SnoozyMuffin

Student

Need Help decoding this Situation - Guy suddenly went silent

Disclaimer: This is not a dating post

Started casually speaking to this guy from Grapevine. I got the confidence that he is genuine, so we chatted (no long chats or daily talk) over Instagram for 4-5 months. He had to fly to Bangalore for some work, so we planned to meet. He was all excited and decided the place too. We met for lunch; nothing shady or that would make me uncomfortable, he had some work so left after that.

We had exchanged numbers, and I thanked him over Whatsapp. It was all cutesy and funny for a day. I even shared some ice cream place I went to, the next day with friends.

And then talks went to zero. Anything I shared got a one-word responses. So I stepped back; no point being pushy even in friendship. We haven't talked for over a month now.

But he was (is) such a nice person. I don't know why he would just stop talking for no reason. Is it something I did or said? Was he expecting something different that I didn't do?

Do I send him some meme or something? Am I overthinking? He could be simply too busy to talk to someone he met once

4mo ago

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DerpySushi

Mensa Brands4mo

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PerkyWalrus

CARS244mo

Congratulations @Micheal_Scott @the_dark_knight @UnpaidIntern

SnoozyMuffin

Student4mo

@Valour Read the disclaimer again. Infact I don't even know if he is dating anyone for that matter

BubblyMarshmallow

PayPal4mo

Sometimes you spend so much time chatting online that the real you could be different from what you are over texts. Maybe he got a vibe that didn’t set with him. Bring it up with him. If you get a response you don’t like, accept it. Best not to sweat over it.

SnoozyMuffin

Student4mo

You are right. Though not sure if I'll be able to take that answer

BubblyMarshmallow

PayPal4mo

And that’s perfectly okay. It’ll probably hurts at the moment. The way I see it is that this is all character building. You have something that happens to you in life. The way you deal with it shapes who you become as you get older. It becomes your story. Something you’ll tell your therapist maybe 😅Don’t get too caught up in the emotion. Be accepting. It’ll bring give you peace.

PrancingNarwhal

PayTM4mo

Possible reasons:

He didn't like you in-person and decided to cut off when he got back.
He was actually looking for a bit more than a friend, which is usually the case, and got the vibe that you wouldn't be interested.
He found someone else, because he was actually looking for more than friends and his expectations might not have been met in the meet.

SnoozyMuffin

Student4mo

This has to be sanest comment on the thread. You wrote it without attacking me. Thank you

SqueakyMochi

Stealth4mo

Wise Men sometimes foresee & sense a thing which women can't, so they cutoff instead of trapping you via false hopes.

SnoozyMuffin

Student4mo

He definitely is that sorts, a little too wise for his age. Good thing 🥹

SparklyCupcake

Stealth4mo

If it’s friend, share a meme!
If it’s a love interest, share a meme!

Just share a meme!

PS: may not be a great advise. But sharing memes is a net positive to the society.

SnoozyMuffin

Student4mo

😂 yes I know. Don't know a appropriate meme to send esp after 1 month of not being in touch

SparklyCupcake

Stealth4mo

Also, he will comeback! They always comeback. Just wait it out. Why do you want to keep in touch? Sounds like a guy with some unresolved issues.

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