How to not feel empty: engage your primary frame of intelligence at work

I earn enough. Here are my problems: 1. Don’t have friends who I can talk to 2. Dating life is weird and complicated (can’t find someone I’m truly happy with) 3. Don’t enjoy living in blr 4. Don’t have tight bond with siblings or parents Suggest me some ways in which I can improve. Please only suggest things that worked for you.

Everyday i wake up with no motivation to work. Spend most of my day trying to gather any will i have to get something done and just wait for the evening standup. After which i have no energy to do anything since all was lost trying to ( not necessarily doing ) work. Can anyone relate? Or gone through it? How do you even fix it? PS: don't suggest grass is greener on other side and how there are jobless people in the world...

How to find hobbies or anything that I like to do? I’m in Bengaluru, with a lot of free time. I don’t know what I like anymore. I frequently watch movies from theatre and that’s the only thing I do now

I don't know if this post would make sense, but does anyone ever wish they were less? Less competent, less "bright", less "smart"? I'm not being braggy but I am pretty smart (not book smart but smart smart) and while objectively I am doing pretty good, I just constantly feel like I'm not living up to my fullest potential! Should I be on the lookout for a better job (the present one is fine) or preparing to study more or, I don't know, to scale and scale? It feels like everyone has such high expectations of me and I hate making mistakes, even if it is a typo in a document The anxiety that I'll never live up to my potential becomes so crippling, it becomes counter productive and like Dr. Strange, I forseen like a 100 different possible outcomes of every decision because I can't seem to turn my brain off! Ignorance is bliss and I so wish I could be ignorant

I have a feeling I have become dumb/dumber as the folks around me grasp things much faster ! I am a 33 year old guy and have been having this feeling since last couple of years. Anyone else in the same boat and if yes,what could be the reason behind this and potential solutions ?

And I feel I am a dumb guy. The main thing is they have been very well educated, they have a ton of experience, every tiny detail about these people who I work with is so extraordinary and I feel like I am a dumb guy who is not even good with writing an email. Its not that I am not trying to learn, I am trying to extract as much knowledge from them but still it feels like I will never ever be as good as them.

I am 23M working in a well renowned Fintech startup. Have got what I have dreamed of in college like high ownership, good pay and other similar things. But lately realized that I can't do these things for my majority of life. Although I enjoy my work but still feeling lonely and aimless. Previous to September it was remote but now they have made it hybrid and I have to reallocate to Gurgaon and now I am feeling more lonely and aimless in life. Have tried travelling and other stuffs inorder to find interest in life but nothing excites me.

They have no life They have nowhere to go They have no one to be with They have no passions outside work either And they make your life hell as they become the baseline for comparison for all sorts of management from appraisal to work distribution. Feel free to disagree with me, but I’m genuinely pissed today. How do you deal with them? I have a decent life outside work but lose most of it while trying to catchup to such people so that I don’t get fired. Sorry for the title.

I've done my Btech in EC from NIT. Worked for 2Y as a dev in IT Services co. Then I did my MBA from one of the old IIMs. Got placed as a "Consultant" in one IT services co, where JD said the role is client facing and business centric. Have been working here for close to 2Y. Basically I'm part of an Agile project team, as another Dev/QA resource. I basically do QA for project releases and occasional SQL scripting. Tried internally to switch to a Project/BA role but this experience is hindering me. Outside it's even worse as I don't even get shortlisted. I believe I have good skills to excel in Product/BA/Project roles. But not getting them as I don't have any prior experience. My confidence is very low now and my career seems to go nowhere. The pay is also worse, 21.6LPA currently ( of which 17.6 is fixed). I'm not complaining and this money is a lot for most people. But it's not even close to what my juniors after 2 batches earn. The only upside in my job is no pressure and can work remotely most days. What should I do ? Shall I learn AI/ML and move to an Individual Contributor role ? How to get shortlisted for these after prep? Any advice or leads would be helpful, TIA.

I can't seem to relate to much of the non-FAANG junta out there. I mean I have a cushy job with probably 0.1% pay of all SWEs(pretty much like all of us do). But these cookie-cutter roles have been taking a mental toll on me. Like I am getting paid but I feel a little purpose-less. What am I gunning for in this life? All my life I wanted to go to a good college to get into a good company. In college I wanted to get a good codeforces rank so that I could get into FAANG. Now that I am in FAANG I have nothing to look forward to. Any of you all feeling this way? Because I don't see myself offer-shopping and feeling much happy about that either.