my_object

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Hi all, I am a software engineer in a * company. But here the point is about myself, i don't like to code at all, infect i hate it now, but still i am doing it , because i have no choice, i can't leave it nor my family will be supportive about it. I know its the best work in today's time but not for me. I also got promoted and been on a good pay (acc to exp). But i just don't want to do this job at all. My brain is affecting to a large extent , i have been hiding it from my family. I have a lot of headaches and tension of work like how am i going to do this. Because of having no interest in this, i am not improving my knowledge in this field, which have created fear about switching jobs. I forgets concepts , but i am able to work , don't know how, but i am afraid how long will i survive. My life is ahead me, many responsibilities lying ahead, but also i dont want to do this. What should i do ? Please help me , i can see only one option and that the very last option.

13mo ago

Peudipi

PhonePe13mo

You need to address 2 questions
Why are you doing this
What would you do otherwise.

If you are unclear you need to continue doing first until second one is clear.

my_object

Amazon13mo

Why am i doing this is basically i answered in my post, now addressing second question, i have some plans but for them to work i need atleast some support, some time as well. But here's the problem. Not everyone is happy in being software engineer. I feel suffocated here.

Peudipi

PhonePe13mo

Agree not everyone but what excites you to work on thats where the magic is ?

itachiuchiha

Stealth13mo

I would say only one thing. Don't quit until you figure out what to do next. Also, try to stay unmarried until you figure this out(ignore if you are already married). First try things side by side which interest you. Then think about making a permanent shift.

Of course, it's easier said than done. But don't give up. Keep at it.

Also, don't be so negative. A lot of people have been laid off. You have a job which pays you as per your expectation. Be grateful for that as well. Who knows, this might just be one of those mid life crisis people talk about.

my_object

Amazon13mo

Appreciate your suggestion 👍

0case

Startup13mo

Why do you need family support?

You must support your family and not expect anything in return.

my_object

Amazon13mo

I knew this question would come up. Tell me one thing , ex : you are forced to run in race( by someone you love), you initially didn't thought much and started that race , now after running a bit you didn't like that much but you still kept running, but after some point you didn't like it running , your legs are burning, you can breathe properly , and you know you are not anyway gonna reach their (many hopes and pressure from them), now what will you do, tell me. You wanna stop , but still your answer is that i will kept running than take some time and think where you will end up, and its only a start you have to run a long way, and you are suffocation in the beginning only.

0case

Startup13mo

Anecdotes are usually louder.

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