you first lead a team? What were the challenges you faced? It would be great if folks can share their experiences. What made you get better/ things that you learnt from? Asking this as I'll soon be leading a small team. Would want to see myself as grow as a good leader. Thanks in advance!

I am a software engineer with 3 years of experience .For the first two initial years I was working as a QA in one of the good product companies with a very sorted work life balance . I had recently switched to a BE role in a startup I am very much lagging behind here because of my QA background ,the people here are very much talented and are great problem solvers .How do I reach that level ? I have been struggling to keep up with the pace here and finding it difficult to approach the tasks,even though i have been giving so much of time to work . And the TL in my team have a certain amount of expectations and hence they don't help according to that .(which i feel is fair) How should I approach this and level up here Anyone with a similar background and story please share your experience :) Any advice would really help

I am working as a Software Engineer and aspiring to get promotion to Senior Software Engineer. My manager who use to support me went on a sabbatical, now my team is getting changed for second time in 3 months and the team I was working in from 1 year and wanting to be Team Lead of is sidelining me as I will be moving to new team now. It’s getting tough for me to take lead of anything and people around are not supportive of me being Team Lead even after knowing I am capable of it.. What should I di, should I just keep head down and wait for manager to return and rant to him or just keep poking everyone and snatch ky rights of Team Lead and stay in same team and refuse to change team

In my corporate experience, I have observed two kinds of leaders - 1) A hard task master, very high on IQ but more often than not low on EQ and 2) High on EQ, above avg on IQ. I as a manager/ leader fall under 2) and usually get work done without authority but I do experience at times, some peers and reportees taking advantage of my behaviour In my view, anecdotally I see type 1) leaders succeed more in corporates even if it comes at the cost of facing flak/hate from directs/indirects. One of my previous managers was unpopular for his toxicity but somehow I kind of built a decent bond with him. Once over drinks and dinner, he candidly told me, I'm not here in this organization for making friends and I'm here only to get results and he did deliver on results every year. My question is, can type 2 leaders even climb up the ladder specially where cut throat competition exists. Sometimes I do feel I need to be more like type 1 leaders obviously not at the cost of toxicity - disrespect, shouting etc. What are your thoughts?

Anyone who are leading a team can answer this?

I'm feeling really stuck and frustrated at work lately. Despite putting in my best efforts and consistently performing well, it seems like my manager is feeling threatened by my progress. He’s been rejecting my ideas and work without even reviewing them, and calling me out in meetings for not completing non-priority tasks. The environment has become really toxic and it's taking a toll on me. Has anyone experienced something similar? How did you handle it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.