I have been a little caught up with numerous things in my life lately and have finally found some free time to open up myself to new experiences.
I had a wishlist of shows and movies that I wanted to watch but as soon as I start watching them, I get bored and feel like turning it off.
No, its not the content No, its not the genre No, its not the actors No, its not the taste either
This is pretty ironic as considering the fact that I have spent a fair share of my youth chasing academics and career, my heart had always craved for life experiences. I had to let go of the woman I loved simply because I was too focussed on my JEE. I wont be able to forgive myself for that EVER. It almost felt like I had lost a limb, without which , I would be rendered disfunctional. Thats a separate story tho.
Nothing excites me (yep nothing) Nothing amuses me Nothing feels lively
I have no clue where my life is headed
I understand that as we age, our triggers of happiness change. I have put concious efforts into knowing what those new triggers are. But I cant find any plausible sources of happiness.
I am performing pretty well with my career. Even got a double digit hike. But didnt feel that kick of joy.
Have I approached a dead end?
Like the previous comment already mentioned, we evolve with age.
It's important to not regret what you left for a long time. What if you screwed up your career and were not with the woman that you are thinking about. What is the guarantee that if you and her were together, you would still be together.
Now I am doing the same thing that you are doing, that is comparing what could have gone wrong to justify your choice. We often think that what we left would be the best case scenario, but that could be or could not be the case. So stop having regrets about what was left behind. If at all there is a slight chance to get in touch with her and by luck she is single, why not get in touch with her again.
You did what was important for you back then, and good job on doing great in your career. It would be a bigger mess if that was not sorted, believe me ( Experience ^_^)
About things not being exciting any more, try different things, spend time with kids, go out in nature and try to focus on the beautiful things around. Appreciate creation around. Try to find meaning in this life that appears meaningless at times. Been there, experienced that. It's just a phase.
I honestly feel like a money making robot.
Lesson learnt. I am never going to pressurize my kids to excel in their career. I will make sure that I make as much money as I can so that they dont have to waste their youth giving pointless competetive exams.
I lack life. All I am good for is "providing" and accepting people and their past.
I am just another money making trophy husband who will be left to die one day by his wife and kids.
Why should I put concious efforts to pluck myself out of a mess that I didnt even put myself in is a question.
Its so unfair. I have no clue how long will I be able to fight this alone.
We are all "something making" machines if you look at it in that a crude way.
Haha, I am sure your parents had some lessons and he tried to make a few things easy for you. Just suppose you don't pressurize your kids to excel in career, and just hypothetically speaking they grow up and see people excelling in their careers and having regrets about not investing in career that well because the father thought that's the best for them coz of his own experiences. You see my point?
And how would you make money without doing that well in your careers for them to have a lavish life? And believe me, they will see some people having more than them and will still complain I will make sure my kids don't have to do so so so....and the cycle goes on. Alas!
I think I understand what you are saying. All the being providers and just trophy husband theories. As an adult if you can actually see and observe things around, you will see everyone has a responsibility. You can take it as an obligation and make it some sort of pressure, or understand how things are and find some joy in that way.
Will you just selflessly provide to anyone, without getting any return? How would you boast about giving all what you said to your kids? We all do things for ourselves. From one perspective you are just giving, but in actuality you are building an identity for yourself...of a good father/husband/ man / employee everything. No one is valuable without "providing" something. It is how it is. I do wish you find Love and selfless belonging along the way too. And I hope you can give that back without merely thinking of yourself as a "provider".
You need to put those efforts so that you don't stay messed up forever! It's your job.
Hang on buddy, try giving counters to your thoughts and questions. You shall have answers. Please don't get lost in the meaningless rhetoric set by some preachers on the web
Maybe I have a different take on this. This might be due to the reduced attention span of people. Watching reels and shorts might be a problem
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I don’t watch reels. Screw it. I don’t even have an insta account. Where did I go wrong, man ? This has got something to do with shorter attention span but not with everyone. I think what’s the most possible cause is due the idea that “life is meaningless” and in the end it’s a big fucking void that we are all drawn into.
I have lost my long time habit of listening to songs.
Please don't do that dear.
Me typing this sitting near a bonfire 🔥 and YT music on my pods with 19 songs of my fav list
Movies in my case. Also books
There are several reasons why people may lose interest in new things as they age:
Decreased dopamine: Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that plays a crucial role in motivation, pleasure, and reward processing. As we age, our dopamine levels naturally decline, which can lead to decreased interest and motivation.
Life experience and familiarity: As we accumulate life experiences, we may feel like we've "seen it all" and become less curious about new things.
Changing priorities: As people age, their priorities often shift from exploration and discovery to stability and comfort.
Cognitive changes: Age-related cognitive decline can affect our ability to process and retain new information, making it harder to stay interested in new things.
Social influences: Social circles and cultural norms can also play a role in shaping our interests and motivations as we age.
Comfort zone: As people age, they may become more set in their ways and less willing to venture out of their comfort zone.
Health and energy levels: Declining physical and mental energy can make it harder to muster enthusiasm for new experiences.
Life transitions: Significant life changes like retirement, health issues, or loss of a loved one can lead to a sense of disconnection and decreased interest in new things.
It's important to note that these factors can vary greatly from person to person, and many people remain curious and engaged throughout their lives. Additionally, there are many strategies to maintain curiosity and interest, such as continuous learning, social engagement, and seeking out new experiences.
ChatGPT is that you ? :)
Jokes apart, yeah these reasons are pretty significant and can affect our mental peace to a large extent. Thanks for sharing this.
Start any medium to high intensity sport. Atleast 4 days a week, preferably with people you're familiar with.
Drop Instagram/ Facebook/ Twitter.
Please go out in the morning sun.
Start reading books (fiction preferably)
Start writing a Journal.
Doing these things myself and starting to see little difference everyday progressively. Cannot guarantee the efficacy but can vouch for it.
Read books is a very cliche advice. Agree with other ones tho
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