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So that's what that feeling is?

So that's what that feeling is?- Grapevine

I really feel like doing a lot, but at the same time, I don’t feel like doing anything.


Does this happen to you all as well?

What kind of feeling is this?

Technical Specialist

I have been treating myself like shit lately.

I have 100s of people who root for me but my mind pin points my emotional bandwidth on the ones who only see the "incapable" or "unworthy" side of me. 

Whenever I think highly of myself, a tiny sinister voice creeps in and labels me as "arrogant" or "dellusional" or "overconfident".

PS: I am someone who was at times bullied in school for being too polite (people started to associate it with feminine energy, although now that I am an adult, I feel being softspoken has opened more doors for me than others). This did leave a scar on my self-esteem, given how pampered and protected I was as a child.

How can I stop underestimating myself?

Data engineer

This feeling in my chest is disgusting. I hate it. I do I get rid of it

This feeling.

UX/UI Designer

Can it get any more transactional in nature?

Lawyer

I have been talking to this woman lately at work since the past 2 months (I KNOW dating at workplace isnt a great idea but pasand aagai kya karu) . Currently, we are mere workplace buddies and not in a relationship. 

On somedays she is like really friendly with me and starts talking about her life and I love listening to her. 

On certain days she is extremely unapproachable and feels like a stranger. 

I know mood swings hote etc but why would she ignore me completely on some days while try to engage in meaningful conversations on other days.

It keeps alternating and its very annoying. 

I feel like supporting her on bad days but she doesn lt want that it seems.

Yeh odd even kar kar ke mai thakk gaya hu
I just want her. Every single fckin day of my life. 
She makes my day a little more worthy every time we talk, and I feel when you find such people, you shouldnt let them go !

Mixed signals from my crush

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

Hey fellow devs,

I'm a software engineer and I'm getting tired of the disconnect between the skills recruiters expect and the skills actually required for the job.

In my daily work, I solve problems that are mostly straightforward and don't require extreme problem-solving skills. But whenever I apply for a new role or get approached by recruiters, they always ask for "expert-level" problem-solving abilities, even when the product or service doesn't seem to demand it.

It feels like they're looking for someone to solve world hunger, when in reality, the job is more about maintaining and improving existing systems.

Has anyone else experienced this? Am I just being too salty, or is this a real phenomenon?

Share your thoughts fellow devs.

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Software Developer

Does it also happen to you all that you feel a lump in your throat about talking to your manager when you are about to resign? I mean even if they have not done anything significant to make your life better? I don't understand this feeling of guilt, even if we are sure that it's for our best.

Feeling before resignation

Senior Consultant

I feel it

I've been seeing a lotta posts where men are venting about not being able to find the right girl, so just wanted to know whether it's the same for women too

Here in Bangalore its hard to find a quality guy smh, (emphasis on quality). Dating apps are a dead end and even when you have organic “meet cutes” the men end up saying they want something casual and don't want to commit. 

How do you deal with this? Or rather, how do you distract yourself from these kinda feelings?

P.S:  don't come at me saying “its harder for men” - I'm sure it is lol I just want to know if there are women who also resonate with what I feel.

Women on GV - how do you find the right guy?

Content Strategist

Does this happen with you that when you listen/watch songs and it makes you remember those good times (or harsh times) with your partner or someone you were in relationship with.
This feeling of getting broken again, tears run down from your eyes. (Damn I miss you - waali feeling). But you have already moved on.
Many Anime Films - Your Name, 5 cm per second, I want to eat your pancreas. Makes it even more hard to watch because the feelings come out more strongly then.

But this is what being a human means right. We know we cant be together anymore but those feelings are soo precious and personal.

PS - I love to hurt myself by listening to those songs and movies again and again. Reason being, I never want to forget those feelings ever in my life.

Songs that Makes you remeber the Good Times

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

After Software Engineers, Product Managers, Designers, Data Scienties, 'Founders' looks to be the 5th largest class of user. 

Welcome to Grapevine, y'all! 💪

1000 'Founders' are now on Grapevine

Founder

So I have been looking for projects in my company for around 2 months now.
I gave 4-5 interviews and got rejected in L1 interviews in all for one or the other reason.
Today, after so many days I got a chance to give client interview (happens after L1 interview...in case someone has no idea about it). It lasted 50 mins and I didn't perform well.
After feeling down for about an hour, I'm not feeling well.
I have observed myself that whenever I'm sad/down...I automatically gets better after few hours.
I should be feeling sad for loosing the chance that I got after 2 months but I'm like ....it's alright 🙃

Is this some sort of healing mechanism that my brain has created for me or I'm not sincere or serious about my life??

