When it's someone younger it hurts more

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When it's someone younger it hurts more- Grapevine

When we are young, our pain is often emotional, caused by things like stress or sadness. As we get older, this pain becomes more physical, like sore knees, a stiff neck, or failing organs. Pain, whether mental or physical, serves to remind us that life is temporary and that we should accept pain rather than fear it.

PAIN

Context: Mad rush at Ahmedabad stadium. People standing in 45C even after booking tickets online. Complete shitshow

Anyone from Paytm Insider team? What on earth is going on for IPL tickets situation?

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For me age is genuinely just a number. And work is worship. Yet, having people who are often my age or sometimes 10-20 years older than me reporting to me - becomes a discussion. Why is “age” even a discussion if one has proved their merit and mettle?

In a country with a growing young population, we have some randomly contrasting values. 

Of course, basic respect for all is just a fundamental in the team’s culture. 

Do you think an employee should “respect” another employee just by the virtue of age?

Ageism at workplace?

Head Of Growth

This causes a serious meltdown in an instant. Just sharing here so that if anyone reads this.. reach out to your folks and love them with all. 🙂

Sometimes late at night I'm hit with the thought that my parents won't be there with me forever.

Growth Manager

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Post your mental health issues. Peeps with good knowledge / experience in the subject, please suggest some pawssible solutions.

Mental Health

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16 years in same company and then you’re laid off

Analyst

People over 35 what is one thing you regret from your younger years?

Based on comments Jo career pe focus Kiya use chahiye ladki, aur Jo ladki pe focus Kiya use chahiye career. Grass is always greener on other side.

Product Owner

It's been 4 years since covid started and all of us went into the first lockdown (24 March 2020). I just thought of this while making another post, and this has actually taken me aback. It was such a crazy time, and now it's just long gone. 

- We got a lot of time to be home, to be around loved ones, most of us are privileged and hence Covid wasn't bad at all. We were mostly making Dalgona Coffee, sourdough bread, playing PUBG, watching movies, etc. 

- A lot of us also lost loved ones. It was really brutal for those who did. And it was always scary for the rest of us. 

- Most of us who have been in tech saw our salaries climb the fastest. The absolute peak job market, best hikes, the world was very positive in that sense - not as much work and enough pay to enjoy 

- The biggest thing I've noticed: Covid got me hooked to Instagram/YT Shorts/and other social media. I feel like I used to be more aware and awake before covid. Somehow, a lot of exposure to social media/content etc. has made me just very zoned out in life. I think a lot of us have a much shorter attention span. 

IDK if this is true, but certainly feels like it is true. 

Just penning this down because I'm genuinely tripping how long it's been.

4 years since Covid started. What are your memories from that time? How have you evolved since?

Pre & Post Covid me are different person.  
 I don't know that guy now. And for some reason it looks like a decade has passed by yet the lockdown announcement on news just rings like as if it was yesterday. "bhaiyo beheno ..." 
    
 What I miss was empty roads. Blue skies of Delhi and pin-drop silence 24/7. Only rustling leaves and birds. For a moment the world looked at peace.  The sun was fantastic back then.  
  
 I am fortunate to be at this end of spectrum as others have disastrous circumstances. One thing I'm noticing since then. The time seems to be running abnormally fast now.  
 Like zipp! 3 months of 2024 gone.

My mother called me yesterday and tells me she got scammed for about 10 lakhs and needs money by Monday. She has 4 lakhs and I will have to cover the rest. Turns out she let a friend take a loan in her name and this friend gave fake jewellery as collateral. The friend took loans under her husband’s name and my mom’s name, she divorced the dude and escaped. The bank called my mom and has asked her to pay, now they’re filing a case against my mom for fraud.

I’ve spent my weekend talking to advocates and friends, and looks like the only way to get out of it unscathed is to cut a deal with the bank saying we’ll pay the money back and they don’t press charges in return. Contesting the bank is going to take time, money and the risk of my mom losing her job.

As an older daughter who grew up in a broken family, I’ve spent my childhood and adulthood protecting my mother and sibling. I finally landed a well paying job 2 years ago and now the responsibility extended to providing for my younger sister and my mother financially which I’m more than happy to do. I’ve worked hard the past few months to save what I have right now beyond what I give my family, use to sustain myself and finally felt happy about the position I’m in.

Now I’m heartbroken. I’m going to be emptying almost 70% of what I have so far for this for paying the bank and the lawyer. Especially for something that’s not even my mistake and something that could have been easily avoided. I’m not in a place to direct my anger at her, I know it’s a hard time for her as well. 


6 to 7 lakhs might sound like a small amount to some but I don’t have the privilege to throw money like that. I don’t have fuck you money. I don’t take money from friends. I’m 25 and literally just started my life 2 years ago after working for peanuts. 

What’s even the point of working hard, leading an honest life if this is how it works? It’s just truly unfair and I don’t know how to deal with it.

I wish life was a little easier and I just need to vent

Me too venting in this space.. 
 //Start if rant 
  
 My father too was frauded by a builder whom we had entrusted building flats on our plot of land. Fcker took booking amount from multiple people and left construction, claimants now coming after us saying its our responsibility to refund even though my father didnot recive any amount. 
 I had to take 18 lakhs loan for my father to complete construction and am all the time calling advocates in assesing risk from claimants who come barging at our home and building site with threats of filling FIR. 
 Every month my one third salary goes in Loan amount, had got a ideal wlb good paying job 2 years back after battling unemployment and low pay for many years. 
 Had planned to take wife and kids on vactaions for making up for lost time but now struggling to fulfill basic needs for family, forgot about vacations. 
 Have taken risk and moonlighting but it becomes hell on days when there is clash between jobs and sometimes lash out on my kids and wife and parents and then get hit by double guilt of not being strong enough.  
 Dont have any backing to face cheat builder who has backing of police and politicians, claimants coming after us as they have recognized us as soft target. 
 Preparing for 10 lakhs more expenses in multi year litigation trying to probe my fathers innocence. 
 Fcking jealous relatives enjoying all this from distance. 
 Fck this world. 
  
