Sorry for posting here. Can anyone help me
I think the current phase in my life is the lowest I am already PIPed by swiggy and I have broken up with my gf. Feeling like my life has reached the end. Can't sleep at all specially after the break up. Now I regret for blocking her atleast I should have waited until getting into some company. But now I don't want to go to her due to some personal reasons. It feel sucks. I am not able to focus on interview preparation. I am not in depression but my mental health is shit right now and gets headache daily. Please help me shall I consult some doctor for this or is this okay. I don't have much friends that's why I am asking here I genuinely need help
Sorry to hear what you're going through. It may sound cringe but praying to god helped me during my tough times.
Talk to your parents and siblings if you're on good terms. If nothing helps talk to a psychologist.
I may get flack for saying this, but right now you have a much bigger problem to deal with, i.e. PIP. Start preparing for interviews during weekends and try to finish your office work diligently.
As for your relationship, no one here knows how serious you were about it. If both of you hadn't considered making it long term, I would say it's better to keep things the way they are right now. I had a pretty bad breakup few years back, but now when I look back, all I can do is laugh about the fact that, I was head over heals for such a shitty person.
It's my suggestion and I might be completely wrong and being a d*ck here. You have to decide what's utmost important to you write now.
Prioritize your physical and emotional well-being, then your work, and then someone else. Wish you all the best.
Badbunny
Stealth
a year ago
This is honestly the best advise ♥️ I followed this too when I was pushed in to PIP for no fault of mine. But got back much stronger and sexier 😍
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This is also a phase. This too shall pass! Just believe in yourself, things will change and get better eventually. Focus on fixing one thing at a time, don’t stress yourself. Nothing is more important than your mental health and happiness. Everything else is secondary. Work will come and go so please take some time and think carefully.
This Swiggy just boils my blood. Work culture has gone down the drain and it only adds unnecessary pressure on the employees. This fu*king arrogant leadership gonna regret one day for sure!
Find some time in your schedule to work out. Could either be a gym or at home. I've found workouts to be super effective during a break-up. It helps you sleep, fixed your mental health, plus benefits you physically at the same time.
Hope you feel better soon! :)
Quite agree with this one @TheChosenOne ! Eventually I'm too going through a bad phase, and I stuck to cardio (running/walking) & workouts at the gym.
Benefits:
Refreshes the mind
Connect with like-minded people
Absorb nature
Sense of achievement by finishing that activity
Physical gains(undoubtedly)
Mental gains(gradually)
More focus.
Please keep checking on your physical stability & mental well-being.
Rest everything would fall in place. & yeah, never underestimate yourself. You are stronger than this!
BiryaniEnthu
Stealth
a year ago
You don't know if its depression, do get yourself checked
Let us know how you want us to help.
Refer to roles? Help with interview? Review resume? or just someone to talk to?
God never closes one door...
Without opening 🪟 another
This is the truth there is a reason behind god's plan.
Don't worry everything will be fine after sometime
P.s. : I am not giving Gyan or philosophy quotes something it's truth 🙏
FamousCoil13
Stealth
a year ago
You were a productive employee once and a skilled worker to get hired in Swiggy - It's not easy to crack an interview there. You were also a good man to get a girlfriend. Believe in yourself a little and keep trying for other jobs. It's not easy but it's a phase that shall pass. Immediate requirement is to save for hard weeks or months that is yet to come. Don't go weak on yourself and keep grinding hard.
Mahakavi ji ne kahan hai, life mei naukri aur chokri ke peeche kabhi nahi rone ka. Ek jaati hai toh dusri aati hai. (Repeat this 10 times)
Jokes apart, sorry to hear ur situation. I would suggest to focus on finding employment first. Sleep deprivation is natural when something heavy happening in your life but once u get a job, a big chunk of brain will be free. Take 2-3 days off n start afresh. Think about your parents, family. This isn’t not the end of anything.
