Friend vs Loneliness
Nowadays, it is difficult to maintain friendships (old friends) as many are pursuing dreams and for that one has to shift for other countries/state and the rest busy with there jobs and family business.
New friends are difficult to make where people already have there groups of bunch of friends where they don’t want anyone else to join (old friends groups) & also as the smaller groups are easy to manage and for execution of any plans.
While growing up due to change in habits (smoking, drinking, etc) of our friends we did lose few.. and now they don’t call me up for any plans!
So, basically i am left alone with nobody by my side apart from cousins of same age (more or less)!
Most of the time, I spend my day working on my business.. or at times, working out or reading books.. But at times, i am left alone with my own thoughts and that feeling at times is exhausting and frustrating and sometimes this loneliness becomes toxic!
Can anyone help.. how can we make friends in midst of all this?
Get married, if you are a man, your wife will decide if you are bored or not.
If you are a women, you get the opportunity to irritate someone.
So.. where is the upside?
I think I can add some value here basis my experiences( moved countries frequently, crossed the loneliness phase).
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The fact you are sharing/getting inputs from an anon forum, proves that friendships are changing. All non-blood relationships are turning into more convenience/transaction based.
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Develop some hobby, interests apart from your work. You can keep the friendships, companionships alive when you have some shared interests. You can travel, play sports, run marathons while making new connects. It’s not difficult to find people sharing similar interests in the era of internet.
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Spending some time alone is necessary, especially after a certain age. Accept it, it will help you think about your life as well.
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Keep sharing your knowledge, skills using digital channels. It will add value to you and people like you.
I hope these points can help you visualise modern friendship dynamics. Overall, it has to start from you.
If ya find a good hack, let me know as well 🙃
We're all in a similar situation, you're not alone. I got married and it helped a lot.
How? I mean, waking up and spending your day with someone is nice but is that it?