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Feeling unmotivated at 32 already, in various aspects of live. Framework to solve it ?

Finance and personal : DINK, but planning. No major savings or investments. Will be only a few lacs (10-15 lacs) before the baby is here. Wife will be off the job for a couple of years. Will be living pay-check to pay-check on my income, with a family to support. Struggling with health. Gained 20 kgs in 3 years. Putting efforts to undo this, but struggling. Professional: 8 yoe+ in Product management. Current employer not aligned with long term personal goals ( post 5 years type goals - tier 2 settle in, remote etc ) No increment since quite a while…company is growing but slowly. Mentally: Nothing is making sense. In the larger scheme of things, nothing really matters. Inertia is there to change job. No motivation to work at all. What will I even do after a job change ? There is no excitement of the same. No excitement of starting up myself either. Something doesnt feel right. I used to be the powerhouse of energy and motivation, a while back. Now I’m just the opposite. Is it fatigue speaking ?

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funnysawfish

Cred

6 months ago

Okay fact checks before I bash School fees today are soaring to 2-4 lpa You and your wife's cumulatively have saved 10l How are you going to increase this corpus single handedly ? Dont get a child into the world and not be able to get the best for them, wtf ? Life is hard work is hard, switch get better job, wait another year atleast have 25 lpa in bank account before having children. Please think of the child and their basic expenses, kyu trauma Dena h bache ko 😭 People who want to do better in their life, do shit. Go out get other offers, do gyaanbazzi on LinkedIn whatever it takes, I repeat whatever it takes.
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TheGoatLife

Deloitte

6 months ago

Same situation mine too, u spoke my mind lol Don’t know how to push myself, no motivation & being lazy in all aspects of life Hope this time shall pass soon
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DudeBrahma

Stealth

6 months ago

@Amafan you seem sorted at least on the job front, I guess. Its Deloitte, and not an early stage startup in funding winter! 🥹 Want to grow out of this situation man! Do share how you cope up. Anything without the greens and alcohol would help :)
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TheGoatLife

Deloitte

6 months ago

Every company and work has their own story bro Just because it’s Deloitte, nothing fancy or happening here I am at that point of life, mental peace is much more important than money! I am going by the flow now, need to start going back to gym and also solo trip I have planned By gods grace no habits of greens/alcohol & will not do too Need to get out lazy & fatigue stage asap You also do share how do you manage all this
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boredcoder

Freelancer

6 months ago

Have a kid, situation might change
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DudeBrahma

Stealth

6 months ago

Plan is to have at least one. i’m sure decision-making will change like crazy from there on, and so will life. But the idea was to be in a much better place before the first kid.
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funnysawfish

Cred

6 months ago

Wtf
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SmugCyclamen

Uber

6 months ago

Same here bro. I am also sad that I don’t have much savings as I expected although I do have some investments. Planning to have baby later this year( atleast will try). Also thinking of making a switch before that happens . Atleast get 50LPA. Wanted to check how’s your income like ? I too need to lose atleast 10Kgs. So very similar story as mine.
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Capacitor

BYJU'S

6 months ago

U r in an ideal state that most aspire to. May be a bit more of savings may have felt better, but that money will come. Think fo the folks who are out of job. Folks who are dependent only one salary. Typical midlife crisis bro, don't worry too much. Both of u focus on getting ur health right. "Daily motivation" at work is overhyped. If the work doens't make u run away or hide from office, u r good. Things will change. If u r not sure, sometimes staying put and equip with more knowledge is better to take a decision. To quit or not, etc.
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