I thought it was just me.  
 Well, I've provided consulting services to 30+ companies and received a lot of appreciation from most of them and from my own company's management. Recently, I joined a new organization, and I have self-doubt about whether I could be useful to them or handle these new projects, which I have never done in the past.  
 I know that after some time, I'll be the best performer here too, but for now, I have the same feeling of stage fright that you might be dealing with. 
 After all these years i still don't know how to handle it

Consultant

You’re not alone. I guess everyone has it and we gotta fake it a little when it comes to confidence. I slowly have developed a coping mechanism where I just ask myself “so what if goes wrong” and then the answers don’t seem that bad. Like haan thik hai itna kuch bhi nahi bigdega! That calms my anxiety down. 😅

Brand Communication Manager

Is this uncommon? Can someone shed some light pls.

Even after 10 years of experience, I still have stage fright.

Growth Manager

Even after 10 years of experience, I still have stage fright.- Grapevine

I don’t feel confident in terms of my skills as a product designer. I want to work on startups and I’ve seen folks from 10K joining companies like Cars24, Razorpay etc.
I feel I need some guidance and mentorship with respect to how to think as a designer. 
Is the course worth it? If no, what’s the best alternative you’d recommend?

Is 10K designers course worth it for someone with 3 YOE?

Product Designer

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

Hello, I have around 1.2 YOE in software engineering. I have been working on the biggest project in my org, and to deliver MVP, we are giving everything, and sometimes I feel too much pressure and get overwhelmed and wish I should never be a part of this. Sometimes, i can not even sleep and think only about work and project in the sleep. Is it normal? Seniors around me are very chill and handle every situation very calmly. I don't know if I would ever be so chill and calm or if it would be fine time by time while getting more experience in this field. If you ever feel this is relatable, how do you handle this kind of situation?

How do you handle pressure in the project?

https://leetcode.com/discuss/interview-question/5484246/Frustration-of-Facebook-Hiring-Process

Meta interview experience

Whenever I start (or forced to) interviewing I feel that I'm never going to find another job. Is this something I feel or there are people like me in this world?

Am I the only one who feels this?

Software Engineer

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

My manager is completely unpredictable. I don’t know what they want, they give me unclear instructions and often do a 180 degree turn when it comes to delivering it. They trivialise my work sometimes, don’t take feedback very well, at this point they’re taking revenge when I finally stood up for myself and explained my issues.

I have around 5 years of work experience and worked with various types of people but I’ve never worked for such a person. I even went to therapy just to see if something’s wrong with me instead. This situation is affecting my confidence a lot since I’m also new in the organisation and not able to settle down. 

Did you ever have such a manager and how did you deal with them?

Unpredictable managers

Founder

Welcome to Data Scientists's Private Community

I'm working at a decently large firm here in Bangalore, leading a cool project that involves stuff I really like, like modeling and data engineering. Plus, I'm helping leadership team with some cool projects which is giving me a lot of visibility in the org. Lately I'm finding it hard to stay motivated.

I'm on medication and seeing a therapist for depression, and I’ve been feeling a lot better overall. It's just that with all these responsibilities I'm not feeling happy. I sometimes vent out on juniors or colleagues (erratic behaviour).  

Has anyone else gone through something like this? What helped you get past this kind of mental block? Any tips or advice would be really helpful.

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Software Developer

Welcome to Business Roles's Private Community

I feel like this is a general problem that people who join startups in really early stages face. They get hired to do a function, then once the startup picks up, someone more senior gets hired and they’re practically demoted. 

This is happening third time to me, but still haven’t figured how to deal with it. The first time, someone from Stanford got hired and I felt really insecure about it. We got along pretty well but I couldn’t take that we were of the same age and this person was managing me despite me being around in the company for longer. 

That person left, my function was changed as well and again after a year, I was layered by another person. 

I just joined a new company four months ago and feel like the same thing is about to happen. I know they’re hiring someone. Makes me feel anxious about how I’ll lose ownership of things I’ve been doing and I haven’t even gotten the chance to prove myself yet. 

Do I just wait it out? Or talk to the founders about it? I understand where they come from, they do what’s best for the company. But I feel like I should look out for myself as well.

Startup folks - How did you get ahead in your career after being layered?

Drop the one small thing that made you feel good today.

Often we look for “happiness” while we rush through life like there will be time later to pause and enjoy. Little moments should be cherished and enjoyed - makes the day to day more meaningful. 

Mine: 

1. 5 small red roses and 3 white roses in the balcony. Waking up to that felt good and makes me smile today.

2. 5 minutes in the balcony and the morning sun. therapeutic!

What made you smile today?

An important meeting cancelled. Woke up to the cancelled invitation on my email.

Analyst

Welcome to Personal Finance's Private Community

I usually panic before an interview and end up not attending it at all or postponing it. Even after preparing I feel under pressure and get performance anxiety. How can I tackle this?
I’m always worried about what they’ll ask and if I don’t answer properly what will they think of me, I get such intrusive thoughts. And even after preparing I always feel like I have not prepared well enough.

