It's lonely, Ain't it?
I am working hard on my myself Gym study work sleep Make sure everything is completed on time So that the schedule doesn't mess up But Why? I get a feeling of someone I need To tell everything how my day went Bhai PTA hai mai ugly hoon Theek hai Par yar ek limit hoti hai in thoughts k In my WorkSpace I make sure to keep professional bonds with my team Ghar aata hoon to Kayi bar phone ko dekhta hoon Na h koi call Message Bus office wala phone h hai Jo phone lagta hai PTA nhi ye sab kyu ho rha mere sath Akele marna likha hai Phir bhi dimaag ghumta h hai Dhere Dhere confidence peace self esteem Mar rahe hai These thoughts are winning ..... Mere Ghar par koi nhi hai Na h Bhai behen 1 dost hai wo busy rehta Kayi bar marne ka bhi man karta I close my eyes and cry sometimes Ek normal routine wala Banda is had tak emotionally har chuka hai Kya pap kiya hoga maine
there are certain skills like socialising and talking to people and ( you didn’t about parents so not saying that part but try opening up to parents)
… so you 1st thing is you are blaming those skills with your looks.
2nd thing is you are completely ignoring the statistics that no one calls you OR you not getting any messages, bro/bhai I have many many friends, many are close but even I will get less messages, in-fact in most close friends group I’m the only one who will message and break the silence and initiate.
So the point i’m telling is people with work and family commitments will call you less and you are bound to become lonely, this experience is almost with everyone.
3rd , it fine yaar , its hard skill honestly to maintain a friend, I have started to loose many close friends and the circle is shortening year by year. But one thing is you will find a person with whom you will spend few months, he will be your good friend in that time period and then suddenly you will never talk to him , try bonding with such people and try to make someone your good and then close friends over the years.
XREEP
Student
4 months ago
Exactly
about self esteem and confidence, you can start accepting that yes you have less friends and yes you are bad at making it , then you should stop blaming these things to your looks and other stuffs because these things aren’t relevant. Then you need to clean your sub conscious thoughts, this helps to improve your self esteem, start initiating talks and dialogue, if you think you failed instead of blaming feel good that you tried , these kind of mindset will improve your self esteem and small small initiative will improve your confidence
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@Yui sorry to hear this man. Bro Rab nu yaad kr sb vdeeya hojega. Bro why don't you DM ME, let's call... I also like to talk a lot.. And share about day.. (I am straight btw so don't take it other way)
Thynker
Student
4 months ago
Yui naam k drama se related lag raha hai. Ladke nhi dekhte mostly . Dont worry you are not losing straightness.
Bro kuch smj ni aaya. Type in English please or in a better hindi
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Find a hobby club. Go to billiards and snooker clubs. Start playing with them. Talks will happen.
Find nearby sports club and take classes for tennis or badminton. You will find partners to play and talk.
Find anything like that. When you are good at something , people will come and talk. Make yourself good at something.
Master a game or life skill ( not technology). Then see the difference. Matter of few months only.
Read astrology if it raises interest. Learn palmistry. Everyone will give their hand to you to read.
Imagine that.
I have all above (billiards, tennis, swimming, astrology , palmistry) successfully in last 15-20 years and made friends along the way. Friends will come and go but some new connection will be there every week or month with whom you can spend time. And one of them may stay for long term.
JustPotato
Student
4 months ago
to be frank, I am in a similar state. Work, sleep, work, gym, read, study, music, repeat. I used to talk with people, but these days I don't find enough time, nor enough energy to socialize. This might sound like a very philosophical message but the truth is, at the end of the day everyone is alone. People who talk and interact with you see a version of you that fits their interest. And nobody can truly fulfill you as a person, because a different mind and a different person will always have issues in understanding your own self. So brother, here is what I find peaceful. Make peace with yourself, until you are completely satiated with your very own company, your very self you won't find peace. Socialize, read, meet with people (meetup is really good for that), Interact. Maybe read Meditations by Marcus Aurelius and try to see that at the end of the day, the true independence comes from relying on ourselves.
