Feeling overwhelmed and emotionally stuck — just needed to vent somewhere
I don’t know where to begin, but lately I’ve been feeling extremely overwhelmed and emotionally heavy. It’s like rejection is coming from everywhere — job applications, life plans, even emotionally in my relationship. I’m in a relationship, but it’s long-distance. We talk daily, and I know he cares in his own way. But our conversations are mostly one-sided — he talks about his issues and what he’s going through, and I listen. I don’t even feel like I can open up fully. Not because he doesn’t let me, but maybe because there’s no space left in our conversations for me. So I keep my emotions bottled up, just quietly existing with them. I earn around ₹50K–₹52K, work from home, and live a very simple life — no partying, no unnecessary expenses. I do save, but I’m 26 now, and there’s pressure from my family about marriage. Deep down, I know I’m not ready. I don’t know why — maybe because I feel like something is missing emotionally, mentally, or even spiritually. At times, I feel like maybe love or meaningful connection just isn’t written in my destiny. I’ve been told that before, and my past experiences sort of confirm it. I don’t blame my boyfriend. I just feel unlucky. I see other women around me succeeding, building careers, chasing dreams — and I feel like I’m lagging behind. My boyfriend earns well, and while that doesn't define love, I do want to grow enough professionally so I can be a strong partner too, especially if we think about marriage. But even that feels far off — I’ve applied to so many jobs, and nothing is working out. It’s like I’m stuck in a loop of trying but getting nowhere. Maybe this is just a phase. Maybe I just needed to put this out somewhere, even if no one replies. It’s exhausting pretending to be okay when you’re not. I just wish I had someone to talk to openly — to feel heard without judgment, interruption, or advice. Thanks for reading if you made it this far.
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You seem to be in a dead relationship . It’s taking the joy out of you . Take a break and focus on yourself . Partying is over rated . Also you don’t love him anymore it’s making you miserable . The free time invest in your career . If he does not realise the conversations are one sided it’s a ref flag . You gave up all your energy into the relationship and now you are drained .take a better look if it’s you or piled up stress . Most people don’t live interesting lives . Partying is over rated and gym is a way to socialise now more than health .
Everyone faces such situations at some point — both professionally and personally. My advice is to treat every experience as a learning opportunity and move forward.
I was in a relationship for 8 years, and we eventually broke up. & Had hard times for 3-4 years to come over it. Depends on individual recovery times.When it comes to relationships, it’s important that both partners stand together and face challenges as a team. That’s what life is about — mutual support and understanding. No one is perfect, and while everything might seem replaceable, it all comes down to emotional intelligence.
Professionally, keep upskilling and don’t give up. I was rejected by five companies before I joined Dell. Life is about the choices we make. Work will always be work, but on the personal front, having a partner who listens and understands you makes all the difference. Otherwise, conflicts can become constant.
When disagreements happen, at least one person needs to stay calm, reflect, and help move forward. Learn from every experience. Yes, it’s tough — really tough — but that’s life.