A friendly reminder for the weekend and beyond: breathe, there's no rush!

Was thinking about our lives. Ever since you are in school, you have something to look forward to. When you’re in 1st grade, you know next year it’s 2nd grade and so on till you finish your undergrad. Suddenly, you could be everything or nothing at the same time. Those who are good at this game of eternal growth end up grinding their lives away in the PCM -> Engg -> B-School -> Consulting hell loop. Weirdly, the determinism in growth fades away suddenly and you see people finally pursuing diverse fields. Then, the realisation kicks in. You’ve been conditioned to chase eternal growth. That is what brings meaning to you in every part of your life. Today has to be better than your yesterday, or else it feels like you’ve failed. I wonder how sustainable that is but till then we will continue to throw our youth away. My 2 cents: You have a brief moment in history. Don’t spend your 10 years of prime in doing things that don’t bring you any joy. Don’t make the same mistakes all of us make chasing joys because others are chasing them. Find your own meaning to this eternal growth.

Some meditation tips to try this evening while sitting in cab (not driving) or at home. - Find a quiet and comfortable place to sit - Set a timer, even if it's just five minutes - Pay attention to your breath as it goes in and out - When your mind starts to wander, gently bring your attention back to your breath - Be kind to yourself when your mind starts to wander, and don't judge yourself for it - When you're ready, slowly open your eyes and notice your surroundings.

Pov : A Corporate employee

Some meditation tips to try this evening while sitting in cab (not driving) or at home. - Find a quiet and comfortable place to sit - Set a timer, even if it's just five minutes - Pay attention to your breath as it goes in and out - When your mind starts to wander, gently bring your attention back to your breath - Be kind to yourself when your mind starts to wander, and don't judge yourself for it - When you're ready, slowly open your eyes and notice your surroundings

So I might get some hate for this. I know this is weakness and the feedback I've gotten is toughen up. But I've never known how. Is there anyone else whose body and mind had accepted that they're not going to amount to anything but fought their way through it? Can you tell me your story? Or give me any book suggestions?

Ever since 2020, it feels like years have passed within weeks. I can't possibly explain this in words, but for some reason, time has been passing a bit too fast. Before I realized it, my graduation was completed, someone who would seem a grown-up to the person I was before the lockdown. Festivals don't seem to make me happy now, and neither does having friends and going out with anyone...everything seems normal and everything goes by before I can process anything on my mind. Is it just me? I can't feel any emotions like I used to, is it something that all grown-ups go through/suffer with?

I’m a very private person and I was a bit confused whether I should write here or not, but anyway. So, day before yesterday I was sitting on my chair after dinner and was thinking about my life and what the hell am I doing. I realised that, Saala bachpan se aaj tak race me hi bhaag raha hun. Pehle school me 1st, 2nd, 3rd aane ki race me. Then acche college milne ki race me. Then uske baad acchi job milne ki race me. Then uske baad agar ladki chahiye toh uske liye bhi ek race hai (Don’t have a gf, plz don’t take me wrong, it was a realisation) My current daily routine is like this: Wakeup everyday, write code, go gym, dinner, and then sleep and repeat this cycle everyday. School ke dost peeche chhoot gaye, college ke dost apni life me busy ho gaye, colleagues se main zyada baat nhi karta and main akela padh gaya. Feels like life is not intriguing anymore, it has no spark left. Its so painful to live everyday. I feel like I don’t want to live any more, I want to die but I can’t cuz of 2 reasons. 1. I’m the only son of my parents. 2. If I die like this, then I won’t be able to come out from the birth cycle. That’s it 🙏🏼

Out on a walk and the weather is all grey, Saw a Gulmohar Tree blooming with beautiful red flowers. Chose to sit down on a bench in the garden, While sipping some Rasna, saw some kids hurling stones towards a Mango Tree. They were hoping to get some Mangoes, still green and waiting to ripen but that wouldn’t stop them. And I wondered, our old social circle has now dispersed, some went abroad to study and others work in different cities. Some friends even live in the same city and you meet them for drinks or food sometimes. But we seldom do anything outside of Food, Drinks and Music. Can’t think of anything outside of these three things that you and your friends do. Maybe, I’ll take some initiative and explore more group sports. Because, I don’t want my weekends to be the same bar with the same food and the same music on loop for the rest of my youth. What about you all? What do you guys do on the weekend outside of this?

I’ll start first: “The greats never sacrifice the important for the urgent. They handle the immediate problem and still make sure to secure the future.”