Signs of a toxic work culture. Only an Indian manager can ask such a question.

Agreed! I was shocked after watching his reply because from January to till now i kept only one sick leave and this is second one but seems he doesn’t have any trust on employees

Software Test - QA

Consultant

Tech Lead

You have shown some signs of cheating in the past

So - yearly there will be 12 days of sick leaves and from 12 days this is my 2nd leave in may ending. If I have shown any previous signs of cheating then why would I take only 1 leave before?

Founder

Business Analyst

Just send a sick leave mail why are you asking for permission

Lawyer

Ask the Manager to come and check personally how sick you are and make sure you Sneeze or Cough on the Manager's Face.

Software Architect

Of course 😉 perhaps the manager is understanding of your need to WFH. Stay open to the possibility of a positive manager.

Computer scientist

"What do you want my biopsy reports?" Would not be considered valid response, but okay "yes" will do.

Systems Engineer

Me : I am not feeling well and have asked for sick leave. Manager : Okay but is this a genuine sick leave?  I was pissed off after I saw this question and What are your views on this guys 😏?

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Me : I am not feeling well and have asked for sick leave.
Manager : Okay but is this a genuine sick leave? 
I was pissed off after I saw this question and What are your views on this guys 😏?

Weired question from manager.

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Indian managers are the best!!

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MediBuddy made Period leaves a joke!

I don’t see anything wrong with this. It’s clear that the agenda is not to give additional leave benefit, but to normalise women taking period leaves. At present,  women usually use a different reason (headache/fever/backache etc) to apply for leave, while the actual reason is period pain/discomfort. Not every step is meant for a material benefit, you have to see the intangible value to the society.

Software Engineer

Partnership Manager

We’re pretty chill. But I’m planning to go for a vacation to Kerala for 10 days almost, and since i told them they have been weird. 
Immediate response was to say that it’ll be tough to manage the project and that long a leave isn’t possible

I debated back and they were like fine.
But since then it’s just been very cold.

What can I do? 🤕

My manager is acting strange since I asked for a leave. What should I do?

Data Scientist

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Do you think sick leave need to be applied before 7 days🤒.

Information Security

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I am not depressed because of work or challenges, but only because of my manager.

As soon I was under this new manager in a new project, I didn't knew my life would get so terrible.

1 The project got  complicated because my manager couldn't understand the technical discussions.

2 Team lead was out in the starting itself because of the unethical or disrespectful behaviour of the manager.

3. Whole responsibility came over me. I did my tasks very well and even got appreciation from client side.
I was expecting appreciation from my manager too but instead got an escalation 😞.

Reason by manager::

1.  I don't provide clear status updates
--> reality:: I provide updates on slack,Dsm,jira every day with full clarity.

2. I take Unplanned leaves 
-->reality:: 2 sick leaves only till now (one leave in one month)

3. Lazy and unproductive and many more
--> reality:: I even help my senior with their tasks and who is doing the project then??

In this way, the manager wants to escalate with any way it finds.

When I tried to have a discussion and asked relevant reason, the manager was quite unable to ans.

My rating is also been spoiled 😮‍💨
Even the upper management is with The manager.

We the team of 3 people from which only I am left, both of them being escalated and forcefully resigned from the company.

I am been torchered with this escalations on a regular basis and I don't know how to tackle this situation.😞😞


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Quite depressed😔

My manager is making thinly veiled threats about me taking all my allowed leaves. 

He took me on a 1:1 today and told me that I took too many leaves last year. Then he said that the leadership is concerned about this and added that while I can take more leaves if I want to, it won't be good for me. He then brought up my promotion. It felt like he was using a pending promotion to stop me from taking more leaves. 

Not sure what I should do. Is this even normal in corporate? I thought our leaves are ours to take but now I'm guilty to take a PTO even for genuine reasons.

Is this okay?

I have applied for leave for 2 days this Thursday n Fri, 
There’s certain important presentation came up on this Thursday.
I said I have lay over for 3 hrs. I will do the presentation in that, no issues from my side.

My manager said, no I don’t entertain such behaviours in my team. If you’re on leave, enjoy it. Don’t think about it work.

I felt weird coz, I have never worked in any org, where managers stops you to work 😅

Kinda a feel weird

Product Designer

Start owning your leaves

This works only  with western managers. India managers will take it to heart and make it an ego issue. The effect will be felt on something else. If the manger is a man, he will let it go if you correct yourself next  time. If the manager is a woman, will never see the end of it. 

Always treat  Indian managers like street dogs. You dont pet them , but you dont throw stones at them either..

