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I was in depression a few years ago due to unexpected events in my personal life ( I don't want to give too many details, but it is related to family. Nothing happened to me) I have fortunately come out of it, but I still take medication because I don't want to relapse. Not being condescending but I have a good profile, I have studied in top tier institutions (iisc) earning well (30lpa), not beautiful but I know how to groom myself. Every guy I meet be it through friends or parents is initially very interested in me, then I tell them about my diagnosis. They straight up ghost me. Most don't even ask questions to know more. TLDR someone with an open mind and doesn't have a prejudice against mental illnesses.
We. Seek out perfection in others knowing defects in self, seek a similar person like you with defect which will complete you with understanding , nahi toh Vicky donar jaise halat ho jayegi,
The Vicky donor metaphor is way off, but yes, that's what I have been doing. Some guys with mental health issues don't wish to marry a girl with similar problems. They say they want a normal wife. I am not judging anyone's choice for a partner. Just saying I don't consider my illness a defect but there is a lack of awareness about mental disorders even amongst educated urban youth.
Should have similar personality as me. Can't compromise on that. I don't believe in opposite attracts.
This only looks good in movies and books. You don't want to spend life with someone who is very different from you in terms of major aspirations, beliefs and ideology. Compromising means adjusting something for your partner but never your entire personality.
💯 it’s impractical in the long run. You need common interests and grounds to spend time together :)
Is not spineless.
How would you check that?
Can you please explain a little.
Should make money, like me
Should believe in simplicity/minimalist lifestyle, like me
Should respect boundaries not be clingy.
Should have a positive vibe, not always crying or complaining about little things.
Being cool headed, open minded, calm, is a plus.
The taller the better. But not a big deal.
Maybe that's it. 🤷♀️
Where's your answer?
I'm not keen on marriage, feel it is just add on of responsibilities that can be avoided in first place. I do have some expectations though
- Having my own house before leaving parents', irrespective of marriage
- No kids, imagine someone like me having kids of her own 😂
Someone like you? We don't know you as it's an anonymous platform. You gotta explain this a bit better
Empathy - Someone in touch with their feelings. The idea is that there's a safe space for expression and communication.
A strong value system - Someone who knows their non negotiables, has an opinion and a good value system. It's important that there's an overlap in how we look at expenses, savings, building a family, conflict, healthy boundaries etc.
Ambitious - You don't have to be at the top of your game but you take steps to better yourself. Also, money does solve 99% of the problems.
Has interests - Something they're into. A life outside of work. Don't even have to be a nerd about it but something you enjoy doing.
Baaki, you trust your gut and take the plunge.