XREEP
Student
4 months ago
Dude get hold of yourself...
Yui
Student
4 months ago
I am, trying my best
But I can't win everytime
Looks like my time is ending
XREEP
Student
4 months ago
What's your age dawg??
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StanleyHudson
Stealth
4 months ago
Fun observation: 90% grapeviners are really empathetic and supportive while the other 10% assholes are bothered by their own issues and love to spread hatred.
Focus on the good ones and nurture those connections.
XREEP
Student
4 months ago
Bruhhh
Bittergourd
Stealth
4 months ago
Firstly accept yourself that you are beautiful and handsome..if you will not accept the way you are and provide yourself self love then how can you think anyone else gonna love you.. everything start from self ..start loving caring and appreciating yourself.
And it is very good to be own rather than cheated or being plotted by someone. Accept your handsome male, appreciate your work and keep motivating yourself..follow up self love.it is not easy initially but it is working method I do personally and I have results also .
At right time right person will come to you so before that love yourself and never think about marne n all this life is so precious ,you are gifted by sum of many things which majority people are praying for.. Thanks to God for this life ..
Bro, same state, I understood one thing, If you feel you are not beautiful, try to make yourself look beautiful, work on it bro, you'll get confidence. If you love someone, let them go bro, if they were meant to stay they will stay. And chill bro, you are not alone, world is obviously cruel, it gives beautiful people more options, so whats in your control, becoming more beautiful is in your control, dont stop bro, keep working keep going, but in the process dont forget to enjoy bro, life is short. I assure you, once you work on it and achieve it.
You become how you perceive things. Just stop giving attention to the negative side of life and search of the positive side for example you are still living a better life than 99% of the people who are struggling each and every day be it health issues, financial issues or family issues. What you called loneliness is peace for most of the people.
I didn’t mean to get direct but you need to change your perspective and find good in each and every that comes around. Friends would still be your friend if they don’t call or text every day. They might have things to tackle as well. It’s life and nothing is normal here. It’s just you who need to get the best out of it.
Good luck.
Let’s coronet and talk if u thing it can help.. I can underarm ur pain and have time to listen 👂
Hii @Yui
Loneliness is a real thing, and almost everyone like 99% of the people goes through similar feelings including me.
If you feel overwhelmed with these thoughts, try to not think too much.
Please watch naruto.
Link : https://aniwave.vc/watch/naruto.xx8z/ep-1
You will resonate a lot with naruto. Even if it feels boring, just keep watching and don't stop.
Take a small break from everything, and keep watching.
Sorry bro there are some hard truths which is very scary. You have not yet accepted the working of the world. Leave that, your state and mine is exactly same just I'm not into following routine. I just relax. It is not loneliness for me it is peace. I deliberately don't talk to anyone because I already know everything. There's nothing to talk about our laugh about. Your emotions are the actual culprit. Be emotionless and logical. Requires brain, knowledge but gives the peace.
Do you think most people get it easy, no. Everybody gets their fair share of hardships, contemplate ending life at least one. I wrote my poem - “Some men can’t be seen”. It’s close to my heart, don’t remember it though. But I know it has helped to be where I am now.
Persevere, uplift, you will smile reading your poem a decade later, with all the things you desire today!
Bhai admiyo ka aisa chalta rehta hai. Chalana padta hai. Ye time bhi nikal jayega. Parents se baat karo. Thoda shadi ka socho. Khud ka family hoga to sab sahi ho jayega. Dost banao office me agar sahi log mile toh. Nahi to gym me banao. Darne ka nahi.
The comment section of this post is overwhelming and it feels so good to see that people are this helpful even online but sometimes these people are not same when u meet them in person.
Maybe we need to change that then @yui can have real friends.
Find peace in silence & solitude. No person except your parents can give you that in true sense. All your social relations are just an extension of your wants & desires of having a particular lifestyle, bodily pleasures, or ego. Make peace with inner thoughts.
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