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by Goodboiog

Stealth

2 months ago

When you are doing good in life people starts chasing you

So I’ve been a below avg. looking guy my entire school and college life. Got a decent job offer (8LPA) during my campus placements. This was the story till January 2023. Now It’s been around 1.5 Years. I’ve been working out 6 days a week (rarely skips), eat super clean food (monthly 1 cheat meal), started a skincare routine and tried to learning new technologies in search of a better job. This is the routine I followed for the entire 1.5 years. Right now, I’ve a high paying job and a great physique. (Went from 68Kgs to 81Kgs) A few women have approached me in last 3-4 months. In the gym, people come and talk to me regarding my diet and workout. A lot of people are sending me linkedin connections requests, asking for referral and guidance. But now I don’t wanna talk to anyone because no one wanted to talk that ugly, lean and broke me. Wish someone would’ve came to that old version of me and said “You are enough”.

ElonMast

Amazon

2 months ago

Too early, Too young to carry that arrogance. Imagine you might show this to someone similar “younger version” of you and how they will start seeing the world. Humility will go a long way.

Lavpan

Freelancer

2 months ago

true

Dollyheals

Stealth

2 months ago

Very true... Most of the time it was not world and people around ignoring you.. it's you yourself ignoring yourself not giving importance. Whenever someone moves towards selfcare and self love they attract others who are looking for the same change. Empathise 🌷

Kisse_kahani

Deloitte

2 months ago

May be it's not other people who think you were ugly, poor and whatever you said. It was just an internal reflection of you. It's easy to victimize yourself and then when you achieve a few things in life, you tend to see those achievements as a way to compare yourself and feel good. Don't be that harsh on yourself that's the only piece of advice. If you don't want to talk to anyone, that's fine, don't talk. But don't let the little achievements give you a false sense of self arrogance. On a lighter note, I have seen a lot of these types of cringe contents on YouTube. I hope those are not your source of inspiration.

IntrovertBeing

Deloitte

2 months ago

@Kisse_kahani Where is your ‘inspiration’ coming from?

Kisse_kahani

Deloitte

2 months ago

@IntrovertBeing it's part of adulting I guess!!

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QuietAntelope

Walmart

2 months ago

Share skin care routine

NotRealNotMe

Unnamed

2 months ago

😂

SchruteFarm

Disney+ Hotstar

2 months ago

Asking the right questions! 🤣

Guide

Stealth

2 months ago

Instead of doing what everyone did to you, be the change and help others!

QuaintMinnow

Student

2 months ago

Maybe you haven't forgiven the younger version of you for "not being enough" and this is a way of lashing out. People will always want to associate with you only when they feel you bring something to the table (money/humour/vibes)

SnarlingBloomer

Infosys

2 months ago

Talk to all the people , but those who have hurt you in the past take sweet revenge from them and don't help those people

Umadbro

Stealth

2 months ago

What you feel is justified and valid. The people from your past are to be left behind. Most comments here are from a selfish perspective, projecting how they would feel on the receiving end. (Having treated people badly in the past) You have a chance. Get to know new people, create new friendships, be the person you want to be. Hang out in different circles. These people would be nice now (and would have been kind regardless, ) just that others shattered your confidence to go mingle with them. It’s okay, the people looking for guidance would get other people to help them. They are not the present you or the past you, but would have reached out to either one if they needed something. If you see someone like you, perhaps you should help them cos you know exactly how it feels when no one does.

Zinda_Laash

Student

2 months ago

I think same as you , i never ever think in my head or judge people based on their looks and talk them and have same respect as others, if they are ugly this thought never come to mind, every person deserves love and care, not when they achieved something or done something sukh ke sab sathi dukh mein na koi

ModiMeloni

Deloitte

2 months ago

On a positive side, share the trips n tricks for everything you have done so far, make money out of it ...why so rude

HeavyWoodwind

Student

2 months ago

I would say, its positive side is the thing you have to carry around ...like if they haven't ignored you , may be you will not be this much better. THANK THEM AND MOVE ON....you deserve to be around the ones who appreciate now and then as you are and were.

Back2Gdhd

Advanced Micro Devices

2 months ago

Good going man! Cheers! If you've got the time can you please share how you lost all that weight?

BackBlame

Persistent Systems

2 months ago

As a men if you are not not doing good. You won't be respected. It's just the world is designed in this way. Even animals choose the best partner for mating so choosing best is inbuilt behaviour of mind and each and every species. Now you thinking yourself as not best which was hurting you. Gandhiji used to water dhoti was having no body still he was respected. Whatever you think same will happen.

2ask26

Unemployed

2 months ago

you could share a guide for everything man

harshpratapsingh

Student

2 months ago

You are just emotionally hurt. It's actually very common for people who go through a transformation. Be with people who are at your level. Have standards. Nobody is attracted to low value things. When you start becoming attractive, you realize that it's not something that should do for others, instead for your own well being. Very less people genuinely appreciate without any desire of getting anything back. You get attracted to a flower, you pluck it right. So when anyone is going to be attracted to you, they will try their level best to consume you. Be happy. Self nourish. Your emotional damage can make you self centered and arrogant so save yourself. And just help people. It's okay to be used. Everyone gets used. It's normal

glv

Stealth

2 months ago

drop the routine king

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