Traits women look for in men
Women of Grapevine, what traits do you look for in a potential partner?
Trying out dating again, what are red flags I should look out for, green flags that are usually overlooked etc.
Any boundaries, guidelines to navigate early phases?
P.S: Only looking for women to answer :) Saw a similar question by biryanienthu along the opp angle, inspired, hehe.
Sharing what I have heard and learnt from my friends. These are women who are working and career driven / ambitious. So that bias will be there.
Red flags -
- Not investing any time in building a good profile
- Gym / body building obsessed profiles
- Making misogynistic statements on profile / when talking
- Being too intense on any dimension in the first date - e.g. coming on too strongly
- Not having enough interesting things to talk about - having common interests is a plus here
- Not doing company sales pitch / founder sales in the date
Thanks, great answer, very helpful 🎉
From what I've heard and experienced, Red flags:
- One dimensional thinking often along the lines of "imagine if the genders were reversed"
- Projecting their insecurity of their female partner interacting with other men and soon start controlling what they wear around them, who they interact with on social media etc.
- Andrew Tate, Ben Shapiro and Peterson apologists
- This is a tricky one but lovebombing during initial stages to a point where it's suffocating.
- Art they consume like Arjun Reddy and supporting such behaviour or arguments like separate the art from the artists, often turn out to be big red flags
- Making drinking, smoking, gym their entire personalities and thrusting that on to their partner.
- Listening to speak rather than to understand
Green flags:
- Great relationship with their friends especially fellow men. I'm talking about a wholesome group where they support each other and hold each other accountable to grow emotionally.
- How they show empathy to people around them and to service workers etc.
- Admittance that they need help or do not look down upon those who need help.
- Understanding that just because you're in a relationship does not mean you are one singular person but two people who look out for each other.
- How they treat differences of opinions.
Thanks so much for the time you took to type this out, definitely going to revisit this. ✨💜
I think kindness and a good sense of humor go a long way for me! I love when a guy is genuine and isn’t afraid to be himself. I’m also a sucker for someone who’s thoughtful and respects my space. Red flags? Anything that feels fake or disrespectful, for sure. Green flags? When a guy remembers little details about you and makes the effort to make you feel special. I think taking things slow and communicating openly is super important in the beginning. Let’s just keep it fun and easygoing, and we’ll see where it goes! 😊