So you are saying you previously had clean lungs and a healthy body and mind & now you are a pathological smoker and have filled your lungs with tar to feel temporary relief from responsibilities.

God works in mysterious ways. What I did with my physical health was wrong. I might have compromised on my physical health for a while, but it gave me some solace which was much needed for my mental health. Now that it's a little better I'm back on track, I'm on my path to quit smoking and drinking. Already one month down.  
  
 P.S. I won't recommend anyone else to do the same thing. It's straight up risky and anything can happen.

Software Engineer

Hugs and kisses 🤗  
  
 Make good friends who are ambitious.

Founder

Covid batch 21, moved to Bangalore, got an apartment with a flatmate, abandoned all old friends, made new friends, made some new best friends. Bitter relations with my sister, long distance relatio...

Covid batch 21, moved to Bangalore, got an apartment with a flatmate, abandoned all old friends, made new friends, made some new best friends. Bitter relations with my sister, long distance relationship, never felt more lonely, didn't do well with the flatmate, depression, therapy, suffocation, suicidal thoughts, adopted a cat, realised nobody is there for you, started drinking, started smoking, started smoking weed, made friends who'd smoke with me, they helped me get out of depression, realised there will be no one for me, nobody cares if I'm alive or not, started cooking, realised smoking can be lethal, trying to quit, learnt how to live alone. 

I am much better now. I am happy alone. It's really elevating how happy being alone can be. Now I don't have any expectations from anyone, and I don't care how others play around me. I know I'll be there for myself. I am not dependent on anyone. The cat really helped me a lot. And I'm so grateful for all those people for not being there for me, it really made me the person I am today.

2022 - life changing year

2022 - life changing year- Grapevine

People who left home early for education and been away for like 10-15 years from families, what was the biggest lesson you learned in life

Biggest lesson in life

Consultant

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Less than 50 days left to end 2023, What did you achieve this year?

1. Still alive! 
 2. Didn't get laid off! 
  
 Win Win. Little things matter people!

Let me start by listing mine
1. Get into shape 💪 - I’ve set a target weight for myself, and a target muscle mass and body fat percentage 
2. One book a month 📕 - This is something I’ve tried over and over but never seemed to achieve.
3. Delve deeper into devops 🔄
4. Complete a few side projects I’ve had in my backlog for months
5. Quit smoking 🚭

What are yours?

Grapeviners, what are your goals for 2024?

I have only one goal for 2024. 
  
 No. More. Procrastination.  
  
 It has ruined my life enough already. 🙄

The whole lockdown is too much to go through and express in a single thread. So this is the first wave thread. 

Across this series of threads (wave 1 - 3), I, and hopefully more people will be looking forward to catch each others slice of life stories and look forward to the sequels over the next few days.

Subsequent posts will also have a link to this post so more people catch on. 

Catch mine in the comments!

What were the lockdowns like for you? First wave thread

Product Manager

Welcome to Mental Well-being's Private Community

I moved to Bangalore earlier this year for my work. I am having a decent package as a beginner around 15CTC. Initially I was living in PG for few months then moved to 1BHK alone. I thought it would be easy and more comfortable to live alone. But now after some months reality hit me hard. I am not interested in cooking so skip meals sometime(don't buy food from outside because I am fed up eating outside)
Most of the time I feel lonely or not at all good mentally. To tackle these feelings I go for solo trips with different communities but now I am tired with this to as after coming from trip I feel same. I am not into drinking and smoking so it becomes hard to socialize outside.

So, I am writing down here about my feelings. What should I do to avoid these feelings or minimise it? I need your suggestions. 

Now I am targeting to start preparing for a switch and then try to get a remote job so that I can go to my hometown but I can do this only after 8 months as there are bonuses which I have and to keep it I need to be here for 8 more months.

So, suggest me to tackle loneliness and negativity.

Started feeling lonely and depressed

Software Developer

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

I know gv isn't pych therapy. Aahh but still who cares?

