Their system cares about doing well in sports, our system doesn’t.

Hardware Engineer

Parents being ok with Sports as an actual career I guess

Software Engineer

Parents being ok with Sports as an actual career I guess- Grapevine

I blame parents for this. Not that coaching centres are saints, they suck the life out of students by making them study 24/7 but the reason that child is in coaching centre is because parents put him/her there.

And every suicide letter I have read from students mentions that they couldn't fulfil parents expectations.

They are the reason their child is in that condition, just because they want to brag and seek validation  from so called society that their child is a prodigy (and want to establish that they are the creator of this prodigy) who went to medical/IIT. And if the child doesn't act acc. to their expectations, they start gaslighting them "We gave you birth" "Maa baap bhagwan ka roop hote hai how dare you blame us Or don't listen to us" 
I once watched a movie (don't remember the name) where actress says "As parent we determine if our child needs tuition classes but at same time we fail to know if he/she needs therapy"

Who do you think is to be blamed? 

Also parents on GV don't push your child if he doesn't want to fly, thinking he has wings, he may fall to death.

The Court was hearing a PIL filed by a Mumbai-based doctor Aniruddha Narayan Malpani who blamed coaching institutes for driving students to death

SC blames parents for Kota suicides, refuses to rein in coaching centres

Who do think is responsible for stress? Parents or coaching mafia?

The root cause of all this is overpopulation and a shortage of jobs. Coaching centers and tough parenting only exist as a consequence of this

Product Owner

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

Always had a fascination for flying objects as a kid. 

If this held true, I would really love to work in the aerospace domain. Building insane drones or UAVs would be awesome, especially after a decent stint in software.

Was reading about this company called Zipline which works in autonomous aerial delivery. Quite insane how they supply medical supplies in Rwanda using gliding drones that are launched across the country.

Stories like these inspire an entire generation to take up engineering and change the world.

What about you all?

[Thread] If all jobs paid the same and qualifications were no issue, what career would you choose instead of your current role?

Product Manager

Welcome to Business Roles's Private Community

You know there are some things that touch your heart and force you to introspect on what you're doing and what you really want to do. Of almost a decade of pretention to like the industry I am in I'm having a mid life crisis and want to really pursue something which I love. Coaching in Football. I don't know if I really will be able to manage it in the current situation I am in.


As someone famously said Before Aspirations comes Limitations. And I think I've had enough limitations in my life to even try to be an aspirant. So now it's time. To see if I can overcome the limitations. So if anyone knows how a 30yo can start with learning more about football and the courses revolving around Football Coaching. Please CFBR.

TL;Dr : how can a 30yo Indian start learning about football coaching with proper certification.

Introspection

Operations Manager

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

It's for the people who stay away from their parents for work.

How do you deal with this guilt of leaving your parents behind when they need you the most? Also, if you have done something regarding this, please mention.

Guilt of staying away from ageing parents

Special Ticket Prices will range from INR 25K to 1.4 Lac if the tweet is legit.

Source: https://twitter.com/ravihanda/status/1673887570491736065?t=m_uMLWvteKXxjholqewusw&s=19

ICC World Cup Ticket Prices

Rant alert: 

Have you felt the same way? How many years of work ex after which you started feeling this way? 

Stability and money I’m grateful for. But I hate the constant comparison and competitiveness among peers/colleagues. Makes me want to quit and do a Teach for India fellowship. A little corporate detox. 

Wish I had become an athlete instead. I know it’s not an easy life, but It’s the kind of competitiveness I’m inclined towards. Not inclined towards the kind where you compete with people to please a company that will never care for you as a human. But people fail to recognise that, lose perspective, and lose themselves too. People have no class in this shitty world. If I have kids, they’re definitely becoming athletes and not entering this hellhole. 

Most ironically, I’m borderline considering an MBA to escape the corporate life for 2 years, but obviously I’m aware I will only get entrenched further in it due to the degree.

Corporate is not for me

Oh man. Just hoping for the day i can quit it all. Right now on the blue pill, but ek din ayega. I'm convinced only sociopaths and people with no personalities can enjoy being in this rut. Lavda build something - it's just about keeping the hamster wheel rolling.