Interview panic

Welcome to Product Managers's Private Community

Try to avoid asking questions which can doxx me on LinkedIn (that's where I post a little)

See if you can focus on asking questions around principles & not masala stories

Problem with masala stories is that you'll learn the wrong things from my narratives

This will be fun I think

AMA - 6 years in PM + 5 years Analytics

Product Manager

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

I think about seriously quitting my job atleast once every few months but I've stuck it out here for almost 3 years now.

I don't know if it's just me but the idea of putting myself out there and starting afresh at a new company is just terrifying -  the struggle to find something exciting but stable, being evaluated at interviews all over again, the uncertainty of fitting into a new team and having to prove myself all over again at a new work place - all of this just puts me off from taking any real action

I see everyone around me talking about career growth and taking up new opportunities. And rationally, I get it.  I get that there are tons of benefits to changing jobs - better salary, escaping a toxic workplace, etc. etc. I truly admire people who make these frequent shifts - seriously, how do people navigate this?

Job Switching is not for me

U guys are lucky to have job in product based companies: 
  
 We, in service based have to give interviews every now and then as the project changes. So as a byproduct we are kind of used to interviews 😂 (cry aa rha)

Growth And Strategy

I have good grip on grammar but when I try to speak I lose control and I am always lack of words while speaking but this is not the case while writing. 
How to improve this thing?
One thing worths mentioning here that I become nervous pretty quickly. It may be the potential cause behind this issue.

Communication Issue

Hi all, I just wanted to ask everyone here if they ever felt the way i am feeling right now in my role. I’ve been working for over a year now, and i feel burnt out all the time. I have a habit of saying yes to everything to my project managers/ team managers because i dont want to show any weakness or them thinking that I’m slacking off. This has taken a toll on me big time. Whenever I’m struggling with deadlines, i get legit scared, like shaking and all, and it’s frightening and annoying. I want to switch to a more stable company (currently in a company somewhere between a startup and a corporate- it has the downsides of both but upsides of neither imo). I wanted to know if this is something only i am struggling with or if anyone has any suggestions on how to tackle this.
Thank you all in advance:)

SDE 1

Hi Guys, I'm an SDE and I have this weird problem where I stress too much when some work is given to me which I don't understand.

Basically I'm not scared of high workload, as long as I know how to do it. Because then I know IT WILL BE DONE, I just have to work to finish it.

But when I get stuck on a problem, I DONT KNOW IF IT WILL BE DONE, I just keep thinking about it even if I close my laptop. The more I think, the more scary the problem becomes and then I start thinking if it continues and I'm not able to deliver more work, I might get fired and then during background verification for the next company, they will see I was fired and then no one will hire me. Basically my thoughts spiral out of control and make my life miserable to the point where I don't feel hungry.

If I'm confident I'm very confident, I feel like i can do any problem but when I see myself failing multiple times, i lose my mental strength

I need help and I want to improve this nature, not get stressed when things go south. Do you guys feel the same or know how to handle it

Any books or words of wisdom or thought process that you follow which helps you deal with job related work stress will be extremely helpful.

Strange work anxiety

I think I have social anxiety. Currently working in a lead role. Everyday I feel very anxious before any meeting. How to cope up with it?

Social anxiety

I'm typing this out as a way of collecting my thoughts and feeling a bit normal to take myself through the day. Context: I have been working with a small b2b IT firm for the last 1.5 years, and resigned yesterday. This was my first job straight out of MBA and it has sucked the soul out of me to say the least. The notice period is 3 months and I am really unsure how will I survive it considering that I'm already completely drained. 

I do not want to list out the reasons of how this place has been toxic for me because I also carry a lot of self doubt if it was really the toxicity of the place or my own incapability to handle the work. I do not have any offer in hand, and haven't started a job search either. Just wanted to put this out there to see if people here in the community have been in a similar situation in their professional lives and how did they figure out the uncertainty, was it a good decision for them in retrospect and if they have any tips for me to deal with this better, with less anxiety.

Panic after resigning from a toxic workplace

First of all congratulations! You're out of that hell hole how and you can now recover and realign.  
  
 Second - You'll be okay. Anxiety tricks you into thinking the worst possible thing will happen to you. It convinces you that it's the only possible outcome.  
  
 I'd say the first couple of days - just be. Do what you want. Decide that in the first week you'll consciously do nothing job related - the one you left and the one you should find. You'll need this time to feel like yourself again. Do things that bring you calm and joy. Nothing to big, could be as simple as a walk or making your favourite kind of sandwich.  
  
 After a week - do the following things : 
 1. List out every single thing you did at this job  
 2. Use this info to update the CV - it'll take multiple iterations. Send it to people for feedback, ask them to be candid, use chatgpt whenever relevant  
 3. Make a list of companies you want to work with  
 4. Visit their portal and other job portals 
 5. Find relevant jobs  
 6. Find people in your circle who can refer you. If you do not know any reach out to people on LinkedIn. Send request to multiple people to have a big top of the funnel  
 7. Simultaneously write down questions that you might be asked in an interview 
 8. Meet people you like  
 9. Do some kind of work out 
 10. Apply to jobs with referal 
 11. Repeat  
  
 Remember - you'll be okay.

Even after 10 years of experience, I still have stage fright.

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