Grapevine love

Hi Grapeviners, This is yours truly Micheal_Scott with a massive announcement. We shared a feedback form with all of you yesterday. 5000 of you responded. We asked what you’d want Grapevine to be next. And you answered. We treat user feedback as gospel. Grapevine is now a dating app. Just as you asked. Grapevine has 10s of thousands of eligible singles. I personally cannot wait enough for the first Grapevine baby!

I saw a friend tweet about how Bangalore is full of connected but lonely people jumping in to join every Meetup/WhatsApp group that becomes available. This is my problem with the meetup / conference culture. Meetup culture is all about optionality. You think you'll meet someone new who's cool. Someone who can help you build your network. You would rather join a meetup with 100 other strangers than build stronger connections with your friends. In life there are only a few people who really matter. People who you can call at 11 PM to rant about your workday. People who you know will be genuinely happy about your promotion. People you share screenshots from work with. It is not probably the 100 strangers in that Whatsapp group that you think of when you are having a health issue and want to share your fears. It also means lowering your ego, which I'm happy to do with my old friends. I'm always happy to ping them when I get the chance, and I'm the one asking them to call me. I'm the one who asks them to hang out with me. I used to think, "Why bother?" but then I realised that it doesn't matter who reaches out first. It is not about keeping a count. I realised it's for me! If I have a chat with a friend of mine who I have known for over 10 years, my mood improves immediately. Everyone is very busy. Everyone is stressed with their jobs and their personal lives. Some of them are married now. Some have children. But that's where you've got to work to keep connecting with the people who matter to you. Friendship is also about being vulnerable. True friendship is built on vulnerability. Being able to share your dreams, your failures and your demons with each other. While the meetup culture is all about bumping into people for 5 minutes to judge their worth and whether they are worth your time, my preference is for long 1-1s. Either on the phone or face to face. I am happy to meet just one person over the weekend and have hours of conversation about work, life or wha

Yahan aake lagta hai mere hi jaise aur log hain jinki mara rhi hai roz, jo kuch kehna chahte hain chupke se, lagbhag aas paas ke age ke hi hain Bada achcha lagta hai kuch der Grapevine pe baith ke……

any app is a dating app, if you are a indian. Wondering, how long will it take to see "i found my soulmate on gv" post

I think we fall for people who are opposite to our insecurities. And this is beyond how they look, what they do for work, or which school they belong too (that's for arrange marriages 😂 ) I am someone who cannot keep up good habits (for long) and tend to question myself at every step. People who are disciplined and self aware are very hot to me! Do you relate?

How did you bring it up in conversation? Asking for a friend 💁‍♀️

I met my girlfriend during college, 5 years ago. We were so much in love. I remember we used to go on dates to picnics, museums and the works. I spent and invested a lot of money and time in this relationship. I feel that my life is purposeless now that she has left me. Her father is a very high ranking government official. He has gotten marriage proposals from very well endowed political connections. Apparently some ex-CM's son is out in the marriage market looking. I don't know why but I still thought we would make it. Like, nothing can come between us. She texted me last night that she was leaving me because I only make 14LPA. My hands are still trembling. I want to go be the best version of myself and simultaneously think that the train tracks are looking comfy to sleep on.