Anxiety, depression issues in personal and professional life
Feeling worried all the time
I am 28 year old, unmarried and staying at Bangalore working at Cognizant
Problems in my life
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I am fighting with my own parents because I love a guy from different religion. He is my school mate and very good person. We both are at IT firm. He earns 38LPA and I earn 16LPA. Financially we are good and we both have very good understanding of each other.
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I have health issues like pcod , thyroid, gas trouble and digestion issues. Constantly taking tablets and feeling exhausted all the time.
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I have very toxic work culture at office. My manager literally forces us to work like hell. She doesn't concern about our health issues and treats like robots.
I am always thinking about work and getting anxiety issues. Currently I feel like taking break from everything and focus on myself but money is also important because i want to financially independent. My brain is constantly worried thinking about future like work, health and money. Nothing really helps me and I feel worried all the time.
If that guy is from sanatan Dharma then marry him and switch to a job which is peaceful to u.
Don't chase money always...have less spicy food like biryani and eat balanced diet with more veggies and fruits
Your parents are right. Listen to them and have a peaceful life. Eat only home cooked food. You are bound to have all the health issues and even more if you eat outside. People serving food outside are not concerned about your health, they are concerned about their business just like your manager is.
Everything except your first sentence makes sense
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Health is p0; put it above everything! Show to some doctor and practice preventive measures; follow the ayurvedic/satvic way of life (believe me, it helped me solve all my stomach issues); leave all spicy and junk food for some time! Drink a lot of water!
Try to prioritise your work with your manager and do it infront of whole team! No DM business; communicate your blockers or any delay in advance! And don’t fear your manager; they literally can’t change anything. Keep exploring for some good opportunities outside and switch once you feel so!
What is ur role at cred?
As a 40 year old with similar experiences, I will suggest you few things:
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Always marry in the same religion. It’s really important. I was also very liberal like you and married in different religion. But now regret it a big time. My partner is good but from spiritual perspective, this is not good. Marriage is not just for material happiness. It’s also one of the way to liberate you. And our scriptures says to marry within same religion and it makes complete sense. In later stage of life, inter religion marriages cause lot of problems culturally, emotionally and physically. So i will suggest you to take a wise decision and choose to marry within the same religion and community.
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Don’t have lot of ambitions in life. Too may Ambitions make you work like a dog and always feel restless. Learn to slow down on life and prioritize on the sustenance of it. You are not given this birth just to work like hell and keep running for material possessions which won’t give you ephemeral satisfaction.
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Start mediation and reading spiritual books. That will give you more clarity about the purpose of your existence and thus you will be able to prioritise and make clear and wise decisions
If you want to marry the guy, marry him. Ask your parents, will you be able to assure my happiness with someone of our religion? The obvious answer is no. Then say I know I can be happy with this person, I take full responsibility for consequences of this.
For health issues. Please connect with a doc. Would not suggest quitting your job in current environment, but there is an internal switch, which you can turn off where you can stop giving a fuck about this job and prioritize looking for another one
Learn some breathing techniques like Sudarshan Kriya taught by Art of Living as they have been proven scientifically to help us manage our stress and anxiety. I have been following the same thing since my college days at IIT Kharagpur. It does really help.
You can learn it online http://bit.ly/learn-sudarshankriya
Or better visit the Art of Living International Bangalore Ashram to learn it offline.
Remember, health is more important than wealth. Hope things settle with you soon.
i guess you should switch to a better workplace. if it’s toxic leave immediately.