How hurt are you today?
I woke up with a notification that started with “Hope you had a great weekend. Unfortunately…”
I didn’t have the courage to open the entire mail. I knew what it was.
A little context here, i have been unemployed for the last 5 months. I got laid off from my first job with not even an year of work experience. We all know how bad the market condition is, and how harsh it is for freshers. Me being the optimistic person that i am, ignored all these setbacks and began my hunt for my next dream job. With the help of my friends, I started preparing for interviews. I was lucky enough to get shortlisted for few good companies. But somehow or the other things always went south and i ended up without an offer. I made sure to not get disheartened and keep trying my best with a positive attitude. And then i interviewed with this one company, that perfectly aligned with me. All my interviews went well and made it till the final round. Now it was a call from the leadership. I strongly believed that this is my shot. After months of feeling stuck, I thought this is going to be my moment of relief. Even though this journey was hard i made sure to enjoy every bit of it.
But now here i am with another rejection mail. I am now questioning my entire belief system. And not sure what to do next.
Any advice/suggestions are welcome :)
Do not attach your work to your self worth. You are worthy of many things even if you don't have a dream job. Don't limit yourself or judge yourself this early in your career. Have patience and give it time. You'll be alright.
I had one interview today for product operations analyst role. During the interview I talked about how interested I am in product domain and have refined my data skills from past few months. Then basically the guy said this is more of a collaborative role rather than analytics role. I said that's not a problem for me. I have experience working with various teams. But I guess he had already made up his mind to reject me. Didn't even let me finish my last question that I was about to ask him. He signed off by saying let's see if you are selected or not. Absolutely heart broken. Cried a little. It's been more than 7 months.
Same here....it's going to be 8th next month for me ...interviewer basically asking if we can do from support level to manager level works all together....2 interview I have seen...they didn't even ask any tech questions I prepared really well...don't know what's happening ... doubting myself
Which company was this ?
I know it’s hard to digest every time the rejection mail but chin up! as there might be some good opportunity knocking at your door very soon.
I was laid off last year despite being highest rated employee in my team, still I was getting 50% less than avg of my team members at my level which I got to know after layoff. This was heartbreaking.
I made it to 10 companies final round, but I didn't get offer from any of these companies. It used to significantly impact my self worth and my belief in my own abilities. I got an offer from another company.
In the hindsight I realised why it happened that way, without layoff I wouldn't have left wfh. I was looking for remote opportunities, but I needed to shift from home and do therapy to resolve depression and anxiety. The companies that didn't work out had layoffs in the upcoming quarters. This made me trust in the universe and the creation itself. What I wanted I didn't get, but what I needed at that point of time and would have helped me in this journey of life, I was given.
What I wanted may not have been the best for me. Everything is moving for you for your own growth. Believe in universe and surrender yourself to it. Let go of control how you want it to unfold and keep going.
Do meditation, gym, therapy if possible or share with your friends or journal, have a trip or anything that makes you happy and keep going. Note down your thoughts. There is a framework in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to evaluate the thoughts.
Situation| Thought | Emotions | Evidence for it | Evidence against it. You can do this exercise.
The success metric for everyday can be different. We all are on our own journey. So, enjoy the journey. Change your perspective and thoughts and it will help you navigate better.
Those are some really wise words!!! Made my day so much better
Don't give up. Giving up is for losers. You might be broken inside but won't be long before it's all put back together! Best wishes mate.
Easy to say sir