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BubblyTaco
BubblyTaco
Microsoft

Is my manager too much of a micromanaging red flag ? I started a new job and my manager monitors my Teams online status.

I recently started a new job. I would like to share some of the experiences I have had with my manager. I am wondering if these are red flags or if I am maybe being paranoid or thinking too much.

It was quite difficult for me to get into this company and this job. The company is quite great and I was quite excited but some of the experiences I have had with my immediate manager have made me a bit apprehensive. I would like to share them and hear opinions about it.

Here are some things which have happened which I have not liked so far -

  1. I speak to a Senior Engineer one day and next day my manager asks me if anyone asked me to speak to him.
  2. I shared an insight about a new tool which we can use on a deployment pipeline on the overall pod (under my skip manager). My manager immediately called me and started asking my status update and replied 'Discussing 1-1' in the group to prevent anyone getting visibility of the idea.
  3. My manager pings me whenever I go offline and recently he asked me in a passive aggressive way, 'Please monitor your Teams status. It was away for most of today.' I now feel kind of paranoid to never get up as I feel my Teams status is being monitored.
7mo ago
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QuirkyNarwhal
QuirkyNarwhal
Stealth7mo

Yes this is straight up micromanagement and insecurity.

Just stand up to him man. The more of such things you allow him to do, the more courage he will get and more he will fuck your life.

Just stand your ground for a few times and he'll understand that you are not the guy he can do this to.

BubblyTaco
BubblyTaco
Microsoft7mo

I agree with you bro, but I am new here and went through a lot to get this job. I’m worried if I might antagonise him further

QuirkyNarwhal
QuirkyNarwhal
Stealth7mo

If you will always be scared, he'll take advantage of that.

DizzyMuffin
DizzyMuffin
Stealth7mo

First earn the trust of him & stand for your self afterwards

TwirlyDumpling
TwirlyDumpling
Quantiphi7mo

Bad advice.No amount of work will be enough to gain trusts from rats like these.

SquishyMochi
SquishyMochi
Stealth7mo

@Paneerlabadar can't agree more on this..

SquishyUnicorn
SquishyUnicorn
Bombay Play7mo

You also monitor your manager's online status and once he goes offline even for a second call him.

SquishyUnicorn
SquishyUnicorn
Bombay Play7mo

You can enable status change I guess in teams for monitoring the status.

BouncyHamster
BouncyHamster
Morgan Stanley7mo

Can you help how?

JumpyLlama
JumpyLlama
EY7mo

Hmm, your manager is highly insecure. Micromanaging is a very low trait by a manager and irritating for the team. Try to switch company or teams, you can escalate as well but mostly these management people create a lobby to protect even their wrongdoings.

BubblyTaco
BubblyTaco
Microsoft7mo

Yes, usually they are empowered by their managers to do it so escalating might not help me.

SleepyNarwhal
SleepyNarwhal
Stealth7mo

All the folks advising you to stand for yourself are not giving you a job. As you said yourself it was an encumbered process to get the job.. protect it.. use interventions.. this isn’t the first micromanager neither will be the last.. check with your colleagues how they are managing him etc.,

JazzyPenguin
JazzyPenguin
British Telecom7mo

Well written

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