You know what it means to be a middle class Indian family girl? It means you can't be ambitious, you have to be married by 25 and be pregnant by 30 and for God sakes you can't have a divorce even if your Husband is half gay and has been facing erectile dysfunctions for years and doesn't have interest in sex! I thought of suicide and was almost about to cut my wrists when I thought of my Parents. 

But still if you open up to your Parents they would say shut your trap and be supportive. But still I flew away from my Husband and got a divorce.

Half the time I wish I were born as a boy or never at all or had cut myself or had opted for foreign education even if I am the only child caring for my parents.

I know life sucks most of the time. I know it's ok to divorce a guy with mommy issues. Is it ok to come back to your own home and know you don't have any space or room for yourself, where you have grown up? Is it ok to come back home and be lonely? Is it ok to come back home and still can't sleep and need sleeping pills even if it's only for a few months as you can't bear to see the disappointment in their eyes?

I know life isn't fair. But if Mother or Parents aren't supportive of their only child, then hell yeah, I don't care too... But it's easy to say.. Very hard to implement... 


So for all men or women who are facing such issues... Just learn that sometimes people even if it's your family don't understand your problems "Ignorance is bliss!" And yes be selfish... People will talk trash no matter how much you care... 

Enjoy your life! Happy Dussehra! And let's hope next year we all will find our goals in our life! 😊

Choices for the crappy life

Associate Manager

Hi guys, I just graduated and started working. My office doesn't really have an in-office work culture, so I usually go to the office once in a while. The rest of the days I work from home.
I live at home, and I agree that staying with your family brings in a lot of comfort. But the place where I live is a small town. I don't have friends here, and my social life has become almost zero.
I feel like I have no one to talk to, my college friends on the other hand have moved to metro cities for their jobs, living with their friends. I see them enjoying every weekend which makes me feel bad as I don't have any friends here.
Even my college friends have stopped talking to me. At times, I feel very lonely and sad. I have also been seeing a therapist for a while now.
Could someone please help me with any advice/suggestions. I'm in dire need of advice/ perspective and have no one to talk to.

Feeling sad and lonely

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

During my B.Tech, I balanced my studies with active participation in clubs and committees, and also engaged in sports and exploration. Aspiring for a non-core placement, I didn't participate in hackathons or apply for internships. After graduation, I pursued various paths, including preparing for the CAT exam with only three months of preparation time, but I didn't succeed. I then applied to several companies for data analytics roles but kept making new mistakes in each attempt. In one instance, I was rejected for oversharing my passion for data science in a final interview.

To improve my chances, I optimized my resume and completed significant projects, but these efforts haven't yet yielded the desired results. Realizing the challenges of relying on a single target, I also started preparing for the GATE exam. Reflecting on my journey, I recognize that I should have applied for on-campus opportunities, as off-campus job hunting is challenging and unpredictable, regardless of one's preparation.

Tell me your story? In order to get some hope that we can make it and it's never too late

Let me tell my story

I am 21 years old. I have good offers (20lac+) from good companies, but I am not happy.

I always feel that something is missing in life, I don't know what and why I feel so.

I tried to get in a relationship, but whenever I express this feeling, things get bad between both of us. I really want to love and get loved.

I have been living my life alone for about 3 years now. I want to make friends, and I want to be in a relationship, but the last 3 years have not been nice to me because of which I don't like going out and having fun.

I was in a depression and a workaholic nerd for the past years and feel that now I have got wired in such a way which is not letting me have fun and enjoy life.

I find myself lonely.

Whenever I don't have anything to work on, I get anxious, and I get this question, what am I doing with life.

Maybe I am feeling lonely while writing this post and may sound little gone case.

Open to your suggestions, do share your stories if you have been through this phase.

Is it normal to feel like this?

How to be happy?

Can someone suggest a good therapist in Bangalore… not the online ones 
A reliable one where we can sit comfortably and talk

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