Your hard work will pay off. Please don’t give up hope and keep trying. 
  
 Hair loss has been and is pretty common. Don’t let that impact your confidence; I know it’s not easy. You can also take help from a therapist; it’ll take time but you’ll start seeing results. 
  
 Sending positive vibes.

Product Designer

Karm karo fal ki chinta na karo. Ant me safalta aur kahi nai aapke pas he aegi. Says krishna

Frontend Engineer

Gist Prepared for JEE in Allen Kota, always been a low confidence , never believed in myself . Failed to clear JEE advance. Got Decent rank in SRM, VIT & State Eng. Exam then I did engineering from...

Gist-
Prepared for JEE in Allen Kota, always been a low confidence , never believed in myself . Failed to clear JEE advance. Got Decent rank in SRM, VIT & State Eng. Exam then I did engineering from state's private college.
I was always passionate about computer sciecne, deeply invested my time in competitive programming/core subjects & started to believing in myself. Somehow due to some reason, I left all of this & landed in Service based company, did not got the work i wished for, still procrastinated there & It took me almost 3.5 years to leave the company then moved to product based startup but still not competent enoguh to land role in some of best startup/orgs. 

During this phase I started to loose my hair & still loosing day by day(got so much insecurity). I tried multiple things to stop hair loss but failed. Doctors says it's androgenic alopecia. Due to long working hourse I got some other health problems too.

I feel life is always unfair.I don't know how to fill this void. I can't compromise becuase i always pushed myself beyond my limits, but in this case can'do enough.

Feeling frustrated about life

Software Engineer

Feeling frustrated about life- Grapevine

Being anonymous gives me a safe space. But life is getting tougher than ever each day.  
I wish I had a better paying job. I wish I had time to have slow mornings. 
I wish I could provide for my family and give them the things they much deserve. 

I wish I had a chance to rewire rewind and restart. 

I wish I could do more than I wish to do. 

It's all wishes guys . It's all hopes. .
Nothing seems fulfilling. Nothing seems to make me happy. 

I have forgotten what carefree days were like. 

Adulting is kinda hitting hard. I am not able to cope up. 
Can someone relate?

It's hard to manage work and life

Consultant

I’m a college grad from IIT in CSE. I haven’t done any competitive coding or any proper coding during my college days for that matter. I have lost confidence in myself for some reason. I had taken up a business job but left it in a few months because I thought I could do better. 
I want to do competitive coding but as soon as I open my laptop, anxiety kicks in. 
I need guidance on how to proceed and what recourses should I use. 
I don’t want to waste my degree as I feel I can do better than my previous job. 

Please help me on fighting my demons.

Confused about how to proceed in life

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

I am 23M working in a well renowned Fintech startup. Have got what I have dreamed of in college like high ownership, good pay and other similar things. But lately realized that I can't do these things for my majority of life. Although I enjoy my work but still feeling lonely and aimless.

Previous to September it was remote but now they have made it hybrid and I have to reallocate to Gurgaon and now I am feeling more lonely and aimless in life.

Have tried travelling and other stuffs inorder to find interest in life but nothing excites me.

What to do in life? Feeling aimless

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

on the basis of
1. Education (10th, 12th, JEE, College,Placement)
2. Health Fitness 
3. Relationship
4. Good/Bad Friend Circle 
5. Happy With Salary or not 
6. Mental Peace

Share your failure and Success

Software Developer

I'm a software engineer with 2 years of experience. I feel like I don't have programming acumen and can't understand things like others. I really struggle at my job and has to give extra time even weekend to perform at my job. 
I don't understand big codebase, integration services.
I feel like quitting this job and do something else but can't gather enough courage as job is paying well and paying my education loan also.

Please suggest what should I do?
How can I become better at my job and do well without feeling humiliation daily

Not able to perform

Welcome to IT Company Discussion's Private Community

Hey guys, 

I'm a recent engineering graduate from a Tier-1 University with decent skills and cgpa. 

As I graduated, I got placed in a MNC as a consultant. But I haven't heard any updates from them yet. Worried about my future, I've started applying to companies for internships and jobs too.

But not only am I not getting selected, I'm not getting any kind of updates from these companies too. Not even as much as a rejection mail. I've recently hit three digits in the number of applications and it's worrying me to see no responses. 

So this is my humble request to the community to help me find a job. I'm a skilled data analyst with proficiency in SQL, Excel, Power BI and Python. I also did many projects on data science and machine learning but my primary interest lies in analytics. 

