Thoughts after children

DINKs, (dual income no kids) have been gaining traction a lot lately. I want to know from the members of gravevine, what are their views on being a DINK couple or a DINKWAD( double income no kids with a dog). From financial prospects like having a huge disposable income to emotional aspects like not having a legacy or going against custom Indian tradition. Do share your thoughts 🤔💭

I'll go first. I became way more patient and empathetic, translating to much improved people skills at work. Please mention the positive changes only. The small negatives are too minor in the broad scheme of things as parents i believe.

Dual Income and No Kids sounds very attractive but advice from people in their late 20s and 30s is probably too biased to be considered sound advice. Wanted to understand how couples who took that decision in their 30s feel today. Do you regret it? Do you feel purposeless? Do you feel lonely? Do you feel the FOMO? And so on.

As a kid, who wasn't extreme ill-mannered, have had my share of beatings I think it is ego satisfaction or let out of anger on something you have produced and feel entitled to use as punching bag But ones who haven't been subjected to those are in a high of their own. Feels like they were God sent for leveling up Earth Hence, extremes. What’s your opinion?

Have you come across westerners celebrating parenthood, respecting the fact that kids chose them as parents. For culture, where sex is comparatively easily accessible - they consider parenting great responsibility Whereas in our country, half the country had babies because their families wouldn’t stop pestering 'to settle' Kids are born with the responsibility of taking 'care' For a place with not-so-great infrastructure, people should really use protection more.

Fellow parents, what's one piece of advice you wish you'd known before having your first child?

Everyone knows about the relatively young median age we have India. So consequently, we are going to be having a burst of newly weds and their subsequent kids. This would also be a generation where we see both parents working instead of one parent staying home(rent ain't cheap). So, few questions to new parents who are both working jobs: What were major problems/stressors you faced in early years of parenting ? (Specifically between 0-2 years of age where babies require alot of care) What parts of early years of parenting strained your work life the most? What parts of the early years of parenting gave you guys the most joy? Would love to know more.

I became a new father like a week ago and I work in hardware. It’s already very hectic and has low reward mechanisms. Within next week I will have to leave my baby & wife in the hometown with better care and attention to earn my living in the city. Its not like my org is forcing me & is calling me, in-fact they are nicest I have seen but wish ke thoda time aur hota with zero regrets.