How to Deal with Toxic Manager

I recently started a new job. I would like to share some of the experiences I have had with my manager. I am wondering if these are red flags or if I am maybe being paranoid or thinking too much. It was quite difficult for me to get into this company and this job. The company is quite great and I was quite excited but some of the experiences I have had with my immediate manager have made me a bit apprehensive. I would like to share them and hear opinions about it. Here are some things which have happened which I have not liked so far - 1. I speak to a Senior Engineer one day and next day my manager asks me if anyone asked me to speak to him. 2. I shared an insight about a new tool which we can use on a deployment pipeline on the overall pod (under my skip manager). My manager immediately called me and started asking my status update and replied 'Discussing 1-1' in the group to prevent anyone getting visibility of the idea. 3. My manager pings me whenever I go offline and recently he asked me in a passive aggressive way, 'Please monitor your Teams status. It was away for most of today.' I now feel kind of paranoid to never get up as I feel my Teams status is being monitored.

For the past two years, I have been working as a software engineer at a service-based company. In this type of organization, employees are often assigned to different projects over time. Currently, my manager, who also serves as the team lead, has been engaging in excessive micromanagement. They seem to be nitpicking and closely scrutinizing nearly every aspect of my work, which I find to be a very frustrating and stifling experience. This level of micromanagement has made me feel uncomfortable and hindered my ability to work effectively. I am now considering changing jobs, as I believe this working environment is not conducive to my professional growth and development. Given the challenges I'm facing with my manager's approach, I am wondering if it would be a good decision to seek employment elsewhere. I am contemplating this move in order to find a work environment that is better aligned with my needs and allows me to thrive as a software engineer.

I am going through my notice at an early stage Start-up. The founder is extremely toxic and is trying to create issues despite me trying to work double hard. She is not even seeing my face and acting all weird - I don't know how to deal with this.

Does the Toxic work culture only exist in India or outside India also the same? Are the international Managers good compared to Indian Managers?

Hi folks, It’s a very detrimental time for me. I have been working with an organisation I don’t want to name. My manager is beyond Toxic, each day there hasn’t been a single day he hasn’t yelled at me and few other new folks in the team regardless of us doing heavy sweeping. He is so Toxic that even through I have leaves he does not approve them, recently someone in my family passed away even through I discussed I will be out of station and would be on leave to which he agreed. He has rejected it on the 2nd last day, when I have booked the flights and assured my family that I will be there at this grave time when they need me. I am at a point where he has pushed me to a point wherein I don’t have an option but to resign which he did around the financial year closing so the increment will be divided amongst less number of people. I have an education loan to look after and responsibilities of my parents, I am the single breadwinner in the family at this point of time. Hanging in there is becoming really difficult. Any advice or help would really help.

Myself working in a E-commerce firm. Where CTO is such a hypocrite, he wants to control everything and everyone. Like Micro Management to the extreme. Any suggestions rather than leaving this job immediately.

Lets use this space to describe our managers- Mine is so toxic, Has a very sad life though he is married and has one year old baby, jealous to next level,No boundaries! My manager is the most stupidest person I have ever come across in my life. Good managers are leaders on whom you can fall back to when you fuck up! Mine is so toxic that he only wants to take credit of best things done in the organization and everything otherwise he would just put on me. Keep on assigning tasks at odd hours, will msg why is this not done that not done! He has even tried silent treatment with me, as if that would work 😂 I mean he would try to show me that he is so pissed off with me because I choose not to attend his calls in off office hours, or maybe when i choose not to respond to his bullshit. Keeps getting deep into the arses of management. Would be first one to attend any parties and also the last one to leave the vicinity. Sometimes I feel so pissed off when I see people like him not been held responsible for a toxic culture at the workplace and how simply they just get away in a day by putting everythibg else on others. Being on a leadership designation, he is still so much insecure that he would leave no stone unturned to keep me out of the meetings where any achievements or good stuff is being discussed 🤦🏼‍♀️

Need help with the office situation. Our team recently(10 months back) onboarded a new Engineering Manager. Initially he showed some red flags but the team decided to give him some time to settle in the role. Now he is making life hard for junior employees. He doesn’t have enough insights around the product and keeps on fighting with the employees and keeps updating the leaders around the resistance being faced from the team. I am pretty sure he is working on this philosophy that just make old employees helpless enough so that they leave and he gets to be the new king of the team. Currently he struggles to get respect from the current team. Any help around how this situation can be remedied? He has built good repo with the VP and director. The leadership doesn’t seem to care for what’s happening at the ground level. Tried providing feedback via anonymous channels, now the VP is setting up one on ones with each member and just bullying around what’s the problem. If you mention anything then it will be established as your problem otherwise if you don’t share anything, it would be asked why such negative feedback

Toxic partner, toxic manager, toxic senior. BUT I LOVE MY COMPANY AND WORK PROFILE. What should be done?

Is it a good time to fight your manager or go against his/her decision in terms of the job market. Is there any other solution?