Is something wrong with me?

Software Engineer

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This feels accurate

Growth Manager

I work with this company run by this middle aged Indian businessman. I get paid 1.5L a month, which is decent. I have 100% remote work. 

When I initially joined, he wanted me to download Timechamp or something on my personal device. Luckily, before joining, I'd confirmed I will not be subject to any sort of monitoring and after much back and forth, he settled for me messaging him everyday in the morning and when I'm clocking out in the evening.

I've only been with them a few months, and I knew this before joining too, but he's very old school and works like that (literally asked me "are you looking for work life balance or are you hard working" before I joined). While the work hours haven't been super crazy (Yes, I've responded to messages and attended meetings at 10 - 11pm, but that's something I'm okay with) but the whole clocking in and out and trust issue thing I wasn't fond of.

Lately, he'd given me an absurdly high designation (think President) and was constantly after me to update it on LinkedIn after asking me not to disclose my affiliation with the company publicly (possibly because I was on an unofficial probation). Lately, for a couple of tasks, he's been getting a little... Passive aggressive bordering on aggressive. Example (absurd, I know, but bhavnaye samjho):

I'm hired for maintenance. He's asked me to find a janitor from Kenya. I have no connections in Kenya, I tell him so. He asks me if I can do it or if he should handle it. I tell him to give me some time, I'll get back to him. I find him 2 agencies in India who will charge us the money and it'll be their headache to make sure the Kenyan janitor comes and cleans the place. He is not happy. He wants to do it "in house" and wants me to find a Kenyan janitor directly. Again he asks me if I can do it or should he do it. I tell him the most I can do is find some options online and give him a list but I can not verify their authenticity, so if he has c
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Am I being an idiot for wanting to quit? (Lowkey Vent, maybe)

I have been a little caught up with numerous things in my life lately and have finally found some free time to open up myself to new experiences. 

I had a wishlist of shows and movies that I wanted to watch but as soon as I start watching them, I get bored and feel like turning it off. 

No, its not the content
No, its not the genre
No, its not the actors
No, its not the taste either

This is pretty ironic as considering the fact that I have spent a fair share of my youth chasing academics and career, my heart had always craved for life experiences. I had to let go of the woman I loved simply because I was too focussed on my JEE. I wont be able to forgive myself for that EVER. It almost felt like I had lost a limb, without which , I would be rendered disfunctional. Thats a separate story tho.

Nothing excites me (yep nothing)
Nothing amuses me 
Nothing feels lively

I have no clue where my life is headed

I understand that as we age, our triggers of happiness change. I have put concious efforts into knowing what those new triggers are. But I cant find any plausible sources of happiness.

I am performing pretty well with my career.
Even got a double digit hike.
But didnt feel that kick of joy.

Have I approached a dead end?

Losing Interest In New Things

Ever since 9th grade, I watch a football compilation video every time I am about to step on the field to play football. ⚽️🏟️

While I’m tying my shoe laces, the music thumping in my ears with cinematic visuals of the most insane football skills ever. 🤯

All throughout my college days as well, before every football game. I used to carry my headphones with me and watch a video. Emulate some flairs and new skills on the field, score long range goals and Shush the crowd. 🤫

Even today, when that time has long gone by, anytime there is a friendly Sunday match between friends. I’m sure to blast some music and just watch football before playing.

And yes, even today I get the same goosebumps as I step on the field and touch the ball. It’s the best feeling ever.

What about you? What’s the one unexpected habit that has stuck with you ever since you were a kid? 🤔💭

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Product Manager

Have lately been exploring switching out from Uber to early stage startups. Exploring founding engineer roles / CTO roles with people I know well

The worst of it has been just the fact that our salaries are hard to match (even with Cash + ESOP, no matter what you do)

Like I know you need to be okay with less cash. But I now feel that it’s such a jump down, I wonder if it makes sense.

And then this feeling forever makes me averse to trying out something big, risky, bold.

It’s a catch-22 situation lol

So that's what that feeling is?

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