I'm realizing that this is everybody, everywhere.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CzL40RYNTF4/?igsh=NWQ5enkwNjB1bTJu Not saying i agree or disagree, but interesting pov.

I am fed up here as I don't see accountability anywhere. There was a Telugu Movie starring Mahesh Babu where he being CM says, in foreign, people are responsible and accountable and they made their lives beautiful. How amazing, right? I truly resonate with that thought We lack accountability in everything we do. - if something goes right, it's us, if wrong, it's them! - We don't hold our govt politicians on their promises, on delivering things of value - Companies go on screwing us, we don't give a damn. Refunds are processed without timelines, cases in country are backlogged for years and years - We cannot even keep our cities clean, our air pure and our water drinkable and we are least bothered by it - We cannot maintain our own infrastructure like Buses, railways, trains. We fucking are stealing mugs from railway toilets due to which it's chained (wtf!) We don't want responsibility and no one should question us. How are we really supposed to grow? Stringent laws in place helps with accountability of companies who at all times think how can I squeeze more money from people and screw them Accountability keeps everyone in check. Change my view!

I am a mechanical engineer(2017).Later prepared for civil services for 4 years but didn't get through.Currently I am program manager for a not for profit organisation which works to encourage entrepreneurship across India.I have a 2 years experience and worked with NGO's,Not for profits ,e commerce platforms and politicians(MLAs) in these 2 years and have interacted with 1000+ entrepreneurs.I want to switch now but confused about where to apply.Please guide.Thank you.

The obsession I regret the most in my life is the all or nothing behavior. Where, - I'll apply for a job only after knowing everything there is to know for a role. This is why I used to see people with half my knowledge applying and getting jobs and moving ahead in life. I used think it's so unfair that they achieve in all aspects of their life and I in none... - I'll date someone only when I know I am the perfect version that I envision for myself - I'll only take photos when I am in my perfect shape. If I don't have 8 abs, I don't deserve photos! - I'll stop questioning whether I am good enough only when I achieve everything else I am a loser I just was very cruel to myself for my own imperfections! This instilled a fear in me that shattered my spirit, self confidence and self worth. I ended up being afraid to pick anything up. If I couldn't stay course in something and for some reason I wasn't able to do something for a day or 2, my perfectionism mindset said, that's it, I am a failure and I thought, nothing can be done now and gave up This resulted in I procrastinating in things. Why to work hard, I am never gonna make it... I have 100 things to do in life else I am failure but I don't have time to do all that in this lifetime. Perfectionism results in not doing anything! After meeting people, self introspection and podcasts from people, I realised its okay to mess up, its okay to fall down. I should dust myself off and continue! It is so hard now to change yourself after years of disappointment. You need so much positivity and letting go of perfectionism. You need self love and kindness... TLDR - Don't be like an OCD person obsessing over things to go exactly the way they want! Don't reject yourself due to failures/setbacks. Dust yourself off and move ahead! It's okay to be imperfect as long as you promise to be consistent!

I am a product designer with just 6 months of exp now in a product company. My pay her is 8LPA. And the worklife balance here sucks. I'm always working overtime. How do I join unicorn startups with great pay? Should I have to create impact in my current work and talk about it? Or do a personal project? And how much hike can I ask for?

I earn a decent living ~32LPA as a Software Engineer. I really enjoy my work and it is always a joy working with smart people around you. I sometimes wonder if I didn't exist would it matter in the world. At work, I come up with great ideas and insights which my peers appreciate and support, but there hasn't been one thing that they took seriously and moved ahead with. My peers around me constantly belittle me, some unprofessional jokes about my competence and intellect, even though I am actually good at what I do and more. The backhanded compliments and sarcastic replies in front of other people in my company makes me sad beyond belief. It is almost like I give so much of time to this company and although everyone cares about the work I do but no one cares about me. My colleagues constantly try to one-up themselves by bullying juniors and laughing in their glass-walled conference walls. Incidents like these make me want to give up on work. I think the mix of giving all of myself at work(intensity and long hours), constant berating on my competence and the time I spend away from my family and "real" friends(not these fake work colleagues) makes me depressed as fuck. I am now understanding that you can never be happy in life because you can never have all that you want. You will give up something for the other. You think making more money will make you happier but you will just end up losing your sanity.