Even anything as small as a suggestion/tip on what to do or how to proceed would be helpful !!!

Thanks in advance.

Frustration on a daily basis

Although I'm early in career(~4 Yoe) but I feel distinterested in it.

As far as I remember I was always interested in computers and programming(even before I knew it pays well), it's probably the only hobby I ever had.

It felt good in beginning but lately it feels like I'm dragging myself to work. I thought maybe I'm just distinterested in working for the employer but I don't feel like coding for fun either.
Doesn't feel like burnout because I haven't felt too much pressure from work in a while.

I thought this would be transient but I can't remember when it was fun last time. Has anyone else felt like this? Does it get better or is this just my life going forward?

Do you ever feel disillusioned with work

Totally in the same boat. 
 Sometimes I think of leaving everything and starting afresh in a different career.  
 Or sometimes I think of starting something of my own and quitting the corporate world.

Welcome to Data Scientists's Private Community

Currently working in a startup and contributing in data science projects. Learning is good but a lot of time goes down in meetings and discussions and I have to do late night work. Everyday starts to feel like the same and I am not able to get time for extra learning to enhance my knowledge and tech stack.
Also thinking of company change but most of them need 3-4 years exp to the data science team. 😭

Feeling losted

Welcome to Mental Well-being's Private Community

Big post rant !!!

32 years old Male, born and brought up in UP.
Parents native to Karnataka, post bachelor’s got job in Microsoft on third party payroll working as support engineer for Azure Identity.

Wanted to prove my worth to the organisation and make my parents proud, unfortunately things turned out bad had to leave in a years time.

8years into the industry i see my batchmates my friends and younger ones making 4X money at minimum what i make currently (16LPA), married but again things are not turning well for me.. I have lost all interest from life don’t feel like going out, learning new things no hobbies also just working on office tasks since it provides paycheques.

I really feel like I am left behind and will always be left behind. I know life’s not fair but I just have lost it at all corners of my life.

Its just that i am living for my parents !!

Lost in Life !!

I will tell you a real life incident. One of my batchmates was an average guy, okayish in studies. He even got an job with very low pay. He left the job to try for government exams or business. After couple of years gap he joined a small private organisation again. Worked hard and moved to another organisation. Now after all these years he is working in Europe at a handsome salary, married and lives a good life. Point being, everyone’s life clock is different. You may feel stuck today but tomorrow might be better.

I often feel that I am under qualified for my job and have been able to clear all the rounds by pure luck.
I think that if I go out in job market I won't be able to again bag such a good offer...
Does any one  else also feel so... How to overcome with this feeling...

I feel like I have no talent and got job by luck

I woke up with a notification that started with “Hope you had a great weekend. Unfortunately…”

I didn’t have the courage to open the entire mail. I knew what it was. 

A little context here, i have been unemployed for the last 5 months. I got laid off from my first job with not even an year of work experience. We all know how bad the market condition is, and how harsh it is for freshers. Me being the optimistic person that i am, ignored all these setbacks and began my hunt for my next dream job. With the help of my friends, I started preparing for interviews. I was lucky enough to get shortlisted for few good companies. But somehow or the other things always went south and i ended up without an offer. I made sure to not get disheartened and keep trying my best with a positive attitude. And then i interviewed with this one company, that perfectly aligned with me. All my interviews went well and made it till the final round. Now it was a call from the leadership. I strongly believed that this is my shot. After months of feeling stuck, I thought this is going to be my moment of relief. Even though this journey was hard i made sure to enjoy every bit of it. 

But now here i am with another rejection mail. I am now questioning my entire belief system. And not sure what to do next.

Any advice/suggestions are welcome :)

How hurt are you today?

Do not attach your work to your self worth. You are worthy of many things even if you don't have a dream job. Don't limit yourself or judge yourself this early in your career. Have patience and give it time. You'll be alright.

Generalist

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

I interned at a company for more than 10 months.
Gave my heart and soul to it
They made me work late nights, gave me so much work
I completed them all
And now they denied a full time offer citing budget reasons
I feel like a loser now. This is so not fair. Now placements at college are also over so theres no hope left
Completely loss of words.
I don't know what to do
Can someone please guide me

Feeling dejected, demotivated, loser

Hello, how's your life going lately my friend?

