Do court marriage and convince parents from both ends to utilise the wedding budget as down payment for a home. I cannot think of a better outcome than this.

Exactly my thoughts 
 But I guess a big wedding is a dream for many girls, atleast that's what they potray in movies😅

Software Developer

Actually did this. Best decision till date.

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Growth Manager

Senior Software Engineer

Indian weddings became fat after unnecessary parts for included into it like pre wedding shoots, or treating it like an opportunity to showcase social standings. 
 If the wedding are treated how it has to be, then i Dian weddings are not fat. People who talk of using that money for down payment a housing loan will be the first to fly abroad for honeymoon. 
 A wedding is supposed to be religious/social affair. A chance for the family/clan to get together.

Consultant

Best decision for kids indeed but not for parents who have dreamt about the big fat wedding of their kids all their lives. And let’s not even talk about it if you are a single child.

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Software Engineer

I wish all parents can think like that. On the other side, sometimes such (IMP)events bring the families together.

Product Manager

The more I attend Indian fat weddings, The more convinced I am to do a court marriage.

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INR 10-13 lakh spent per wedding in India. 
Average annual household income is INR 4 lakh. 
Assuming 2 households spending, it's 1.2-1.5x their annual income. 
Assuming only the girl's family paying, it's 3x annual income. 
It's absurd how much people love to spend to feed and entertain the people they never want to see in their lives again. 
Also absurd, no big startup in this space. Why is no tech bro/gal conquering the wedding space?

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The weekly why are we not exploiting the wedding industry with some useless startup is here

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Saw a couple of posts on X claiming (read boasting) India’s divorce rate as 1%. If we believe this to be true, I think this is majorly because of the show-off nature of the society. Almost every marriage I’ve known about in last 5 years has loads of adjustments on the girl’s end. Things might be looking so good on out (instagram pics of holiday, social validation of money and wealth) but scratching the surface yields another story. There are issues with in-laws, random expectations for girl and her family, dowry (“gifts”) and what not. Even the best folks (guy) I know in corporate give in to this culture silently in the name of not going against their family. Would like to hear thoughts on this. Are there stories of mid-age/new couples worth considering ideal?

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29,M. I am planning to get married this year. My parents have not accumulated much money, plus i don't want to burden them with the expenses of my marriage, hence I will be sponsoring the marriage on my own. Same is the case for my partner, and we will split all expenses equally.

Now, here comes the twist, our parents wish to retain the "izzat" that they have in the society and want to do a big wedding. The budget that I have been told is minimum 20L. Tbh, I don't want to spend this much. I was looking for something ~ 5L.

People on grapevine, especially the members who married recently, what do you think is a decent budget for marriage. Additionally, could you help out in some money saving hacks.

Budget for marriage

Guys suggesting court marriage, please read the OPs question again. He isn't confused between court marriage or a grand wedding. He wants to understand what the budget should be.  
  
 Groom side expenses 
 Clothing: 70k 
 Jewellery gifted to girl: 2~3L 
 Return gifts (Usually sweets): 1L 
 Stay for guests (30rooms, 2 days): 1.5L 
  
 Bride side expenses  
 Clothing: 1.5L 
 Gifts to guy: 2L 
 Jewellery: 3L 
 Makeup: 30k 
 Return gifts: 1L 
 Stay( Same as groom): 1.5L 
  
 Common expenses 
 Photography (2 days): 3L 
 Venue + Food (2 days): 6~8L (Per plate ranges between 1k to 2.5k in tier cities) 
 Parents shopping: 4L (2L per side) 
  
 Total expense= ~30L for both sides. Now you can decide what to cut and what to spend on.

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Problem: Many individuals desire the celebration of a wedding without entering into a legal marriage.

Solution: A new venture offers personalized wedding-like experiences focusing on dressing up, photoshoots, and memorable moments.

Uniqueness: This concept allows people to enjoy the festivities of a wedding without the legal commitments.

