Sunday night blues.
Are you really happy? A lot of us are chasing something that can cause a really lonely, unhappy, unsatisfactory life. Share it with all of us.
Please. Serious replies only. Let's extend support for each other.
I am not happy. I feel like I wasted my chances. I envy my friends earning more than me. I hate my current job. I don’t have any direction in life . Today I came back from a friends meet up and suddenly my friends started discussing salary and I thought we went to similar tier 1 college but I wasted everything and these guys are just chilling. I have anxiety just thinking about life and those guys are getting drunk in sunday because they don’t have to think . I just feel like a sore loser . Now I am thinking why did I even agree to meet them 😭
Comparing the financial status with others is never a good Idea. There will always be someone earning higher than you.
True that. Comparison is evil
Disclaimer: All gyan coming up
“Are you really happy?” Help yourself defining happiness. For majority of people, including me, the happiness lies in earning good amount of money, being debt free in short time, providing everything that my family/close one deserves, being able to spend on any thing, anytime, without second thought, have your own house, never let monday feel like monday, ENJOY job.
I bet there are ATLEAST 3 things from above that helps you define your happiness. But the point to focus is we are straight away looking to achieve all this as soon we join the corporate world. The moment we get out of the education system and dwelve ourselves into real learning and work, we start hoping for the real things. It took you around 20 years to be where you are right now and that, might have been or might not have been in your control. I didn’t choose BTech, it happened.
The only way to achieve everything you aspire for is to give time. As you grow older and wiser, you understand what famous phrases meant. Rome wasn’t built in one day. Celebrate each and every small win. Set your own goals and target, don’t wait to get it recognised by the your office/colleagues or any third person. Don’t lose on celebrating your salary, your release, anthing anywhere just because it didn’t work the way you wanted. You hoped for 100, got 98. Celebrate it.
About lonely life, I wrote it one of the answers before, will share the link here.
Be optimistic in every way possible and believe me, it helps. All the love to the readers. Wishing you great great things coming to you soon ❤️
Beautifully written. I can relate to what you said.
Most of them don't think IT industry as a career that spans across decades. They want to be rich enough to FIRE in a decade or less. That's where all the evilness within starts.
People who are entering the industry - please breathe. Please live in the moment. The promotion will come when it's done. Don't stress yourself over it.
When it's time"
Yes, became happier when I stopped chasing stuff. There's a big difference between walking towards a direction and chasing a goal. Chase leads to burnout and disappointment. Directional thinking is open minded and chill. You can always change directions easily but changing goals requires much more effort since you optimise your life around goals too much.
Hopefully that makes sense.
Changing directions when you're single is relatively easy. When you're a family guy with kids, it gets infinitely harder because you have mouths to feed.
Having mouths to feed is more of a reason to figure shit out no matter what the direction, no?
So many immigrant parents take chances and gamble life savings to migrate for the betterment of everyone, for example.
Yep. I have to work on it constantly, but for the most time, it's a solid yes.
Happy for you bro! Give us some gyaan on what you do. Maybe we'll learn a thing or two.
Dear God, give me the wisdom to change what I can, and to understand and accept what I can't.
That's my philosophy in a nut shell about life. Rest is all downhill from there.
