Confused about the life
28 female unmarried with 4.9 height had a lot of rejections in arranged marriage proposal due to short height. was so frustrated and said yes to one proposal which i did not like at all now im regretting so much going through lot of tension
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You seem to be an idiot. Poor guy who marry you
Only decent comment. I see everyone supporting this lady, I don't know why.
Guy is also an idiot marrying an old age aunty...
Is it your height or career that's the problem? Women should prioritize marriage and family and not career, bcz they have limited amount of time, their most beautiful from 18-24. That's when you find the best suitor. Instead girls chase career and leave the nice guys and later sit home alone with money and no family with only cats and dogs. Any person without a family above 30 years of age is turning or turned into a looser in life. Another thing is lack of religion and not following your creators advice or following some corrupted ideology which isn't from God.
I know that the author is also at major fault here (by taking a decision without much thoughts), but this is a very backward stance. Grow out of your cocoon and see what progress is happening around the world. Just because you have grown up seeing these kind of ideologies around you, doesn't mean the entire world works that way. A lot of women are well settled in their lives in their 30s and beyond, that too without a partner. Typical misogynistic thinking!
See, typical misogynistic/patriarchal/mentally backward men can't even see where the problem lies. Maybe you haven't seen many women with high status/achievements around you. There's no point discussing this further. This dirt will never go out of your mind. Now, I hope you stay in your cocoon itself and never come out and spread this dirt elsewhere. Thanks 🙏🏻.
only 20 days left and all the arrangements are done if i cancel now dont know how my parents will take it. also the socity everyone knows about it.
Mazak banake rakha hai tum logo ne shaadi ko aur dusro ki feelings ka.
I'm surprised that you're feeling sad when someone is willing to marry you after so many rejections.
Ideally if anyone wants to marry you then:
- they themselves would be short/not good looking/some other physical issue
- you are extraordinary Good in character (without a past, etc.) or very high earning.
I don't know you personally but I don't see any other reason why an average guy will go for you.
Yes you might not like the guy you said yes to but it's not like you had any other decent options.
Similarly, what do you think he's going head over heels to marry you? He's also settling down
I'm well settled than him. but thats ok, but I feel we dont conncet he hardly talk and I only have to speak. for everything he tells im shy i dont speak.
So he might be shy and later he can evolve.
However it's completely alright if that's not your type then it's YOUR responsibility to voice it out na, at the right time. As christians say, "speak now if these two shall not be married or hold your mum forever"
Plus also understand he's not going to marry the woman of his dreams also right, so similarly like you might not be excited/confused/settling and would have a different way of dealing with this.
Best case scenario is for you and him to understand that both are settling in this marriage because irrespective of their desires, they were not someone better's desires. So no 'ehsan' on both sides.
Apologies if I was very direct but it's the only way for me to put this.
If you dont like him please dont spoil 2 life because of your decision ...better to regret later take decision now.
When you get on the wrong train the sooner you get down the better...but are you on the wrong train? Decide that first. Sit down calmly and list down what exactly you are looking for in a life partner and then see if he fits in OR maybe list down his positives and negatives based on your interactions so far and see which one outweighs. Arranged marriages require both the partners to make adjustments so decide if you are willing to spend the rest of your life else don't spoil 2 lives in confusion. Also remember that there is no guarantee that you will get a better choice in future. I am not trying to convince you to marry him but suggesting to make a wise decision as there are families involved. You just have to convince yourself and stay convinced with that decision. All the best!
Definitely i might not get better choice in future, but marriage should not be done by adjustments right. I still not ok with this but if say no now, im worried about future.
I think you are taking hurried decisions out of FOMO and societal pressure. Please think a 100 times before marrying someone, as a wrong decision will spoil many lives. Also, if anything goes wrong, the same so called "society" won't be coming to help you. Their only work is coming to your wedding, pigging out on the free food and gossiping and judging anything and everything!
Take a stand now or decide to live in regret and guilt forever. Regret of not taking a stand and guilt of ruining so many lives. It’s better late than never! But the question is: What’s that you don’t like? If that can be adjusted given the positive points of the guy?
Talk to the person, let him know how you are feeling. If he is ready to make the change then good. If he is rigid and blames you then you get your answer.
It's your life, don't marry the wrong person