Target Market: The service targets individuals who value the ceremonial aspects of weddings but are not seeking marriage.

Market Proof: An increasing trend showcases interest in unique and non-traditional celebrations.

Revenue Strategy: The venture intends to generate revenue through carefully crafted event packages.

Execution:

The venture plans to develop packages that cater to varying preferences and budgets.
Partnerships with key service providers are intended to ensure seamless experiences.
The focus will be on delivering meticulously curated events that capture the essence of weddings without the legal obligations.

Disclaimer: The creators emphasize their intention to provide a creative celebration option without advocating against marriage. The focus lies on crafting unique experiences without encouraging any unauthorized or misleading actions.

Feedback: The venture seeks insights from the community to understand customer perspectives and preferences and roadblocks if any

Startup Idea 1: Bespoke Wedding Experiences Without Marriage

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how much are you planning to spend on yours ?

Will this happen in India too? Are you folks still planning to have kids?

This is a very interesting topic. I wonder what the impact will be on so many things. 
- People get married later, have kids much much later 
- Effectively you're getting fewer of your "fitter" years with your kid (although lifetime is elongated too) 
- We've added at least 5 years of working as a single guy/gal to our lifetimes. 

Question to the broader community: I don't see most people between 25 to 30 being super happy. Most people actually seem misguided (me/my friends - in some ways). Is this pattern actually harmful for us?

Analyst

The vision of working from scratch to build wealth has made so many families be in middle class
Dowry also pushed families from wealthy to working class
Raising kids as frustrated, tired individuals - Such a shitty arrangement imo

[Controversial] Parents' gen arrange marriages - Mom's father had money, our father had degrees

Dating has become the norm for relationships today, but many don't realize that it's a relatively recent development, prevalent in Western society for only about a century, and it's already causing societal issues.

Previously, Indian arranged marriages were standard (different from forced marriages). Families would arrange meetings between their daughters and another family's sons. If they liked each other, they would soon plan the wedding, marry, have sex, and start families.

Today, individuals are left to find their own partners. If you don't find someone in high school, university, or work, your chances of finding a partner diminish. There's also less incentive for marriage, as sex no longer requires marriage or even dating, leading to more people pursuing sex directly. This has created a skewed dynamic where fewer men pursue women due to competition, turning to porn instead, while women face exploitation by men who have abundant choices.

Ultimately, near 28-30 both genders rush to the arranged marriage system to get them a partner while having their feet dipped on dating apps.

In the US,
This has lead to decreased marriage rates and, consequently, lower birth rates since most births occur within marriages. A decline in families results in a decreased population, putting more pressure on younger generations to support an aging population. Western nations, therefore, rely heavily on immigration, causing additional challenges. Increased single motherhood also correlates with higher crime rates, drug use, loneliness, mental health issues, and suicides

P.S. I'm young and dating too. Just thoughts for a conversation on what the implications of dating for us as a society could be.

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Your description of arranged marriages is incorrect. You are given the option that if they liked each other get got married - which was not the case in the last generation. Often times the meetings was just formality, and my own mother met father on the day of their engagement. So nope, they didn’t have the choice to see if they liked each other, their parents made that decision for them. 
  
 Now take that into today’s scenario, how many people in this generation will willingly marry someone their parents has chosen, without any say in it? None. Doesn’t matter what their income is. You yourself are dating.. why? You can ask your parents to find someone for you, if you believe their judgment. The issue is that we don’t, and people avoid admitting that cos they don’t wanna be seen as someone who disagrees with their parents. 
  
 People are free to do what they like, arrange, love, dating, single, unmarried, adoption with marriage. Literally their choice. Nothing is ruining anything, in fact the recent situation in our country, where there are no laws upheld for rich, unemployed where 40% IITians aren’t placed, religious division - are more of a concern than a person’s personal choice. My 2 cents 🙌🏻

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