SnoozyMuffin

Indian Marriages

Saw a couple of posts on X claiming (read boasting) India’s divorce rate as 1%. If we believe this to be true, I think this is majorly because of the show-off nature of the society. Almost every marriage I’ve known about in last 5 years has loads of adjustments on the girl’s end. Things might be looking so good on out (instagram pics of holiday, social validation of money and wealth) but scratching the surface yields another story. There are issues with in-laws, random expectations for girl and her family, dowry (“gifts”) and what not. Even the best folks (guy) I know in corporate give in to this culture silently in the name of not going against their family. Would like to hear thoughts on this. Are there stories of mid-age/new couples worth considering ideal?

15mo ago

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WobblyBanana

Stealth15mo

Stopped reading at "adjustments on the girl's end" 😳

GroovyBoba

X (formerly Twitter)15mo

Yea such a one sided argument

GigglyNugget

Stealth15mo

🤡

JazzyNarwhal

Stealth15mo

You seem to be heavily favoured towards female. Would have made it a good discussion if you were neutral.

ZippyMochi

Stealth15mo

Average divorce rate does not reflect ground reality everywhere. We have a large population remember. Divorce rate is going above 30% in urban India, which is a more accurate reflection of what's really happening.

Divorces have doubled and tripled in the last 10-20 years in India. Would have been higher if our country was more educated and wasn't suppressed by undue pressure from relatives and family members.

https://www.deccanherald.com/features/a-montage-of-second-chances-963863.html

SwirlyRaccoon

Target15mo

Almost everyone faces some issues and they just suppress it among themselves thinking that it's the right way, and marriage is all about adjustments.

Yes, when 2 people would want to live together, adjustments are required. But often, it's the wrong adjustments that prevails.

This has been the case not just now, but almost all the time, decades back as well.

And the 1% divorce rate is exactly because if this. No one is there to support the person in problem (female/male), and usually their family also asks them to adjust (suppress it) and move on. I mean, what would the society think?

And regarding dowry, there's no shame from the groom's side. I mean, they could beg on streets rather than troubling bride's side. And most of bride's side is no less either, they want to do it for the society.

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