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I just found out today I’ve been cheated on by my long term girlfriend who I lived with. Turns out she’s been cheating for a few months but she’s only just told me now because she’s fallen out of love for me and she’s fallen in love with him, so she’s leaving me for him.

She says I neglected giving her the attention she needed because I was so focused on work I forgot to do the nice things for her like bring her flowers, or take her out for dinner or to just show her how much I loved her.

Even though I’m so heart broken and haven’t stopped crying, I do forgive her because it’s true my work hours were bad and because we lived together I kept thinking in my head “it’s fine, ill make it up to her next time”. 

Plus, I was planning to quit my job once bonus comes at the end of this year to find a more chilled job so I could spend more time with her, I truly am ready to leave my job and that was my plan so I was just holding out until then. But now I won’t have the chance because she said its too late she has already lost interest in me and loves him.

But this guy is a software engineer at a FAANG company earning 60-70L a year whilst only having to work 9-5 so he’s richer and has more free time to give her attention. Actually she said he only works around 3 hours per day, he does around 1 hour in morning then 2 hours after lunch and for the rest of the day he’s free to spend time with her, and his company doesn’t notice or mind. So this guy earns almost 3x my compensation for only 3 hours a day meanwhile I’m working 12 hours a day 

She would sneak out whilst I was at work to go on dates with him or round his house and then she would come back to my home in my bed in time for when I arrived from work so I wouldn’t notice. 

Now I feel really broken, I’m in no mental state to be working I can’t think about anything else I have deadline for work today and I’m just sat here crying writing this post. I know men are meant to be strong and hold our emotions together but I really am sad.

I want to ask for 3 days sick leave at work but I don’t know if this normal and acceptable to do? Given most sick leave would be for grievances like the death of a loved one etc.

or am I being a cry baby and I should man up and continue to work?

Data Scientists on Grapevine: Should I Ask For Sick Leave After Being Cheated On

Stop comparing yourself with the new guy, take a few days off and go on a vacation. Given that she lived with you, it must be a strong connection which would take quite a long time to wear off. You'll learn to live with it in a few months. All the best and take care

Product Manager

What the fuck are sandwich leaves???? What is the point of them???

What are the most absurd leave policies you all have experienced/ heard of?

Copywriter

I work in WITCH. There's literally 0 dependency on me at the moment. I emailed HR asking for temp wfh for a few days as I am suffering from some a bit long-term pain (not so much)

I already used leaves as I was hospitalised in the same episode. manager does not have much say as it is the HR taking the decision.

I sent my medical reports (8-10 tests) along with an email request. it's been 2 business days, but there's absolutely no reply whether I'll get it or not! not even a single fucking acknowledgement.

what should I do next?

Why are HRs so lazy?

I am serving my notice period it’s been more than 1 month my mother has an operation yesterday but my hr is saying you can not take leave since you are are serving your notice period. You have to inform week or two week before. How am I suppose to inform emergency early. Am I can no longer service my notice period also cause I have to take care of my mother. Can some one tell who should I say to them,

Worst manager and HR of ey

Frontend Engineer

For context: Weekends are off. So just fri WFH. This is a Series B startup. I am not even asking for a leave but WFH for just 1 day. I joined recently. The only thing I did wrong was possibly informing a little too late.

Want to get opinion if I am overthinking or this classifies as toxic culture in startups where you are expected to push limits above and beyond regularly and sometimes weekends.

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Is this toxic work culture or I am overthinking

Not a great culture, also you don’t have to give the actual reason, instead say due to some unavoidable work or family health reason you will need to wfh. Its a good way of seeing what kind of employer one is, when they also treat urgencies like that. Indians feel they need to give a detailed explanation as to why they deserve wfh or leave, whereas in international companies, you just have to inform the manager.

Senior Designer

Growth Manager

Hi,
I recently went on a vacation and informed my manager (CEO) that I won’t be available for a week. He did not say anything but I could sense that he is not happy.
On my vacation, I get his text asking what’s the progress at work? I Informed him about my vacation but he asks me to work for 1-2 hours ON A VACATION (This is when they promised flexibile work policy) I politely decline to which he doesn’t say anything.
Now, when I’m back, he has started to micromanage and says my work is disappointing according to the standards? I could get that he must be unhappy because a few things didn’t go our way. But, his whole behaviour has changed and he has started acting hostile towards me. I try to ignore and carry on with my work but it gets on my nerves sometimes.
Do I continue silently or should I confront? If yes, then how?

Weired question from manager.

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