Life

I am a 2024 graduate. I got a job of 8.55 lpa . I am from a tier 3 college. I regret not doing Competitive coding or open source. I was just doing leetcode questions and leetcode contest. I thought I could easily get 15 lpa job ( my bad ) . But now I want to switch from here within a year . What should I do ?

Lost in life

For me it was always startups and now looking at the landscape I think it’s very hard. For 8 years, I just wasted my time.

Anything I am building is failing. Couldn’t raise any funds, non of my products reached mass market or gain enough profits. Have skills but non to utilise on!

Indian B2C is extremely hard, and even though people think Saas is great, bad news guys, Indian business rather use excel than pay for jira. There is a saying now - “Easier to earn a dollar than a rupee”.

Have meet so many founders and VCs. Most of them lost touch of reality. Either moved to US or on leave from their own startups.

Only think I know is going through a complete mental breakdown and no one to look up to. My gf left last year, can’t even get any jobs in this market neither can build something useful.

What gives your life meaning ?

Founder

It can be anything related to not doing something you always wanted to but never did, a mistake you realize you shouldn’t have made, or feelings of not being successful enough. Feel free to share your thoughts.

Do you have any regrets?

Failed to spend enough time with my parents. Life moves really fast. If you're around your parents take care of them, spend time with them and if you're away then make sure you visit them often ☮️

I think I'm losing my mind. I'm a 32-year-old guy in tech, graduated from IIIT Delhi, earning 78L annually, but I feel like I'm fooling everyone, including myself. It's as if I'm constantly waiting for someone to burst into the office and shout, "Hey, fraud! We've finally figured out you're actually useless!"

I know it sounds like I'm humble-bragging, but trust me, I'm not. This feeling is eating me alive.

Seven years ago, I started as a regular software engineer. Somehow, I kept getting promoted. Now I'm leading a team of 15 people, handling critical projects, and sitting in meetings with the higher-ups. But every time I'm in those meetings, I feel like a kid wearing his dad's oversized suit, pretending to be an adult.

I work my ass off - late nights, weekends, you name it. But I always feel like I'm barely keeping my head above water. When my team comes to me with problems, I'm secretly panicking, thinking, "Why are you asking me? I'm as clueless as you!"

The worst part? Everyone around me seems to think I'm some kind of wunderkind. My boss is always praising me in front of others. My team looks up to me. Even my parents are bragging about me to all our relatives. But inside, I'm constantly terrified that I'll make one tiny mistake and everyone will realize I'm a fraud.

I see my college batchmates on LinkedIn, and they all seem so confident and successful. Meanwhile, I'm here, earning more than I ever thought I would, but feeling like I don't deserve any of it.

I can't even enjoy my success. I bought a nice house last year, but instead of feeling proud, I keep thinking, "What if they fire me tomorrow? How will I pay for this?" It's like I'm waiting for everything to come crashing down.

I know it's ridiculous to complain about a high-paying job when so many people are struggling. But this constant fear of being "found out" is driving me insane. I can't even talk to my friends about it because they'll probably think I'm just showing off.

Has anyone else felt like this? How do you deal with feeling like a fraud when everyone thinks you're successful? Is this just part of adult life that no one talks about?

This is what eats me alive during weekends, realised it's Friday and panic typed this here

Making 78L at 32, but I feel like an imposter. Is this normal? (Self-reflection + seeking advice)

Socrates: “I know that I am intelligent, because I know that I know nothing.”

Welcome to Ask Grapeviners's Private Community

Life is hard, and plans don't always turn out the way they should. 
But when we look back over our lives, we realize that some decisions really changed the course of our lives for the better.

What decision in life worked out well for you?

During my B.Tech, I balanced my studies with active participation in clubs and committees, and also engaged in sports and exploration. Aspiring for a non-core placement, I didn't participate in hackathons or apply for internships. After graduation, I pursued various paths, including preparing for the CAT exam with only three months of preparation time, but I didn't succeed. I then applied to several companies for data analytics roles but kept making new mistakes in each attempt. In one instance, I was rejected for oversharing my passion for data science in a final interview.

To improve my chances, I optimized my resume and completed significant projects, but these efforts haven't yet yielded the desired results. Realizing the challenges of relying on a single target, I also started preparing for the GATE exam. Reflecting on my journey, I recognize that I should have applied for on-campus opportunities, as off-campus job hunting is challenging and unpredictable, regardless of one's preparation.

Tell me your story? In order to get some hope that we can make it and it's never too late

Feeling frustrated about life

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