PeppyPotato
PeppyPotato

Heartbreak and fucked up career

I've been in Bangalore for almost three years now. I met someone here, and we’re about to complete a year together. But deep down, I feel like he’s not completely sure about me. Sometimes, his actions hurt me, even though I know it’s unintentional, but it’s painful. We do love each other, but I think I’ve invested too much in him. He is the nicest guy I have ever been. We both have flaws and issues, but he is too rigid to talk about them

On top of that, things at work aren’t going well either. Watching both my personal and professional life fall apart at the same time is terrifying. I don’t want to lose him, but the stress has become overwhelming. I even broke down crying on a call with my parents, which I now regret because I’ve worried them too.

They’re asking me to come back home. They said, “Chor de naukri, yahan aa jao, hum hain yahan, dekh lenge. Aaj nahin toh kal dusri naukri mil jayegi, lekin aise pareshaan mat ho.” How do I tell them it’s not just work? It’s everything. Writing this, I can’t stop crying.

15d ago
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FuzzyDonut
FuzzyDonut

Talk to a friend whom you can trust and will be all ears, parents wont be able to understand the situation . Job you can get another one as you are already working in meesho. But i can understand how a fucked up love life can be.

PeppyPotato
PeppyPotato

I have been crying since yesterday. Nothing is cheering me up. Maybe I am overthinking because I am alone.

FuzzyDonut
FuzzyDonut

Exactly, thts y i told talk to some friend whom u can trust. My friend also had a similar situation with a girl.. he will call me everyday and we talk about 1 hr.. it makes him little relaxed. Find that friend, trust me that will help.

PrancingKoala
PrancingKoala

Invested too much in a person? A person isn't an investment, don't look at it like that. You shared some good and bad memories. You learnt a lot from it, you'll come out better. This isn't an FD. Take control and ownership of your life. You're the only one who can bring happiness to your life. Once you do that then you can find happiness with order people

PeppyPotato
PeppyPotato

Emotionally invested

PrancingKoala
PrancingKoala

Yes I get it. Statement remains the same

ZestyPotato
ZestyPotato

My few cents . For your career you have to gather your shit together and improve. There is no shortcut . If you think you are not able to cope up with pressure, start taking help from colleagues. Start asking questions and you will gain confidence. How much dumb it may feel to you. Start with a habit of thinking before speaking. I am also in my early career, sometimes I ask too dumb questions so now I have decided I will ask questions after thinking a bit (nothing wrong with thinking and taking our time)

For a relationship, why do you feel he's not sure about you. Do you think you have done anything wrong. Second thing, time is not an investment if you have really loved him. Don't think about time, just enjoy the moment spent together. Maybe start doing more activities together and see for yourself if things are working out

ZestyPotato
ZestyPotato

This is my perspective towards life in general

PeppySushi
PeppySushi

Going through something similar. But on top of all this, when I broke down in front of my parents, I got no support there as well. I have always been this ideal kid, and as long as I am achieving stuff, my parents were there for me, but when I am at a low point, they are like "you must be doing something wrong". I feel so alone right now. We will get through this!

SillyRaccoon
SillyRaccoon

Tough love probably. Yeah even my parents are like... You suck 🤭 but whenever their friends or some neighbors' kid goes abroad, they're like yo, why couldn't you be like them... 🤣😂

FuzzyNarwhal
FuzzyNarwhal

why are we all dumbfounded in this? why in such fast paced era why can't we step up nd get going.. what's this enemy of ours..us

GigglyBanana
GigglyBanana

Stop overthinking. At worst you stop talking to a person usse zyada kuch nhi hoga. And if you do stop overthinking maybe you can focus more on work to find a solution for that as well. Relax.

PeppyPotato
PeppyPotato

I am scared of another heartbreak. I might not be able to take it

BubblyBoba
BubblyBoba

Hey going through similar situation.
I was thinking I can manage work properly then I can handle heart break too. I tried going to temple and started my Day going to park and sprinting for 1 hour atleast forcefully I get up and start day with something that's mot related to either work or heartbreak.

Slowly i started working keept sitting informant of screen no matter I'm crying inside but I did. Now all of sudden from last w days I'm gaining confidence and my lost emotional control.

Belive me this will get better with time. Give it 2 months atleast you will see yourself aa more stronger person.

SparklyDonut
SparklyDonut

Workout and visiting some nearby temple/religious place will help.Exercise isnot just for the body but also the mind.Walk for a few minutes, don't stay holed up in your room. Also check if any seating change can help.If you have to see and interact with him daily try reducing it.I know it's attachment and the constant thoughts.You will heal from the heartbreak, speaking from experience. Try some hobbies as well.Its your mind which needs help.

GroovyJellybean
GroovyJellybean

Please go home you will find a Man who really loves you and who you is sure about it ...

WobblyHamster
WobblyHamster

Exactly 💯💯💯

JazzyQuokka
JazzyQuokka

Thanks babe i feel the same 🥰

ZestyBoba
ZestyBoba

Hangon things and times will change. Be positive

TwirlyJellybean
TwirlyJellybean

I honestly feel you're the messy one in your relationship. You say deep down YOU feel he's not sure about you, YOU say he's the nicest guy. YOU made your parents worry. So it's all YOU I don't see much of him..atleast in your description.

TwirlyJellybean
TwirlyJellybean

I could be wrong as well as I don't know your entire story.

FuzzyDumpling
FuzzyDumpling

Hey please don't leave your job. I am telling you from my own experience. Atleast for my family it was giving a door to my Parents for arranged marriage. And once arranged marriage is done without a job you won't be able to return. Next there's a saying "this too shall pass". Yes, next whatever you do is your call. Am not sure what your age is but don't slow down. As for the Indian corporate industry there will be one job after another. Also if you are working for Meesho I don't think this is the end of your career. Try other MNCs specially product based. I would recommend to keep on giving interviews. Failure in interviews is nothing. Just keep on learning from them. And for all companies your boss will be an ass. It's their job to be, so are their bosses. Just keep on moving forward. Also try to get your own space. Try yoga, dance, some books anything which makes you smile. Away from people who are pulling you down. Sometimes pity from close people only pulls you further down.

Take it easy Dear! As your bf, it's your call. But still if he is unsure I would recommend you some distance there too. Try to understand whether he misses you and appreciates your presence in his life. Else move on.

Remember sometimes too much investment without thinking about your own self isn't worth it. Sometimes space for yourself helps you understand what's good for your life. And tears aren't worth for someone or something if they don't reciprocate back.

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