Brand Marketing Manager

I have been a little caught up with numerous things in my life lately and have finally found some free time to open up myself to new experiences. 

I had a wishlist of shows and movies that I wanted to watch but as soon as I start watching them, I get bored and feel like turning it off. 

No, its not the content
No, its not the genre
No, its not the actors
No, its not the taste either

This is pretty ironic as considering the fact that I have spent a fair share of my youth chasing academics and career, my heart had always craved for life experiences. I had to let go of the woman I loved simply because I was too focussed on my JEE. I wont be able to forgive myself for that EVER. It almost felt like I had lost a limb, without which , I would be rendered disfunctional. Thats a separate story tho.

Nothing excites me (yep nothing)
Nothing amuses me 
Nothing feels lively

I have no clue where my life is headed

I understand that as we age, our triggers of happiness change. I have put concious efforts into knowing what those new triggers are. But I cant find any plausible sources of happiness.

I am performing pretty well with my career.
Even got a double digit hike.
But didnt feel that kick of joy.

Have I approached a dead end?

Losing Interest In New Things

Data engineer

I might sound biased but hear me out.

Therepists are cheapstake businessmen/businesswomen anyway.

We are always questioned for sharing stuff

They pretend that they are listening to us but all they care about is their fees. They keep looking at the clock as to when the session would get concluded. They secreatly 

"But why would you blame all the therapists just because yours was toxic?". Nice question.

The moment you open up, they start drawing a perception. That point on, they only look down upon you as a person and consider you a massive loser. They might say the opposite but they dont really mean any of that.

My therapist, she went out of the way to convince me that I dont deserve to be loved. She pointed out that just because I feel too many things at once, I might have trouble emotionally satisfying a woman and should be okay with lonliness. She suggested me to play a sport, not because she wanted me to stay fit, but simply because "being sporty might increase my masculanity". I have never been good at sports (never interested me).  I have always been into music and poetry. I have been composing music since I was 16. I have no regrets. Why would you berate me just because my hobbies dont fit into a certain mould. I have heard enough from other people about not being sporty. 

Victim blaming must be stopped in the pretext of "only you can help yourself" or "work on those factors which you control".

Men cant reveal their problems to their friends and family as they would start judging them. They cant even share such concerns with their romantic partners because of the fear of losing them or sounding incompatible. And voila !
Medical therapy also turned out to be a sham for men.

Continued in the comments

Reason why therapy doesnt work on men

Help your brothers

I'm in late 20's now. 
  
 To my bro's in their early 20's: 
  
 "Please priorities your fitness. Aim to establish a routine and get into a shape you yourself are comfortable with and proud of."

Growth And Strategy

Security Analyst

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I've been trying to login to the NPS portal via both web and mobile app to contribute to save taxes, but this is really the most pathetic portal I've ever seen.

On the web app it says 'Entered and Computed Captcha incorrect' god-damn everytime.

On the mobile app, the payment screen doesn't load.

How are you guys contributing to NPS? Is there any other way apart from the portal? 

One of my friends does contribute to it via ET Money. But I'm not sure if it's safe to do via a private company. What if ET Money dissolves? Does my money get affected too?

 Interested to know what you guys are doing.

NPS portal not working

Digital Marketing Manager

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I am originally from a small town and did my BSc in Computer Science. My relatives and neighbours used to say that I am a good for nothing freeloader who is a "nikamma" - unemployed. It was very hard to find a job back then and I used to have deep anxiety about it. My only dream was to get my fathers appreciation. He is my biggest hero. 

So I started preparing very hard and practiced my skills. The only one who supported me was my mother who used to give me tea even at 3 in the morning while I used to study. Even my own father gave up on me and from time to time he used to say that if you are living under my roof then you have to follow my rules. He also used to say that look at the neighbour's ladka who got a government job and he asked me to prepare for Bank PO.

So I moved out from my town and shifted to Gurgaon where I got a small PG with some money that my mother had given me. I also started freelancing on Fiverr and which led me to improve my communication skills. Finally, when I got my Google offer letter I felt like I made it. It was the best response to all the taunts by people around me. 

