I am a 27M and earn 7 LPA from a mechanical engineering background, which I know is very low compared to today's standards. Software and MBA guys are earning significantly more. In today’s world, money is important if you want to travel or live comfortably. By switching companies or pursuing an executive MBA, I believe I can reach a decent level in the future.
One thing I’ve observed is that in dating, girls don't seem to care much about how much you earn. But when it comes to marriage, the financial aspect becomes more important. Which isn’t wrong at all. Of course, I’m not generalizing, and I know there are women who don’t prioritize money. Also, it’s true that ambitious people often look for equally ambitious partners.
What are your views on this? I’d especially like to know from girls.
Do you attribute your self worth to your salary?
If no, then why would you want a partner to do that.
If your current salary able to fulfil your next 1-3 years of standard of living? If yes, then find a partner for whom also it's sufficient.
If your answers are different, then you should look to upskill yourself and get to a higher salary bracket. And put matrimonial ambitions in the back seat.
Even if he doesn't attribute his self worth to his salary, other people will. That's like THE only factor they measure men in this case. From my observation you need to compromise a LOT in your partner if you're earning <10-12 LPA. Another option is ofc love marriage.
More money isn't always good. It's a myth. More money brings more responsibility, risk and problems as well.
You should know how much money you need for your present and future. Let your partner decide if that's sufficient for them or not when it comes to marriage.
Until then I'd suggest trying to date. You are correct about women not caring as much about salary in dating phase. But they might when it comes to marriage.
Either ways, focus on yourself first. The right partner will align with your goals, not set her own goals for you to achieve.
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@LooseGoose I agree with what you have said in 2nd half of the comment. That's what I am working on to build up myself.
But you need to cross a certain threshold, you wanna go on a vacation or live comfortably then you don't want to keep thinking about money while being on a trip like how much am I spending on this and that
You are true ,some exceptions are there. Btw one revert question Do man who is good looking and doing good in his career will accept the woman who has all essentials to advance qualities of being good wife, daughter in law and mother?
This is in the context of when she is not earning but has everything which is required for perfect wife .
@Bittergourd well I can relate to this apart from the "good career" thing😂😂. I have burnt my hands by going after a good looking girl so I'm definitely not looking out for good looks.
Short answer - no. Even if they agree, their parents won't.
Have you thought of pursuing higher education? If yes, that will be good in your case. Bonus would be to start dating seriously haha, as you pointed out the financial aspect won't matter much initially. In the meantime, you can progress in your career by the time you plan to marry. This would be the best case scenario I guess.
@corporateRedemption yeah that's true. I've plans to go for an MBA.
I do want to date someone seriously but whenever salary and stuff comes into conversation (after few dates) then things start to go down😂
In my words, there should not be any limits in terms of chasing money. But you should have a threshold that I need minimum x amount of money to live my life comfortably.
Slight controversial, money matters in everything from love to xyz thing. I don’t believe in faltu ki bakchodi ki ooo money doesn’t matters, not everyone looks for money, some look for personality, caring and all bs.
Recently popular case of pune. You see that kid got bail and probably will move to any foreign country and will spend his life with no problems. Meanwhile the victims’ parents are crying cuz they don’t have any resources cuz they don’t have “money” cuz you use your money to buy resources.
Now why I’m telling this example is to show you the worst possible scenario so that you don’t ask on social media that whether money matters or not.
MONEY DOES MATTERS AND IT MATTERS A LOT. Radhe Radhe 🙏🏼
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