Really sorry to hear this. It's important to talk to someone about this, and reaching out to a mental health professional or counselor can be a great idea. consider seeking professional help rather than here.. apps like better help or mood space. Try talking to a close friend or family member in person. Although circumstances are clearly difficult, try avoiding unhealthy foods and get adequate sleep. Stay off doomscrolling on apps and maybe read a book.
Why did you get Pip'ed in Swiggy? Is the work culture at Swiggy gotten worse?
Yes, consult a professional if you can.
Try to get to a better state of mind first. Once you get there, you could start preparing for interviews to hedge against the PIP.
Difficult times can sometimes turn out the be the turning point or the best period of our lives (in hindsight, of course). I hope you get through to better days, my friend. Stay strong and keep at it. Good luck.
Bro, go home and spend time with your family. Just plan what you want to do next once after you feel better. When you're stressing on your current situation and planning you'll plan something impossible and again stress on it. Better take a break until you feel better do nothing. Once you are feeling okay, the preparation and jobs everything will fall in place. One month can change everything. Be positive..
Thing's that helped me during this kind of situation.
1. Workouts,Go to the gym,You'll love yourself
2. Cook something for yourself , learn if you don't know.
3. Never go back to your ex. This is not easy but yes that's the way..
I waste 1.5 years before doing all the above so 😇
If you genuinely want to know how to progress further, take a trip (preferably trekking) to mountains where there is no network connection and be there for 8-10 days .
Pick up a good book or anything you love , forget that you have a life , and just be with nature.
Everything will make sense in a week time and you will know your path and priorities
Detective_Pikachu
Stealth
a year ago
I was in the same boat in February Break Up + Laid Off, Put in most of my time in reaching out to folks for referral and giving interviews. Tried to keep negative thoughts away and Believed in God for turnaround of things which happened eventually.
SabChangaSi
Stealth
a year ago
Please talk to someone professional.
SiriusMcGuffin
Stealth
a year ago
Man this sucks. I was in your exact position few years back. Heartbreak and pip. Although I can’t comment about your relationship.
Really sorry to hear this. I can tell what I did but I don’t know if this will apply to you. I am sorry if it won’t be helpful
There is no real solution to the anxiety and sleeplessness that you feel. I was seeing a therapist and while it helped me figure out things in long term, it was no help in the short term. What did help was hunkering down and just studying for interviews. I was really bad at the interview questions so started picking the easiest ones, knowing fully well that these don’t get asked in interviews. The reason this helped was, it put me in a routine without needing too much will power. That cleared up my head and slowly I got to the point where I could give decent interviews.
If you are in a big company then know that PIP is essentially the company giving you notice period. There is nothing you can do to change that. Bigger people have their money riding on this and they already think their target is achieved. So nothing you do is going to make them lose their targets. The silver lining is they won’t give you much work if you don’t take and then you can focus on studying
I hope this is of some help to you. Best of luck and hope you get out of this soon
You need more family time in such phase if they are supportive. If not, u should start working out little by little for that serotonin boost. Indulge in some healthy feel good experiences like gaming, books, charity, etc. idk man I would be pretty numb in same situation but I’ll constantly remind myself that time heals everything
grapevibe
Student
a year ago
Been there. Allow yourself to heal. Go out for a week and spend time with yourself ( understand this ). Never go back to the old person. Think of it this way. Life is more than a job. You and your happiness matter!
Dude , eat well , don't drink and remember your loved ones before feeling bad about anything. This moment will either make or break your life, upto you. Best wishes
OnADietCoke
Stealth
a year ago
You might need to see someone to diagnose for depression, but personally I have seen many people mistake heartbreak for depression. Your work situation taking a bad turn is just an unlucky coincidence. Take some time to self reflect as to what went wrong both in your personal life and at work and if that doesn't help then find an experienced professional to talk to, or even a trusted friend or family member. It helps more than you think.
As for PIP don't worry about. Keep calm and find another job. We all been there. No company is worth it if they make you feel like shit every waking hour.
Buy some raisin form dark web and take it.. if u want end it and leave.!!
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