I suddenly became a superstar in my town with people congratulating my parents. I bought my mother gold bangles and dad a new watch with my first salary. I was looking at my offer letter today and it reminded me of all the hardwork I did to achieve this moment.

This is the story of my life. In case anyone needs help. I am ready to provide support to aspirants here as a way to give back.

Family said I am good for nothing but I finally I got an offer from Google

This is what 100% of Indian men want to achieve since their childhood. Jewellery for Mom and Watch/Car for Dad. It is an appreciation for all the hard work they put in to help us succeed in life.

I am thinking of leaving my current job and focus on myself, getting to know myself better etc. Currently I have enough money saved for my expenses for next 6-8 months. 
   Everyone I have asked about this say don't leave your job if you don't have another lined up, in this tech winter. I understand their view point. It aligns with what my parents think as well.

Is there anyone who has had done this in the past? Do you recommend this route? Are the consequences far too severe? Does anyone have a different opinion from one stated above?

Anyone ever left job without having another job lying around for their mental peace?

I'm in the same boat, on the verge of quitting, and will most probably take the leap next month.  
 Thanks for the thread. A lot of insights. It has made me confident that I'm not doing anything stupid.

Consultant

Don't work for 70h/week

Yup, those who devote themselves to work inevitably do a disservice to their loved ones. That’s why balance is must

Senior Consultant

1. Real estate (invested value)
2. Liquid cash
3. Other Investments (invested value)

The wealth should not be inherited.

I'm 30. No house, 10L in cash and 5L in mutual funds. No inherited weath.

How much wealth have you created yourself?

Seeing the comment section,I realise I am broke.

Frontend Engineer

Software Developer

Hey folks 👋
I want to utilize this platform to bring everyone to discuss or share. 
What should one involve his/her more time during 24-28 yr span?🤔
I am more interested in knowing where one should spend more time....

Some obv ones - Finance, Fitness, Current Domain..
Isn't knowing basic finace & investing good if you are giving more attention to your domain & not actively investing yourself but via someone or a broker...

What are your thoughts on different aspects?
some useful links or resources would help, too, if someone is actively doing something😁

Thoughts<>Overall

Hi, assuming this app has India’s top 1%, and assuming some of us amass 5-10Cr by the age of 40/45 - and have a kid thats 10 years old by then, would you want him/her to get in the rat race just like you did or study something along the lines of how to make a 10% return on that wealth per year. If its the latter, whats your approach on teaching this to him/her. We built money from the scratch, but our kids can just take it further along. Thoughts? 

Other way to frame it is - if you were gifted 1Cr at the age of 18 - how would you deploy it to make a return while also growing the wealth.

Wealth creation for Next Generation

I have generally seen this either in reel / film life or real life, where people who love what they do, tend to be -
1. Much more happier / satisfied everyday
2. They give way more of themselves into the task not because someone demands it, but because they want to, they enjoy it
3. They constantly improve and be better at this thing
4. They aren't in it for the money. They don't do things or learn more or put more hours because it's paying them, they do it because of the love for the thing. Money is just an add-on

Do you guys have anything like this in life which you enjoy doing so much and can do it without thinking about the money you'd get. This thing shouldn't be something you consume, but something you produce, even if it helps 1 person out, still counts!

Eg. You do coding, learn new things in it, not because it pays you, but because it's what you love doing. You'd probably still keep doing it even if it doesn't pay you anything

What's the one thing you love doing without intention of making money out of it?

During our parents generation, Tuitions were viewed as a Taboo. It was perceived that only the academically weak needed Tuitions.

However all of these changed quickly where we see majority of our generation opting for coaching from Class 8. For today's GenZ, it's a matter of pride if someone gets enrolled in prominent coaching institutes for JEE, AIIMS, CA, UPSC etc.

What do you guys think was the social drivers for such change in attitudes? 
What age did you first opt for Tuition and why do you think your parents accepted tuitions for you?

Parents being ok with Sports as an actual career I guess

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