Think before you speak
I've always been someone who's had to think well before I spoke. Unless it's something I'm very well aware of (ex: my day to day work), I take time, first to make up the words in my head and then deliver. This delay, is something I want to work on. If you've been in my place at some point, what made you change; and improve on your communication? I don't think this is hindering my abilities at work, but it certainly does - in connecting with new people and in all the non-work comms.
-Strong opinions, loosely held.
-Confidence of intent, not dependent on result
-Having a North Star in life
-Vulnerability enough to connect, but not more that shows neediness
-Talk in a language people understand, but from your level.
-rooted in where I am, where I was and where I am going.
The more i improve in these things, the more emotionally secure i become, the better communication becomes automatically.
Kya bolgaya bhai, kuch samajh nahi aya.
I only see 1 way and 2 enhancements on improving communication.
First you need to know what you are talking about, there are no shortcuts here. You can't compress/repurpose/dumb it down unless you are through with the subject matter, bullshitting will take you far but not far enough.
On the enhancements you need to work on vocabulary and delivery. Knowing more words makes you sound smarter and delivery in terms of pitch/pace depending on the audience helps get the message across.
Starting with 3rd point in original ans.
3. North Star in life helps in focus and commitment issues. This helps in communication as when to say no confidently.
4. Showing vulnerability, weakness allows the other person to open up ki ye bhi mere jaisa hai. But overdo it and it goes wrong.
5. Some people understand jargon, some simple language, some deep technical stuff. talk in Whatever way they understand, but add your own value in the words you speak. Give your own perspective, your anecdotes, your understanding of right and wrong in their language, isiliye 'their language, your level'
6. Being rooted means developing family and friends where you live, knowing people across professions, shows confidence and people open up to you.
These things are not directly communication stuff but stuff that makes you more clear headed in life. Social skills follow.
SabChangaSi
Stealth
a year ago
Play a sport and let your frustration out as a first step
