What gives you hope even when you are mentally exhausted in your life?

What gives you hope even when you are mentally exhausted in your life?- Grapevine

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Was thinking about our lives. Ever since you are in school, you have something to look forward to. When you’re in 1st grade, you know next year it’s 2nd grade and so on till you finish your undergrad.

Suddenly, you could be everything or nothing at the same time.

Those who are good at this game of eternal growth end up grinding their lives away in the PCM -> Engg -> B-School -> Consulting hell loop.

Weirdly, the determinism in growth fades away suddenly and you see people finally pursuing diverse fields.

Then, the realisation kicks in. You’ve been conditioned to chase eternal growth. That is what brings meaning to you in every part of your life. Today has to be better than your yesterday, or else it feels like you’ve failed.

I wonder how sustainable that is but till then we will continue to throw our youth away. 

My 2 cents: You have a brief moment in history. Don’t spend your 10 years of prime in doing things that don’t bring you any joy. Don’t make the same mistakes all of us make chasing joys because others are chasing them.

Find your own meaning to this eternal growth.

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I have been in this industry for 4 years now and there is not a single day that i hated this place any less. Today 9th August 2023 i am all alone in my room thinking to myself about what’s the point of this? 

I have no life i am all alone and tbh i have no real friends. A few of them that i do have are so far away from me busy in their life. No love life no social life. At 27 i feel wasted, done, finished let me clarify not in a suicidal way. I just feel exhausted my body is breaking down by the day i feel. I am just broken at this point and feel like quitting this profession altogether. I just don’t feel happy. The more i work the more irritated and frustrated i get.
To top all that i have no one to share my emotions with here. Call it whatever you may wanna call a cry for help, a rant or nonsense. I am at that point where every morning feels like punishment. Every night that i go to bed i try to stay positive but i am not able to. I just hate everything. 
I am not a lazy man i work for 10-12 hours everyday and i think now that has finally got to me as i feel finished.
I don’t know if anyone will read it or not i just wanted to reach out to people or anyone who feels like me. Broken tired and just done with everything.

Can anyone explain me what’s the point

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I know it’s a very common question, and impossible to know or answer.
But curious how you folks here rationalize the meaning of life.

Add your age if that’s okay, for good measure

For me: I’m 27, my life’s purpose (or so I think) is to build something that helps a whole lot of people have a better life. And it is to make the people around me - family, friends, strangers happier (the scale of which depends on how successfully I pull this off).

Whats yours? Would love to engage on this :)

Thread: What do you feel is your life’s purpose?

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Started meditating now and use my Apple Watch for guidance. 

I wonder what other people are doing. Because I’m having some rough nights sleeping in due to anxiety.

Avoiding anxiolytics or beta blockers for now. Also avoiding a mental health therapist for as long as I can.

[Thread] How do you deal with stress?

Hey Grapeviners,

Hope you are enjoying your "Ravivar".

Was sitting and introspecting a lot of things.
One thing I came across that I am becoming more and more pessimistic in regards with career , food habits , society, and many more.

With so much uncertainty in jobs , recession , scams in exams not so much optimistic about exams.

So many food pundits giving their gyaan ke yeh mat khao , vo mat khao nahin to aisa ho jayega. Yeh khaane se heart attack rates badh rahe...

Society is just totally selfish. Still contemplating what happened in UP 😂😂.

What should I do to become optimistic. I can also not ignore these things as jo bhi hain I find some sort of truth in it..

Mobile dekhna band bhi nahin kar sakta as it will transport me to cave ages.

What do you guyz do to keep yourself "hopeful" and can say "the things which you look forward in future".

Opinion: Digital Age has made us pessimistic?

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I joined AmEx Gurgaon in 2015 in PoS Fraud Strategy as a Business Analyst. I was having a rough time at AmEx as I really wanted to pursue my passion of Mathematics in the US. I had secured an admit at Univeristy of Illinois - Urbana Champaign and UT-Austin in their MS programme and was totally checked out at work.

During my tenure at AmEx, I was mostly bored. Looking at internal tools and spreadsheets was the worst. This coupled with the fact that I was travelling to and fro between Noida and Gurgaon meant that I was commuting a solid 4 hours everyday.

In this time of mental agony, I met this charismatic young woman, she was an Analyst in the Credit Underwriting Team. I don't know what got into me and I asked her out to coffee. We went to the Starbucks in CyberHub the next morning and she was the most delightful personality ever. Sweet and elegant, she talked of her passion with vigour, from her ideals to writing poems. I left that conversation feeling uneasy though. 

She reminded me of what I wanted but also of what I was scared to lose in her. 

We continued to date for the next 6 months in a hush-hush manner to avoid any suspicion at AmEx. I had to start the process of getting my F1-visa for the US and when I told her about it she was extremely disheartened.

In my heart, I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my days with her and life without her was nothing but an empty void. She came with me to the US Consulate Office, and I don't know what got into me but I kissed her.

I knew that I wanted her more than anything else. 

Decided not to give the Visa Interview and applied to ISB with my GRE score. Got into it and ended up becoming a Management Consultant in MBB. 

We got married in 2019 and welcomed our daughter into this world in 2021. 

I wonder what life would've been living in the US. But whatever it would be, it couldn't be better than being in her arms when we come back from work. 

Have faith. Everything will turn out to be okay. Trust the process

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I watched "Life in a Metro" movie recently.
There's a scene where Konkona describes what she expects in her perfect would be husband. 

Movie clip(in Hindi) - https://youtu.be/wpg5AfnMkz8?feature=shared

Translation - 
Irrfan says - My friend bought a car 5yrs back but he hasn't driven it as he says only when all traffic lights in city turn green will he take it out.

Konkona says - Well your friend is stupid. If you don't take out the vehicle how will you even know if light is green or not?

Irrfan replies - Exactly! Take your chances, baby!

Continuing on my last perfectionism post, stop waiting for the right moment, the right anything hoping it would come someday. Hoping that you would find your knight in shining armor outside your house.

If you don't actively seek opportunities, if you don't take chances on people, opportunities, moments how will you know?

YOLO, take matters into your own hands and better make it count!

Take your chance, people!

Software Engineer

This question is to people who are in their late 20s or older.


Life shows its ups and downs to pretty much everyone. And when you are younger, living with adverse situations that impact your mental peace and health, paving your way becomes difficult. All this can lead to uncertainty about future, can make you doubt yourself and your decisions, or can make you think whether you would be able to make something of yourself or not.


If you ever felt like this, how did you handle it? What would you tell your younger self about how to navigate through these situations and feelings?

What gives you hope even when you are mentally exhausted in your life?

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