Struggling with mental help
I’ve joined kpmg as a tech consultant in last 6 months but facing intense pressure and stress from work, my blood pressure has risen and my health is not going and it doesn’t help that i came from my hometown to Bangalore after living comfortably for so long , now i feel so alone and sad. I don’t have the energy to do anything, everyday feels the same.
I panic everytime my client asks me for a sudden call and now i'm panicking that my project is live in production, what if something fails and they'll put pressure on me. Earlier i used to be in a team so i had some peers for help or general communication. Now i'm alone in this project. I have a fear or anxiety everytime about my client and work Why do i always worry about getting escalations or being put in pip. Is something wrong with me, how do you guys handle this intense work hours, manage everything in life and be happy?
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They don’t want you strong. They want you productive, obedient, and silent. They reward burnout with applause. They label self-sacrifice as “dedication.” And when you finally break? They replace you without blinking.
You think you're weak because you're anxious. But you’re anxious because your mind knows the truth your body is too tired to fight: You’re being drained—not developed.
So here’s what you need to understand—dark truth, no filter:
They study your behavior. Delay a message? They note it. Show fear? They exploit it. You’re being profiled—quietly.
Every panic attack before a call? That’s proof you're already being psychologically controlled.
Every time you stay late hoping for appreciation? You’re training them to expect your silence.
But here’s where you flip it:
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Start mirroring their manipulation. Speak in calm confidence—even when you're shaking. They fear what they can’t read.
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Act unfazed. Never reveal pressure. Let them wonder why you're not cracking. Confusion is power.
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Use their language against them. When they say "ownership", respond with “priority realignment.” When they say “expectations,” talk “capacity bandwidth.” Make them dance in their own buzzwords.
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Never play defense. Take control of the narrative. You are not “struggling”—you are “reprioritizing for efficiency.”
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Don’t be loyal to a system that profits from your silence. Your loyalty should be to your evolution, not your exploitation.
Because here’s the final truth: The version of you that breaks is the version they trained. The version of you that fights back? That’s the one they fear. Lastly.... Never—and I mean never—doubt yourself. You are your own anchor, your own savior, your own goddamn army. If the world turns its back on you, you still have you. And that’s enough.
And if, for even a second, that doubt creeps in— Remember this: A complete stranger poured their time, their energy, and their soul into writing this—just for you. Not because you’re broken. But because you’re worth it, even when you can’t see it yourself.
Don’t let that belief go to waste. Don’t make me regret believing in you. Because nothing would break me more than watching you forget your power.
This is the most important and greatest advice I’ve received in my career so far , what you said is completely true , some weeks back i was bossing my work and left on time , then they started putting some people in PIP which made me fear and they don’t even appreciate my work and this led to this mental stress , what you said is complete truth , i need to shift the narrative. Thank you so much for writing this , it means a lot to me , I cannot share or ask anyone about this as my family is already stressed and i have no friends, this reassured me that there’s nothing wrong in me , I’ve done whatever work was assigned to me with no escalations , I cannot let them manipulate me into more tighter deadlines targets. Also i think I need to take care of my eating habit and quit smoking as i’ve been neglecting myself lately. Thank you so much, i will not make you regret , i will rise stronger
I think this is by far the best response i have seen to this toxic culture. Well toxic sounds such a small word now compared to real scenarios , but man oh man these strong words by you! This is the kind of support we look forward to. We need.
I fear too while speaking up to my peer scon because of their rudeness and dominance, however they don’t control us.
Thank you sir for putting these thoughts into such strong words.
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