 //End of rant

genz

And at work 
  
 + the endless chase for the mirage that is wlb 
 + if anything isn't per their expectation, its toxic

Sales Manager

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For the 1st year in organization,  my peers tried to hurt me by insulting in public/ group meetings. When I reported the incidents to my leader he assured he will do something but nothing was done. 
After waiting patiently for 2 months and seeing increasing attacks from peers via other modes I reported the incident to the HR. 

Please share your comments if I did the right thing or not ?

Abuse of power by senior management at work!

Today on Saturday I got a call from office grandma ( 20 years in same company) , she started arguing that I didn't sent her the update and showed me her what's app screenshot. I noticed that there is no net sign on top near battery indicator. 
What the hell, why companies keep such people , they have 0% technology knowledge, can't use decent tools , don't know gmail interface . Why the hell ?

Are boomers really needed if they don't have skills ?

Content Strategist

I blame parents for this. Not that coaching centres are saints, they suck the life out of students by making them study 24/7 but the reason that child is in coaching centre is because parents put him/her there.

And every suicide letter I have read from students mentions that they couldn't fulfil parents expectations.

They are the reason their child is in that condition, just because they want to brag and seek validation  from so called society that their child is a prodigy (and want to establish that they are the creator of this prodigy) who went to medical/IIT. And if the child doesn't act acc. to their expectations, they start gaslighting them "We gave you birth" "Maa baap bhagwan ka roop hote hai how dare you blame us Or don't listen to us" 
I once watched a movie (don't remember the name) where actress says "As parent we determine if our child needs tuition classes but at same time we fail to know if he/she needs therapy"

Who do you think is to be blamed? 

Also parents on GV don't push your child if he doesn't want to fly, thinking he has wings, he may fall to death.

The Court was hearing a PIL filed by a Mumbai-based doctor Aniruddha Narayan Malpani who blamed coaching institutes for driving students to death

SC blames parents for Kota suicides, refuses to rein in coaching centres

Who do think is responsible for stress? Parents or coaching mafia?

The root cause of all this is overpopulation and a shortage of jobs. Coaching centers and tough parenting only exist as a consequence of this

I currently work in a project that is driven by CEO and he is very intimidating. I work my ass off to make sure he gets what expects but today he was especially aggressive during the call. After the call I asked him to wait up for two mins and started telling him that I am getting intimidated by him. Although he was nice to me when I confronted him, now I am feeling embarrassed because I broke down a little when I spoke. Tears started flowing and I am feeling like a weak person. Just fyi I am an adult male.

I ended up breaking down in front of my CEO

It's ok to express your emotions.  Especially in times of stress / duress.  
  
 You'll be fine.  
  
 It's also important to sometimes define boundaries - if that was the intent of your talk with him today.  It's feedback and if he is an understanding leader, he'll give you your space and time.

Product Marketing Manager

Seeking advice from married individuals who have/ want children

I’m 26 right now. Should I start looking for partners now or wait till around 30 once I’m financially stronger. Currently 22lpa - Mumbai

Marriage age for men

Ever since 2020, it feels like years have passed within weeks. I can't possibly explain this in words, but for some reason, time has been passing a bit too fast. Before I realized it, my graduation was completed, someone who would seem a grown-up to the person I was before the lockdown. Festivals don't seem to make me happy now, and neither does having friends and going out with anyone...everything seems normal and everything goes by before I can process anything on my mind. Is it just me? I can't feel any emotions like I used to, is it something that all grown-ups go through/suffer with?

Is Time Really Passing Too Fast Now?

Because we’re doing too many things. Weekdays are slammed with work, weekends are slammed with relatives, weddings, friends, chores, functions, outings!  
  
 Even till late in the night the screens are lit up and many us forget time. But the time you look up from the screen is an hour past in 15 mins.  
  
 We should sit. Do nothing. And just notice how slow the world is. Even for an hour or couple of hours.  
  
 Morpheus : It is the world that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth.

Product Designer

I found an old form from 2013, my father had sent details
Annual Income - 8L
Education expense - 2.5L

He is retired govt empl so couldn't lie on numbers

I was in top autonomous institute, and my brother in good private school in Delhi

It hits me now, how I wasted my life 'enjoying college' and thereafter
Falling in and out of love

Parents never say anything on practical topics, just regular wake up early, eat vegetables rant

I fucked my life and how

Dying in guilt

There’s a lot of time for you too do what you wish to do. Guilt and regret are temporary, your actions are kinda more important. 
  
 We will always disappoint our people as every person is different. You did what you felt gave you happiness at that point. Don’t be hard on yourself. 
  
 Your parents will eventually be the happiest when they see you chasing your dreams and goals. Don’t regret anything. Just take it one day at a time and do what feels right. 
  
 Cheer!

Brand Communication Manager

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I switched recently from Quantiphi. This was my first switch. It has been more than two months now. And I've still not cleared the FnF with them.


My calculations show that I've to return around net 1.5 lacs ruppees of my prorated Bonus to Quantiphi as part of FnF. So I've not been pushing for FnF and nor Quantiphi has communicated anything about it.


They have given me separation letter. So I'm confused weather I should ask for FnF or not?

If I do not what are the issues I can face in future?

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